I met a guy a couple weeks ago, whose friend had asked me out. Somehow this guy and I got along better, so we hooked up. (No sex.) He calls me later on and tells me how our conversations were so surreal, etc. We hang out the following weekend and he spends the night at my apartment, except we don't have sex. We don't cuddle either. We just made out.
The thing is, he called me a lot to talk to me about my emotions, etc. and he tries to figure me out. He tells me that I like to screw with people's minds and then asks me "do you think you can mess with mine?"
He thinks I have STDs--because his ex girlfriend had it-- so he won't give me oral, nor will he have sex with me. On the other side, I think he has STDs because his ex had it.
Next thing I hear, he's telling our mutual friend--who he didn't know knew me--about me. He said that he met a cool girl who challenges him, yet he does not know if he can trust me. He calls me because he said it's bothering him that he can't trust me.
2006-10-08 09:22:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't know what's going on. Last time I spoke to him, he said "i'll speak to you later okay."
We haven't seen each other in a week, and I've been on other dates since.
I'm so confused.
We don't have sex as we think the other person has STDs; we don't cuddle, so it's not about body warmth; we don't want relationships as we're getting over long-term ones.
2006-10-08 09:23:45 · update #1
And we're not exactly dating. What is going on? What does this guy want from me?
2006-10-08 09:24:03 · update #2
I know it might sound like BS, but he says that we have a mental connection in that we're both emotionally vulnerable/messed up. I just have no idea what he wants from me. However, he tells me that he's hesitant because he's not sure what I want...
2006-10-08 09:25:58 · update #3
I don't really know; however, it does sound like he has an STD. So, if you do have sexual contact, use protection please.
2006-10-08 09:26:34 · answer #1 · answered by LibraT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful. I met what I thought was a fantastic guy last year who sounds exactly like the kind of guy you have been describing, sadly he turned out to be a conman. I thought the "connection" we had was something special but I was very wrong, and the lies I have discovered about him since have hurt me so badly I don't think I shall ever trust another man again. He could be for real but don't rush things. If this guy has a tattoo on the inside of his wrist - well run for the hills. Trust your instincts at all times.
2006-10-08 16:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by pixiechick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants trust without having to give it.
he's childish. if he wants proof your free of std's then go to your doctor (which you should do anyway) and show him proof. he needs to do the same in return.
i'm sorry but to me it sounds like he's playing games. are you positive he's separated from this other woman or women??
doesn't he or you realize you can also transmit std's by the mouth?? when you said making out, did you kiss??
it sounds like something is definitely not right about him. the part about him you like is that you can't figure him out.
i don't know why he says he can't figure you out because it sounds like you've been pretty straight forward with him. i would move on.
good luck.
2006-10-08 18:33:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably got std's. He's playing you enough, to see if the blame can be put upon you if you 2 happen to sleep together.
Don't do it if you know about the ex girlfriend.
just ignore him and go on other dates.
2006-10-08 16:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like too much headache!!!!! I think it's better if you just let go and forget about him. He might think that you have a mental connection or a spiritual whatever, but when there's no trust, you can't do anything with him.
2006-10-08 16:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by FairyGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try asking him what he wants with this relationship. Be honest
with him about what you feel and think. Maybe he does like you
and is afraid, of how you feel. If you don't ask you will never know.
Good luck !
2006-10-08 16:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but it seems like more work than it's worth. Find a nice normal guy.
2006-10-08 16:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its kind of tough there, but he will learn how to trust you because he knows for sure he does not want the same thing that has happened to him to happen again..take the time, things will heal up.
2006-10-08 16:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The real question is what do you want from us? A medal?
2006-10-08 16:26:15 · answer #9 · answered by frankie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who cares what he wants?? The hell with him.
2006-10-08 16:25:55 · answer #10 · answered by Webballs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋