we don't know if we are suppose to ignore it, or disipline. i've heard that by acknowledging his behavior will reinforce it. i don't want him to do this to other kids or family. i don't want to ignore it then it will look like i'm letting him get away with it. we don't like to say No unless it's something life threatening, so we say Uh-uh. ANY advice would be helpful!!!
2006-10-08 09:03:01 · 8 answers · asked by summer 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The thing is, is he doesn't realize that what hurts him also hurts others. If he knew that biting hurt, he would stop. Bite him back (that's what most doctors recommend and it works for pretty much all kids who bite).
As for the hitting, you need to punish him. It won't reinforce it, it will show him there are consequences to hitting. If he hits someone then grab his arm, look him in the eye, and tell him "no" very firmly. If he does it again, walk over and spank him. Now, it sounds a little hypocritical to hit him for hitting someone else, but that's how it was done in my family. If I hit a sibling, I got my butt swatted. It only took a couple times of being spanked and I stopped hitting. Again, he doesn't realize what hurts others also hurts him. If you spank him, he will realize that and stop the hitting. Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-08 09:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
My neice was about 18mo, she wasn't a biter but she was a hitter... she would take a toy and come up behind another child and crack them over the head... it got so bad no one would let their child around her at all... she was considered a demon... there was no violence in her home either for her to mimick the behavior... this went on for months... we started out mild... 1- telling her NO, taking the toy from her... 2- telling her NO, taking the toy away, and some time out. 3- then telling her NO, taking the toy and taking her to her bed. 4- telling he NO, taking the toy away, then hitting her with it, not hard... but she finally got the message... she was a very hard headed child and we had to stop this behavior... we didn't want to deprive her of play time with others... This was a big problem with the neighborhood mothers... they were beginning to have bad feelings between each other... To me injuring another person is a bad thing and this is not to be taken lightly regardless of the age... it's violence in it's youngest form...
2006-10-08 18:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biting is a common behavior in most toddlers and increases when a child is tired or frustrated. You should never bite back or overreact when it happens. Toddlers like the reaction. You have to teach your child that it is unacceptable behavior. You could give them these steps:
Some steps to take when your child bites include:
Immediately look him in the eye and give him a loud and firm 'NO.' You may also move him to another area for a time out. Let him know that it is never all right to bite another person because it hurts.
Supervise your child closely when he is with other children, so that you can distract him or interrupt any behavior that may lead to biting.
It is important to not overreact and never bite your child back. Biting him back or using physical punishment will just reinforce that it is okay to hurt others.
Give him lots of praise when he controls himself and doesn't bite.
Biting back will only fuel his anger and cause aggression. Ignore all these dumb people that recommend to bite back. They obviously aren't educated on child development.
I studied this in school:
Children's hands are tools for exploring, an extension of the child's natural curiosity. Biting them back sends a powerful negative message. Sensitive parents that were interviewed all agree that the hands should be off-limits for physical punishment. Research supports this idea. Psychologists studied a group of sixteen fourteen-month-olds playing with their mothers. When one group of toddlers tried to bite another child. They received a bite on the hand; the other group of toddlers did not receive this form of physical punishment. In follow-up studies of these children seven months later, the punished babies were found to be less skilled at exploring their environment. Better to separate the child from the object or supervise his exploration and leave little hands unhurt.
2006-10-08 17:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him no-no and move him away from the person he is hitting or biting with one spank to the butt. Repeat if he does so again.
Acknowledging won't reinforce bad behavior but let him know IT IS BAD to do this and he will have a negative reaction each time he does so.
2006-10-11 01:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 months old is old enough to learn that negative behavior comes with negative consequences. When your child bites or hits tell them in plain english that not good behavior and give them a time out. For a child that age just remove them from everyone else and tell them they behaved badly and must have a time out. Only about 1-2 minutes for a child this age the rule of thumb is 1 minute for each year of age. You will be surprised how quickly the child will learn that time out will happen if they do the behavior. I raised 19 children and have 6 grandchildren and I am not yet 50. I really do know what I am talking about.
2006-10-08 16:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by jusme 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
This is life threatening behavior, if he does this to a dog, or a kid who gets an infection from his bite, or a kid who bites back and he gets an infection. Treat it seriously. Biting back will not teach him to stop biting it will teach him that you bite too. Tell him no, remove him if he doesn't stop and explain to him that this is not a way to act around people. Every child has a currency, is your child's currency a toy? If he has a special toy take it away and put it somewhere high that he can not reach like the fridge, say to him you took the toy away because he bit or hit and that behavior has consequences. Be consistent, never let him get away with it and eventually he will stop, let him get away with it one out of 10 times and he learns that every tenth time he can get away with it.
2006-10-08 16:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sara 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Disipline! By ignoring it you're telling him/her that it's ok. Whenever he/she hits or bites tell them no in a tone of voice that tells them you're serious. If you keep using other words for no, they'll get confused. Keep it simple by using one word to mean "stop doing that" and that should be no.
2006-10-08 18:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by Shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discipline your child, not ignore him. You can start put putting him in another room EVERY TIME he does it, and saying NO!!
If that doesn't work, then it's time for a visit from the smack fairy.
2006-10-08 16:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋