well what should i do? things have been getting bad and also we've done thigns that ive never done with any other guys not sex but close and it seems lk he alwayz to busy to come see or even talk to me...im so confused but when im with him im so happy and everything is going great but when hes gona all hell breaks loose we fight he alwayz says i lvoe u after a fight but i just dont wanna say it back
i need some serious help with this problem someone help me
2006-10-08 07:51:19 · 11 answers · asked by spurs206 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust me, as a woman who's been there and done that, it is really hard for me to believe that you are truly in love after only two months. I think "I like you alot" and "I lust you" are probably what the two of you should have said. The word "love" is so misused. Sorry to say it, but it's true.
Here is the difference between like/lust and love. When you love someone you feel comfortable and trust them when you're not together, yes you enjoy being with them and want to be with them, but you're ok when he's out with the guys and he's fine when you're out with your g/f's. You don't change your hobbies and interests to accomadate eachother. You love eachother as you are and don't expect the other to change.
Figthing is a sign that your relationship is not on track. Maybe he's backing off because you may have started to act different, or he thinks you did. This happens all the time. Girls (not women) think that sharing "I love you's" is an instant and immediate contract that the two of you are together all of the time. Trust me men never think as much about their women, as women think about their men. As women we really have a tendancy to over analyze things.
First, you need to talk to him and tell him that you both need to take a step backwards and to re-evaluate what you said. You are moving way too fast. If he can't give you that time, then he is the wrong guy. Second, back off and give the guy some space. True love takes time and nurturing, and I'm sorry to say that 2 months may seem long to you now, but it's not. It's a bleep in comparison of what a true relationship is. I'll bet in 20 years you don't even remember each other's names. Oh and what ever you do "do not have sex!" - it doesn't fix anything, nor does it make your relationship stronger. Good luck, and remember to be strong for yourself.
2006-10-08 08:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by artist2213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have only been dating 2 months, you don't really know him in a relationship, this is way to early to say I LOVE YOU. You may love the person that you know at this point. It is okay to experiment, however, do not let it go too far. Since he does not have enough time for you at this point, you need to talk about doing away with the dating relationship all together. Maybe he thinks everything is moving way to fast and he is staying away so that he can get his thoughts together again. Everyone wants to be loved by someone special, however, you should not rush this. Good luck with all of your decisions. Maybe you two should talk about this problem that you both have with each other. Either on the phone or in person. In person would be much better, facial expressions tell everything.
2006-10-08 07:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by pits_me1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him! He probably only says I love you b/c that makes it seems okay. If you said I love you after two months I would really consdier If you ment those words. Can you see yourself w/out him? When he is gone do you really miss him or do u miss the confort of thinking that u do. You may just not want to break up b/c you are confortable around him
2006-10-08 07:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THOSE THREE WORDS WERE SAID PREMATURELY AND THAT HE MAY FEEL THAT SINCE YOU SAID THAT YOU LOVE HIM THAT HE CAN GET OVER ON YOU AND THAT YOU WILL BASICALLY DO ANYTHING AND/OR ACCEPT ANYTHING FROM HIM. YOU HAVE TO NOW LET HIM KNOW THAT EVEN THOUGH YOU HAVE STRONG FEELINGS FOR HIM THAT YOU ARE NOT A DOORMAT. YOU CAN LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU SAID I LOVE YOU TOO SOON AND THAT IN FACT YOU REALLY DO NOT LOVE HIM YOU JUST LIKE HIM ALOT BUT THAT YOU ARE LOSING FEELINGS BECAUSE THE RELATIONSHIP IS NOT GOING IN THE DIRECTION YOU WANT IT TO GO AND THAT YOU MAY LEAVE HIM SOON IF THINGS DO NOT CHANGE. SIMPLY...
2006-10-08 07:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
relationships fail half the time
even superduoper ones fail after years
if the beginning is rocky
it is a sign of things to come
bail sooner than later
this also works if you want 'em to show more interest
i wouldn't give 'em the time of day if he started showing more
after the fact
2006-10-08 07:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by tutorisland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very explosive relationship. It is not healthy. This is not love. You both need to be apart from each other. Move on with your life, for your own sanity.Learn to love yourself. and stop being so hard on yourself, leave him, please, learn to have some fun.
2006-10-08 07:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he loves you. Try and and link his answer to what he is doing now. And when he does answer, look athis body language. Every detail counts.
2006-10-08 07:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya'll seem to have takin things too fast. Give him some space and see how things go, and another thing you should never say i luv you if you don't feel it.
2006-10-08 07:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should try to learn and communicate more with your boyfreind or you might end up losing him. Good Luck
2006-10-08 07:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very early in the relationship. Please dont have sex with him thinking it will make everything better, it wont. maybe he just isnt ready to make a committment just yet
2006-10-08 07:54:09 · answer #10 · answered by sexy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋