My fiance and I are getting married next week, then in November he ships out for basic. I'm really nervous. I know that he will be fine in basic but what happens afterwards? Can my daughter and I move with him? We also have another child on the way in May. I'm just nervous they are going to send him away from us.
Serious answers only please!
2006-10-08 09:03:00 · 6 answers · asked by ash 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
You won't be able to go with him to BCT or his tech schooling after (AIT for Army). You'll be able to go to his graduations and if you're married prior, you'll receive BAH and Separation pay.
Once he gets his permanent duty station, you'll be able to move where he is at the government's expense. It would be best if you let him get the house or place to live and got settled before you joined him. A first duty station is very hectic and he's still learning how things work. Let him get settled, then move where he is. As long as he doesn't use any leave time between now and when they baby is born, he should be able to be there when you have the baby. That's not a given though. Mission always comes first. As far as him being sent away from you, that's possible too. He very well could be sent to Iraq or Afghanistan. Those are generally year tours (Army) with 15 days of R&R about midway through. There's no need to worry though. You can't change what happens. He's chosen his career and you've agreed to marry him, now you'll have to learn to adapt and adjust. It'll be alright, just don't get upset. The more upset and worried you are, the more stress you'll place on him. In BCT, school or deployed, they need as little stress as possible. They have to know that you're strong and will be ok.
Good luck!!
2006-10-08 09:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by HEartstrinGs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok hon this is what happens. When you get married, he fills out tons of paperwork where he gets you and any born children as his dependents enrolled in DEERS. He is now the SPONSOR and you are now the DEPENDENTS. Memorize his social security number. You will need this. GET a power of attorney. Very important as well. Once you are enrolled in Tricare (medical provider) and you will get ID, (these will be needed to get seen by doctors) then you will pretty much be set. Your husband goes to basic and then AIT. AIT is the school where he will learn his MOS (his career) (a cook, supply, medical, mechanic, whatever he chose). He might not be able to call you all the time as he will have a very busy schedule so be strong and remember that a military spouse is one of the hardest jobs there is, but one of the most rewarding as well. You are going to learn to do many things on your own but will be a strong person for doing it. You will spend many birthdays, annyversaries and holidays alone. Get used to it. You will celebrate Christmas in July and it is okay! You will have FSG which stands for Family Support Groups. These are families like yours, usually the Captain is in charge or the highest ranking wife and they get together to hold meetings to give you information about the update of the unit. You might like to go to them or you might not. You will have a chain of command. Use it. Remember that you will always have someone to help. Learn the base where you go and remember you will never be alone. Good luck hon..the armed forces is a great career. it is what you make of it.
2006-10-08 16:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by Ness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BASIC - no
AIT/School - usually no, unless it's a long school (I think 20 weeks or more, but I'm not sure).
First PCS, usually yes, unless it is a remote/hardship tour (ie. Korea). If it is overseas (Germany, Italy, etc), your family will need to complete overseas screening before you will be allowed to go. You may have to remain behind stateside for a bit depending on how close to your due date you are.
If he's deployed, obviosly you can't go with him. Quite frankly, he'll def. be deployed at least once if he's in the army. What MOS did he choose? That may make a difference as to the frequency, although luck of the draw counts abut. My husband's unit in the 82nd deployed three times to Iraq...Mar '03-Feb'04, Dec '04-Mar '05, and Sept '05-Dec '05, but he's airborne artillery so they deploy more often than most. I don't think they've deployed yet this year, but he's in a different unit now (involuntary recruiting).
2006-10-08 17:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by katheek77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once hes done with basic and either a school (navy) or ait army then you can join him at the base he will be stationed at. it wont be easy. ever. its tough. never knowing when they will leave or for how. long. good luck and congrats
2006-10-08 16:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-08 16:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats first. You will beable to join him when he is settled at his first duty station. They will give hime time to come get you and move you.
2006-10-08 18:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by cnkbrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋