afraid God is going to punish her for being so contemptuous of other people. When I've asked her why she has to be so contemptuous of others, she gets defensive and angry. I am in my 40's and this trait in her character still eats at me. She doesn't accept criticism well and I know she is not going to change as she is 70 yrs.old and has been this way for as long as I can remember. Do you have any advice as to how not to let this irritate me as much as it does?
2006-10-08 07:34:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If she has been this way that long just pray for her. She has to be one of those people that putting people down makes them feel better about themselves. It is due to an inferiority complex. Find ways to make her feel good about herself and that might help. I am married to one of those, so I know how irritating it can get!
2006-10-08 07:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by sibelover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has faults in their personalities that are less than perfect. I'm sure that your mom has so manny more good qualities than that one bad one. She is obviously a caring person (or else she would not have become a mother and raised a good christian girl) and I'm sure that thre are many more redeeming qualities in her character. She will ask God for forgiveness in her own time and it will be God's job to sort out the right from the wrong in her life. You just focus on being a good, supportive daughter for her here in the time she has left with you.
2006-10-08 15:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, mom is never going to change, the only person, that you can change is yourself, that is a fact. Mom's problem goes back to childhood, or growing up. Remember Mom will be mom. You keep her in your prays, and you ask God to forgive her. Don;t let it bother you so much, she does not know any better. you just do not take it to heart, just say Mom, give her a break, or mom don't be so hard on them. and leave it at that! In other words look at it in a different prospective!
2006-10-08 14:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right...she's not going to change. You will be the one who has to change how you deal with her if you want to have a relationship with her.
You know that she doesn't accept criticism, so don't criticize. If she has mean things to say about people, let it roll off your back and don't give her anything she can argue about.
She's your mother and she has probably been this way all of your life. You just have to love her for who she is...flaws and all.
2006-10-08 14:39:44 · answer #4 · answered by sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't going to change her behavior. She's 70 and very set in her ways. You can be less accepting personally of her actions and judgments though. Take them less seriously than you do and if she sees that you don't care about her criticism, then she may slow down or stop.
2006-10-08 15:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by tjjone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom is the same way and I don't like it either. But like you said they are not going to change. Just remember God is very forgiving. I can't spend a lot of time around my mom, so that is all I can suggest for you.
2006-10-08 14:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow sounds like my mother. I Stopped talking to my mom because there no point in getting screamed at. Sorry to say this to you but if your mother has not changed by now she'll never change
2006-10-08 14:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by brian t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are in your 40's chances are your mom is over sixties then it's very difficult to change her at this point.. when she starts being critical of others dont entertain the conversation... change the topic.
2006-10-08 14:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by ARELY G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may suffer from depression. Would she go to a doctor for an evalution?
2006-10-08 14:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by lucy02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to pray for her and ask God to change any characters in her that are not pleasing to Him.Ask him to use you because you really want to help her yourself. this will give you peace.
2006-10-08 14:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by gil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋