I let an old co-worker move in to my apt. last week and have noticed unsettling things. Before I list them, I haven't collected rent (they're unaware of the rent cycle), and am uncertain how to proceed before collecting.
Smokes inside (my NO rule, against building code)
Clothes/belongings reek of cig smoke(cheap cigs stink more!)
Don't think I've EVER seen/heard shower run(no damp towels anywhere, shower is dry when I look at it)
Needed a lift, their significant other seemed 'bothered' to help ("hey I'm giving them a place to stay!)
Informed me that altercations have occurred(I lived here 1st, I'll probably be here after their gone, why do that?)
Any tips/suggestions/hints, how can I stop this 'snowball' before it becomes an avalanche?
2006-10-08 08:24:15 · 13 answers · asked by Keyser S 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Adding some clarifications;
I was the one who needed a lift
As for 'Nate' telling me to mind my own buisiness, my take is, it's almost winter, windows will end up shut, I don't want stink.
2006-10-08 08:47:52 · update #1
Do not collect rent Do not pass go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cant stress that enough
2006-10-08 08:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go over the rules about not smoking in the building. Tell them to go outside or you will get in trouble and let them know that you do not want that in your home. Then get a newspaper and help them look for places to rent. Take them or offer to take them to look at these places. This will help them get the point that you do not wish to have them stay long. Then tell them that you are sorry, but that they can not stay for more than a month. Tell the person that you wish you could help more, but that is the most that you can do.
2006-10-08 12:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reiterate the rules about smoking, and if they continue to do so, hoof them out.
My frined's mum has a problem lodger who keeps using her towels, and she has been advised to get rid of this man. First take comfort in the fact this isn't the case for you. It doesn't matter about the tenant not showering, as long as their personal hygeine is not beyond reproach. If so, then you have more grounds in which to give this tenant a month or so's notice and get him out.
2006-10-08 09:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, it has already snowballed. You have the roommates from hell and you need to be the one to nip it in the bud. Tell them what you are unhappy w/. Harrange them for their share of not only the rent, but also utilities and food. Not to mention them paying a part of the deposit that you will undoubtably loose b/c of the cigarette problem. Cut them loose. Change the locks.
2006-10-08 12:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not too quick to judge. If your co-work is a female they don't clean. They don't shower. They don't pay rent.
You might be a lucky bastard finding a low life, horny wanna be.
Then again I don't understand the several times you mentioned "they". Get pics.
2006-10-08 08:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set a time limit for this person to live with you. And make it short.. Enforce your boundaries and re-direct him/her if they inappropriately start expecting you to pick up the "slack" in their life (needing a lift, etc.). This person sounds very needy and dependent...Beware!
2006-10-08 08:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't judged fast enough !
Tell this elephant-a - - look-a-like, to move out NOW, or be
sentenced to jail, and watch reruns of, The View, and Monk !
2006-10-08 08:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by Swamp T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to them like an adult. Let he/she know that you don't want smoking in the apartment. As far as showering goes, mind your own business.
2006-10-08 08:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by Nate 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Change the locks
2006-10-08 08:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nice of you to take them in.....I myself have had many lousy room mates....wont begin to tell you the story's......recommend that you let them know the situation is temporary...and ask them if they need help looking for other accommodations....tons of ways to give em hints......peace
2006-10-08 08:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by sltydgx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you are not too quick to judge,your rules are your rules,if they can`t follow them, then they should look for another place
2006-10-08 08:42:08 · answer #11 · answered by krusty_blue_spaz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋