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Question

Okay, if you're a guy you might not want to answer this.. unless you're really sweet! =] Anyway, there's this guy I really like but don't know if he likes me. Also one of my really good friends likes him and knows he doesn't like her and she said she'd be so mad if he liked me instead of her. [Now, Back to the Point..] So we went to a haunted house then walked to a restaurant across the street and we were hanging out and stuff and it was really cool. When my friend left I hugged him and the guy I like looked very sad. He secluded himself from the rest of the group and didn't say like anything before I left. What do I do? Should I confront him about it or let him come to me? HELP!

Answer 1

You didn't do anything wrong hugging the other guy (your friend), so you needn't feel guilt. Whether it is better to go to him or let him come to you is going to depend on him, as everybody is different. If it was me, I would carry on being friends with (the guy you like), and if he is interested in pursuing more than friendship, and so are you, thn it will happen. I was in a similar situation with a friend of mine once. She introduced me to her "crush", and he and I hit it off (big time, we ended up living together). I was really worried about it at first, but she was rational, and realized that if he liked me, than he obviously didn't like her (as more than a friend), and so it was, and things between us were fine. If your friend ditches you on account of this guy liking you and not her, than she is clearly not much of a friend. Friends are supposed to wish each other well and happy.

Answer 2

well i have to say this is just...wow. if he likes you he most likely will not come out and say it. [[that's just the way guys are. no offense guys]] so i would confront him. since you hugged a guy friend in front of him and it made him uncomfortable then he probably likes you. especially since he was secluded from the rest of your friends. and what's up with this so called friend? if he likes you she'll be mad? that's not a true friend. the guy doesn't like her so why should she care? and if yall do go out and she gets mad it means she is not now and never was a true friend. but you have a bunch of other friends you can replace her with. just think about it. if you go up to him and he does like you, both of you could be very happy for a long time! just think about it.. sleep on it and make your decision. whatever you do and no matter his response just still be good friends.
good luck babe.
♥

Answer 3

Firstly, ignore the problem with your girlfriend. She'll get over it. Everyone eventually does.

Now, being a guy, I think I can give you a little help. There are two ways this could go. Either he doesn't like you, or he does like you. Given your description, I'm pegging him as a sort of sensitive insecure type. I've been in that territory, and I can tell you from personal experience that guys (the insecure ones) really have trouble asking girls out, and getting things started. It's pretty simple really. We're insecure, and we fear getting hurt if we open ourselves up. So... the simple thing that needs to happen is that he needs to know that it's okay for him to reveal to you that he has feelings for you (assuming he has them). So you somehow need to give this indication to him.

However I'm also going to warn you not to over do it. You need to indicate this in such a way that he knows it's okay to speak up, but don't give away an inch more. If your really over the top crazy about him, then I would NOT suggest you tell him your like him point-blank. If you really want to reel him in you have to keep yourself balanced, letting him know your interested, but not letting him know how much. Generally speaking, once a guy knows you like him, he's got you. I know it sounds a bit like a mind game, but whether we're talking guys or girls, the first partner in a relationship who supplicates looses all leverage. The supplicator is in the dark as to what the partner is feeling with regard to the choice the supplication forces them to make. You tell him you like him, he can reject or accept. And if your ever in that position to choose, you can see how you can quickly loose interest in accepting. The insecure type of guys (or girls) are the ones who usually supplicate first, and their more confident counterparts are the ones in the seat of power and choice. The point is you have to keep it balance between both partnerns. The supplicator paradigm is very unbalanced and ultimately falls apart, if it ever gets off the ground.

But what I'm basically saying here is you want to let him know it's okay for him to speak up, but keep low-key about it.

And I know what other people would say about a completely honest and open relationship. That's fine, but that usually arises from a matured relationship. You can't really get there if the relationship hasn't started off in the first place. Either you understand the way people enter relationships, and learn to utilize it, or you can stay unconcious of it and hope someday that you will randomly enter into a relationship with someone who is just the right match. Unfortunately most people pick the latter because they don't understand the former.

I hope this helps you, and things work out.

Answer 4

First off, if he likes you and that friend is not happy for you, then maybe she is not as good of a friend as she claims to be. One thing about guys, is that we don't always come out saying how we feel, and sometimes that is our down fall. I guess it is because we are scared of what might happen. Give him some time, if he keeps expressing the same emotions towards you and is still scared to take that chance, and if you like him, then you make the first move.

I wish you the best and for him too.

Answer 5

I think that u should hang out again and do the same thing, but this time it would only be your friend that u hugged and the guy u like and if he acts the same way when u huge your friend again ask him if hugging someone else is a problem to him.

Answer 6

ok, first you should talk to your friend and tell her how you feel,cuz guys come a dime a dozen and he'll be gone before you know it and you lost a good friend and put your rep. on the line and let me tell you if your still in school having a bad rep. doesn't help anything unless your the kind of girl who doesn't care about things being said about you

Answer 7

First of all your friend does not sound like a good friend, A real friend would not act that way, they would be happy for you instead of getting mad. 2nd the guy in question, from what you say it sounds like he does not care for you either but don't be shy if you want to know ask him.

Answer 8

Tell him what you said here .. that after the hug he seemed very sad and secluded himself. Ask him if he'd like to talk about it. .. Or, send him a note just saying: "Hi , I enjoyed our time together the other night. I hope we can talk again soon. .. Good Luck! :)

Answer 9

ok from a guys point of view he sounds shy and when you hugged him you either startled him or he doesnt feel the same way. best thing to do is get him alone and ask him how he feels about you and accept his answer even if its not the one you want to hear. and about your friend? she will get over it or walk away. but dont blame yourself. you cant control how others feel or act so dont worry about it.

Answer 10

Well, you have to talk to him or you will never know. Your age group (I'm assuming you are a teenager) is so touchy feely and huggy, you send messages that are not intended. Why did you hug the guy? Why not just say, "Ok, see ya!"