she broke up with me 6 months ago and she started dating this guy right after . . im talking like a week after . . but anyways i tried to get her back the first 2 months then i went NC since the middle of june. . .she has called or texted or left me a voicemail like 10-15 times since then and i havent answered or contacted her back. . .she just recently got into an official relationship with this guys and i noticed she tried to get ahold of me the day they started going out . . . she calls about once every 1,2,3 weeks and she called me drunk last weekend 3 times , 2 texts and 1 voicemail in 1 night and she said she doesnt understand why we cant be friends. . .even though ive told her atleast 20 times that i cant. . . after we broke up she insisted we were going to get back together sometime . . . and she also is the type of person that cant stand to be alone and always has to have somebody. . . if she is completely happy and everything then why does she try to call me
2006-10-08 07:39:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also we were together 2 1/2 years . . . when she started dating him she even admitted it was just because he was there and that she cant stand to be alone . . i just dont understand why is she calling me all of the time like this just to be friends when she knows we cant because ive told her 100 times. . does she want something else? also what i really want to know is its been 4 months since ive talked to her and she keeps calling . . . .if she just wanted to be friends wouldnt she get the clue by now that i cant b/c the way things ended . .and we broke up for no reason at all . . she said she wanted to date around . . . . but she has been with the same person . . .i guess i just want to know what she wants . . i know what i have to do . . .but i really still love her . . . but i want to know what she wants because im not gonna contact her unless i know for sure what she wants so i dont get hurt again
2006-10-08 07:39:39 · update #1
There are some old songs about "you keep me hanging on." There are girls who are so afraid of being alone with themselves that they need two or three men devoted to them in order to avoid having to be alone at all. If they are reasonably honest, they let each one know about the others. But they are not always reasonably honest, particularly if the men have made it clear they would not accept sharing her attention. It's a neurosis to be so afraid of having no one that you mess up the relationships that you do have. The best thing is to consistently tell her that she has to stop imagining you will get back with her, because you have no desire to do so. Sometimes the kindest thing is to be quite blunt. Get it over with.
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2006-10-08 14:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by mihai m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as a pain in the butt as this is... I would change your cell phone #... She figures if she keeps calling you that it will prevent you from moving on...She might also think that if she calls you all the time if would scare off other potential girls your trying to get with.. she doesn't want you to forget about her and since your not talking to her it is driving her crazy.. I don't think it's a good idea to be friends with an ex..
2006-10-08 15:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by xcura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run away- shes stalking u. seriously though, girls like to mess w/ peoples lives. she is probably trying to have both u and the other guy at the same time. she will just string u along until she figures out that she rele doesn't like iether of u and she likes guy #3 (who hasn't even entered the picture yet)
my advice- find a different girl who will love u for u and for everything u have to offer
2006-10-08 14:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by neverland22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently she's not happy and if she has time to send you messages, he's not around no more than you were. Stand your ground if you are trully tried of being hurt. This might sound harsh, but if you have any way of blocking out her number(s) do that.
2006-10-08 14:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex sounds mentally ill. She sounds like a "co-dependent" type.
If you don't completely break from this woman... she will keep you upset and prevent you from moving on to a healthy, loving relationship with someone else.
Find no time for her.
2006-10-08 14:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from her. She will only hurt you! Some people never want what they can have, etc. She just wants you because you are not with her. You will only go back to her to get dumped on again! If she worth that?
2006-10-08 14:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by sibelover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is using this guy to make you jealous...maybe she wants you back. It sounds like she's desperate actually, especially if she's calling you all the time and making it known to you that shes dating someone else also. She just wants to see your reaction and if you are jealous. Don't fall for it, unless you want her back too.
2006-10-08 14:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by shortee807 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants to keep you interested in case her other bf cheats
2006-10-08 14:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋