Everytime in the last couple of months i get more and more turned on by my gf everytime im with her.And many times even when she's not there.Sumtimes ive to hide my...well u know the hard mass from her.Now she's 18 and im 19.I dunno how to bring out this topic to her...coz i luv her and i dont want this to end with her thinkin im some pervert.i want this to continue.So shud i ask her to go for it as in u knwo the next step or shud i just keep quite?It's not that she's totally religious or anyhting it's just that everytime i picture even bringing out the topic i picture the worst.
2006-10-08 08:01:38 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is so cute. Tell her about how she makes you feel if she isn't ready she'll atleast be flattered. It is nice to know we turn on our man. It will make her feel sexy and attractive. But don't come on too strong at first because she may take it as you are telling her this just to bag her. Be gentle and take your time and the first time when you are both ready will be something you'll always remember!
2006-10-08 08:07:05 · answer #1 · answered by Sandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been dating for two years, then this topic should have been brought up at least a few times already. If not, then casually bring it up to her. Ask her what her thoughts are on it in general and then get more specific--like in regards to the two of you. There is nothing wrong with asking questions like that, and if at any time you feel like things may take a turn for the worst during one of these conversations, then just stop and bring it up another time. It may take a little while to get the answer you're looking for, but the wait is worth it if you really love her.
2006-10-08 08:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by missmarymack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although the idea that you are 19 and she is 18 and you have been dating for 2 years and not made the move to have sex I think that is sweet. If you are as shy as you claim to be do not hide your Physical response to her from her. Let her seewhat she does to you While you are alone with her Do not expose yourself , see if she mentions the topic first after 2 years you should atleast feel comfortable talking. the worst thing that she could say is that she is not ready yet or that she wants to marry first then son you have to decide how muchyou actually do love and want her. Good Luck
2006-10-08 08:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by Bobbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU need to just let go!! Apparently she is having the same problem you are. BELIEVE me, she has to be getting turned on as much as you. You two are so good holding off this long. Just try to make time or go somewhere to be alone with her and don't hold back. Of course DON'T be too aggressive, but enjoy her company AND start kissing her neck softly and whisper quietly in her ear, tell her HOW she makes you feel. TELL her YOU can't take it any more!!!..<--just like that! (that drives women crazy...especially the first time) it will lead to where you want it. EVERYTHING happens when it is supposed to, just be patient and don't push it, especially don't try to pressure her, if she is NOT ready Wait. The more you wait, the more special it will be! GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-08 08:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by ..Luna.. *.. ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had been with my first boyfriend for nearly a year and he was shy like you. i was dying to have sex with him but i didn't know how to bring it up. Maybe your girlfriend is the same and waiting for you to make the first move. Maybe you could both have a couple of drinks but not too many (alcohol can be great in these situations to stop a bit of embarassment as long as you don't have too much) and approach it from the love angle. Say you want to be close to her because you love her so much, etc, Good luck, you sound like a lovely boy and she is a lucky girl.
2006-10-08 08:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by Caroline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring up the subject at a time when she knows you can't possibly be trying to get her to have sex with you. For instance, after dinner in a restaurant. Just come out and let her know that you have been having sexual thoughts about her and would like to know if she's been having the same. You can even let her know that you aren't pressing for sex...just expressing your desires to her and that you ARE interested in stepping the relationship into that direction.
2006-10-08 08:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by tjjone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, if you're happy with your relationship and you love her, you could talk to her about it, or just let it be. The topic of sex has never come up in your relationship? Ask her what she thinks of sex before marriage... Even if she's not really religious she could be waiting until marriage or until she meets the person she wants to marry.
I think it's nice that you guys have an old-fashioned relationship. Too many people jump into sex too quickly...
2006-10-08 08:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by spanish kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after 2 years with someone then chances are you know how they react to certain things - it is important in a relationship to be able to talk about issues because what is so great is that you are comfortable enough someone to not be shy -
if you have not ventured anywhere sexualy in 2 years and she has never brought it up - and you dont know what shes thinking of - ask her - start a convosation - you dont ahve to be open and say something like you want to have sex - just open a convosation find out how she feels - if she feels ready to move further with you - if you are both comfortable and trust eachother enough then it wont come out wrong because 2 years with someone is enough to know they are not just a big pervert.
2006-10-08 08:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by abaz_88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yaeh baby, u may be pleasantly surprised my friend
she knows yer shy and she is comfortable
you are not comforatable, you can't lay on yer front
u must go to an acting/drama class improve tryout
then out of character, tastfully approach yer girl and woo her for 'square' one
yes, be a hero and plan the whole day
letter from secret admirer
appear early dressed to the nines
take 'er on a picnic
read her some poetry
put a braid in her
put a kiss on her head if u can't face the music
2006-10-08 08:18:41 · answer #9 · answered by tutorisland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because, you really have no idea what you are doing. Like me, thinking my mom didn't notice the smell of pot on me. Me, mixing up lust for love. Love is gentle, kind, and doesn't not ask for anything. Be the best of friends. Smile and have fun. You are going to grow up one day and then take account of your life up to the present. And you will see the mistakes and misconceptions you had. We all do and did. Just ask someone over 30.
2006-10-08 08:06:10 · answer #10 · answered by TCFKAYM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋