I am all for mother nature, i have children of my own. However i don't expect to see mother's breast feeding children in a restuarant, surely they know when the child is due it's next feed, and if the child requires more food at a unexpected moment (it doe's happen) then surely it would be just courteous to ask someone if their is somewhere private they could feed their child!!
Very offputting i can tell you
Doe's anyone agree with me?
All replies welcome, i am sure their will be some sick jokes amongst them...........
2006-10-08 07:37:15 · 68 answers · asked by classychick 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
To; SundaeG1r, North, Carobst, and anyone else that thinks i am in human. I DID BREASTFEED MY CHILDREN, and the lady in question in the restaurant did not put a blanket over the baby. Very very offence. You are entitled to your opinion and i am entitled to mine.
Freedom of speech!!!!!
2006-10-08 07:58:51 · update #1
If the baby is hungry you gotta feed them. Just make sure you have a blanet to cover up with.
2006-10-08 07:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by BAnne 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think I am right in saying that a child will not breastfeed if the mother is in the process of eating. There is, therefore, no point in sitting at table if one is breastfeeding and it would be more discreet to go elsewhere if the infant simply won't settle for anything less than a feed. If there is no alternative place to do it, then the breastfeeding should take place with utter discretion so that the breast is not exposed to anyone while the feed is in progess. There are ways of doing this!
2006-10-08 12:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by Doethineb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We eat in public places so why shouldn't a baby. The fact that bottle feeding in public is seen as acceptable and breastfeeding isn't is just one example of what is wrong with this country. I breastfed both my children and the majority of the time I did this in private, due more to my own shyness than anything else. But when they need feeding they need feeding it's as simple as that.
I sat and breastfed in the middle of trafalgar square during a daytrip to London as I did not know of anywhere else to go. Most people are so discreet that you can't even tell what they are doing. Yes I do agree that someone lopping their boob out in the middle of a restaurant would be slightly offputting but I have never seen anyone do this.
Fear of embarassment of being an outcast is a big reason why many women, particularly younger ones choose to bottle feed. It is a very lonely thing to go to a party or on a day out, only to have to spend the majority of your time sat in a cubicle somewhere because your baby is having a growth spurt and won't stop feeding.
The more people learn to accept breastfeeding in public the more people will choose this method of feeding and the healthier our future generations will be. After all, excuse the cliche, but breastfeeding is the most natural thing in the world, why shouldn't we welcome it.
2006-10-08 07:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
As so many people are keen to point out - its one of the most natural things in the world, but there again so is making love or going to the toilet and you wouldnt do either of these in a store or the middle of a restaurant would you. Basically it comes down to having courtesy for others which many people dont have any more. The decent thing to do is go ahead and feed the baby but do so discreetly by moving to a quiet area or covering up with a blanket - that way everyone can be happy.
2006-10-08 08:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to say this is such a loaded question. Personally, I would not want a woman to whip her breast out and breastfeed in front of me, but I am not embarrased by it. A co-worker was just complaining about this the other day. Apparently, HE was very embarrassed. I heard of a woman being told something about breast feeding on a public bus. The driver told her it was not allowed. So she told all her lactating friends and they all went to the same place where the guy had told her something and had a group breast feeding event. I am sure the man who told her something must have keeled over in embarassement. I think it is just funny that they would do that.
2006-10-08 12:39:38 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surely you should look at why you feel so uncomfortable at such a natural thing. I've never fed my children in public - fed them in toilets, which I've now come to realise is disgusting.
It's not offputting at all. In our society, bare breasts are flaunted everywhere - even in newspapers, on the beach, on tv. And yet, why are people so offended when a mother feeds her baby?
If you are offended, realise the problem is yours and look away. A baby's comfort is more important than the weird way our oppressed minds think. Put your narrow mindedness behind you. Oh, and by the way, you can't compare breastfeeding to sex or urinating in public. The only way you can compare with that is by changing the baby's dirty nappy at the table. And then yes, I would find that extremely offensive.
2006-10-08 09:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am very pro breastfeeding and find it shocking that people are offended by mothers breastfeeding in public, I am currently breastfeeding my 6 month old son and I strongly believe I have the right to feed him where ever women can whip out a bottle of chemically enhanced cow milk and feed there babies. I find it unbelievable that people have no problem opening the newspaper and seeing a topless women but seeing women do what nature intended is somehow offensive. It is not the act of breastfeeding in public that needs to be stopped it is the way people view breasts, breasts at the end of the day are balls of fat designed for us to feed our babies. I would never even consider stuffing a bottle of formula in my childs body. I do however always ask people if they mind if i feed and if i sense uncomfortableness i go off somewhere, I do cover myself with a blanket. Strangely enough it is usually women who find breastfeeding more offensive then men.
2006-10-08 08:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by rachel 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes! It's economical, our parents were breast fed and depending on your age you were too. It's healthier for the baby too. It doesn't bother me much as long as the Mother is discreat about it.
I am not turned on by other women's breasts and my man is respectful enough not to stare.
A resturant is not the best place but in that case I would speak to the management and then you can probably have the waiter offer the mother a private place to sit and nurse the baby. Most of the time the mom is probably just trying to get a fussy child to calm down and she's not thinking about anything or anyone else.
2006-10-08 07:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by ☺Inquisitive 1☺ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree descrete breat feedin is an admirble chore lol if u see a woman wif a blanket coverin u know wat they are doin wifout havin to see it in all its glory i strongly agree wif breast is best i neva did though my daughter wouldnt take it but if i had i would hav fed in public but in a descrete area or way and i agree ur intiteled to ur opinion as am i or anyone else its wen a mother has a blatent disregard for others around ur right about the timmings a tuned in mother and a rutine followin baby should b able to anticipate wen a baby is due a feed but if as u say they r caught off gaurd tehn to cover wif a blanket of even the top they r wearin so ppl cannot see i think the problem is actually seein the breast more than anything coz its not normal practice to flash that area in public im plesed to hear thought that u do think a baby should b fed out and about and not hav to scurry away in to a baby changin room coz there not always the most pleasent of places turnin away from where ppl can see and coverin is enough we sholdnt treat breast feedin mothers as leapors but they should respect ppl dont want to see there boobs lol
2006-10-08 08:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by hayz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't object to it, what I do object to is the fact a lot of these mothers just sit down at a table in a cafe and automatically breast feed without asking the people on that table if they object, those sort have the nerve to play god with other peoples feelings and speak very rudely to people when others do object, I think breast feeding in toilets is disgusting, if mothers must breast feed away from the comfort of their home then maybe a nice little area in shops, stores and cafes/restaurants could be in place for them to do that in comfort and without any ones objections.
2006-10-08 12:53:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mothers that breast feed wear dresses that button down the front. I DO NOT expect the mother to leave the table to go sit in a dirty restroom or back room to feed her baby. This is very selfish of anyone to expect.
However the mother can feed her baby very discreetly with a burp cloth covering her breast and continue doing what ever she was doing.
I breast fed my children, I usually left the room, that was 38 years ago,
I would never do that again. Get over it.
2006-10-08 07:45:00 · answer #11 · answered by Rhonda 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋