Say that this guy and you hung out 3 times, hooked up twice (no sex though). He spent the night at her place in her bed, just sleeping though, no cuddling/no sex. It's not about body warmth. He called you a lot to talk about emotions, deep intellectual insights. Then talks to your friend--who he doesn't know knows you--about how he met a cool girl who challenges him but he does not know if he trusts her,....and then he tells her to call him later to talk about emotions. She calls him, they talk for a few, and then he says "I'll speak to you later." They haven't hung out in a week.
He always says that she likes screwing with people's minds, and then asks her "do you think you can mess with mine?"
What's going on? They are not dating, not in a relationship, and not even giving each other sex. They both just got out of long-term relationships and do not want relationships. What is going on? How come he leaves everything so up in the air with "speak to you later?"
2006-10-08 09:13:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then he calls her to tell her that what is bothering him is that he feels he can't trust her, but he wants to. He then says "we shouldn't touch each other because you might have STDs (his ex had it) even though HE made all the moves. He initiated the physical stuff every time.
2006-10-08 09:14:26 · update #1
One word: Psycho!
Carpe Diem!
2006-10-08 09:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by afrodyzyak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't talkin' about Emotional Stuff require some sort of trust? I've been here b4,... these days a lot of us people aren't good with these re-read signals. He doesn't have reassurance bout you. He probably didn't dig deep enough to find out str8 out and TALK to U str8. He also probably thinks ur a ho or somethin'. But things aren't always what they seem, aren't they........? This is an insecurity. I think best solution is either to let it figure for itself , give it time, (time will tell),.... or come at the situation or him out and str8 out bout where he stands with wat his thoughts are bout you and set the record str8. You dont always show ur true feelings thru ur actions even if actions speaks louder than words. If its a reassurance thing u both need CLOSURE and VALIDITY here. SOmeone needs to say somethin'. Otherwise,.... Ywhy is he coming 'round u and why u sticking around for him....? wat u both there for....? Find ur own answer aay...
2006-10-08 16:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by thiklikmeyow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is still rather hung up on issues from his last relationship and has a general distrust of potential partners. It's really more his problem than yours. Assuming you've done nothing to damage his trust in you, you can try to explain this to him. But it may not work. Depends on where you want to go with this. Sounds like 'she' isn't satisfied with just friendship. If that is the case, his distrust could cause significant inhibition to a healthy relationship.
2006-10-08 16:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by jft1217 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are both a little mixed up.
Tell him exactly how you feel about him, ask him what you have done to make him not trust you and tell him that you are not his ex-girlfriend. Just be honest and straight-forward.
2006-10-08 16:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing games, dump him.
2006-10-08 16:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay messy leave question mark dude alone,
2006-10-08 16:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by rasheda c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooooooooooooooooooook.
try english next time.
2006-10-08 16:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by E man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell u.
2006-10-08 16:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they are friends hangin out? ask him
2006-10-08 16:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by Hollister Dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?
2006-10-08 16:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by Atheist Eye Candy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋