is it okay for a lady to call a man first,how often should she call him.?

Answer 1

I believe in equality. I think its fine if you call a man, how often though, is another matter. If he likes you, he will be flattered you were keen enough to ring him. I wouldnt be ringing so often as to make a nuicence of yourself because he will just think youre a stalker. I think the first time you ring him you will certainly get the vibes whether he likes you or not. I dont think I would be too forward though. I think my first phone call would be quite casual and say something like. "I thought I would give you a ring to see how your are.....I hope you dont mind? Those few words will tell you if he is interested or if he is not. Just take his responses and decide for yourself. If it is a positive phonecall, maybe you could say..."do you mind if I ring you again, or I could give you my phone number". Dont be too forward or he may feel overwhelmed and is just being nice so he doesnt offend you. Give him an opportunity to be a "player" too. If he says, I would like your phone number, then you could be pretty sure he is interested. If he doesnt ring in a week, maybe you could ring him again and say something like "I was worried about you, is everything OK?" His responses are always the key as to you knowing if he is interested. I would not under any circumstances ring him any more than twice....There could be a good reason why he didnt ring you...he could have lost your phone number...it happens. But it he doesnt ring you after the second phone call then you can be pretty sure everything he said to you was him "just being nice".

Answer 2

By calling him you are saying one of two things; 1) you are desparate or 2) you are desparate for him. These are very different. If he is clingly, then he will want you to call either way, and it doesn't matter. If he is confident and independent, you should only call him if you think that he should feel that 2) is the case, which is only if he's really shown you that he's a catch.

To illustrate point 1) I'm not a needy guy so it kind of freaks me out when a lady that doesn't know me very well starts calling, even if I've called her once or twice before. The last lady that called me a second time without me calling her back, I don't pick up her calls anymore. I recently found out that she has a kid, and sleeps with lots of guys. To illustrate point 2) I've been waiting all week for one woman to call, because I'm wondering whether or not I've earned her persuit. While I have patiently waited out a few evenings, I'm sure I'll call her in the next couple, since she is always very responsive when I invite her out, and particularly shy. Unlike the first lady, I want her to start calling me now that we've had a chance to build rapport.

Answer 3

The way things r now anything goes call as often as you like, what if he likes a woman in control!

Answer 4

Hey, now a days women are proposing to their guys, so I don't really see anything wrong with you calling him first. However, if the answering machine picks up, don't assume he is avoiding you, leave a message, give him a few days, if he doesn't call back, don't call him back, he'll eventually think you gave up, and he'll call you.

Answer 5

Yes it is OK but you have to remember that men and women should share that responsibility. Like you should call him at least every 2 hours and so should he. If he doesn't like calling you then dump him. I would stick with a disrespectful man!

Answer 6

Of course it's ok!! It's the year 2006!

Some guys can be shy, and just don't pick up the phone to call. Their in hopes you do call first so they know your interested.

Go for it. If you exchanged numbers, then it's ok.

Answer 7

never. i've always been successful getting the man I want. u don't call.go do something else but he will call. u have a life.like i just met a cutie he called me yesterday after a great date friday. I did not pickup. i am dying to speak to him.but it just makes it look like you are not so available. its the thrill in the chase.let him wonder about you.see if he if even gives a damn about u calling.just get well groomed and yourself together so when he does call you will be ready.

Answer 8

Its definitely ok for a woman to take annotative & make the 1st call. However, try not to call soooo often:)

Answer 9

EVERY time I have called a man,I was more interested than he was. They will chase you to the ends of the earth if they really want to get in touch with you.

Answer 10

Sure it is... I made the first move... And now I am married to my man... If you see something you like... Go after it... Or you will never know what could have been...