I've been in a uncommitted relationship for the past 10 months. I knew that he wasn't mine because their wasn't a commitment, but I got caught up, and wanted to make him mine. He wasn't ready for this though, so we continued our friendship until I got hurt. I catered to him like he was my man, when all along their was several other girls. He went from calling me 24/7 to not calling at all. I want to let him know how he hurt me. Is this a good idea or should I just let it go?
2006-10-08 07:09:13 · 12 answers · asked by Charlies_Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It will take some time, but you will stop hurting. If he also had other women, he is not worth your time. There are many great men out there.
2006-10-08 07:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by Fleur de Lis 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is pretty typical. The girl wants a commitment but the guy just finds it convenient. The reason he went from calling 24/7 to not at all is because he saw you getting attached. It's not that he's wasn't ready. It's that he didn't want to. Sorry, but that is the truth.
You should let it go, and let him go. Only time can heal the heart. He doesn't need a stalker and you don't need to waste your time on something that is not going to work out.
2006-10-08 14:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by hp one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all need closure, but the best advice would be to let it go. The guy knows he's hurt you - and obviously doesn't care - in his pants, anyway.
Go out with your friends, family, etc. Don't stay home and get more depressed. Have a party - or get a group together to go out for a fun evening.
You can take a class in something that interests you, or start a new hobby that will bring you satisfaction. DO NOT just "settle" for the first guy who comes along - that really does not help.
2006-10-08 14:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bow out gracefully, don't give him the time of day. You have wasted enough time and energy on him. Learn from this experience, and move on. You have to be a bigger person, and want more for yourself, so brush yourself off, and start all over again (smile) The next time have a friend, for a long time, so you can get to know him. So do not be broken hearted no more, move on with your life, waste no more tears on him, say good by to bad rubbish!
2006-10-08 14:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not care, but if you need to tell him to make yourself feel better then do it. Don't expect anything in return, that just leads to deeper wounds. Know that your worth being committed to and don't ever let anyone walk all over you, no matter what type of relationship it is. You will get through this, spend time with people who care about you and keep your head up!! Best of luck!!!
2006-10-08 14:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by pink 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you apart pain. I hate love.”
Neil Gaiman
you'll feel better soon, hang in there.
melissa
2006-10-08 14:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by melissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dumped get over it, next time give him what he needs, more oral anal bdsm group and outdoor stuff..and less of what he dont need, whining and complaining and clinging..
So what if he kept a stable of you, at least he was still in your life.. watch the weight and learn to shut up..and of course submit to a mans demands and you just MIGHT have a future..
DO NOT LISTED TO THE RELIGIOUS NUTTERS ON HERE XX
GOD BLESS YOU
2006-10-08 14:14:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let it go, then take a trip to the beaches in Mexico, smoke a good one, kick back and I promise it’s not going to take long and you’ll be mostly recovered and not long after that before your looking into your next opportunity.
2006-10-08 14:15:29 · answer #8 · answered by namvet68 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let it go. he was a player and he was using you. you can do alot better than that. you sound like a beautiful person with a caring heart but it was wasted on him. ignore him and find someone better it wouldnt be very hard for you trust me.
2006-10-08 14:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do both, tell him how much he hurt you, then leave the guy, if he comes crawling back...don't fall for it...it an act
2006-10-08 14:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by WW2 Dude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋