Just got dumped again and getting rejected a lot so a few nice mates gently said i should drop my standards, i have no problem with that and am thinking about dating a new girl but Not sure im going to fall in love in fact i know im not! Thats because she is not not what i really want but then again unless i drop my standards i wont find anyone. Its avicious circle, anyone else have the same problem out there??? Help cos im really struggling to see how I can drop my standard aand love someone, even if i do wont i alaways be looking fow what i cant get. Thanks everyone
2006-10-08 07:05:17 · 20 answers · asked by Charlie N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nobody should drop their standards so dont do it..dont listen to your mates. Stop looking for a girlfriend because then you will find one..you must be giving off desperation vibes that are driving all the better ladies away. Act cool and uninterested and they will all come running.
2006-10-08 08:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think you should ever compromise your morals or beliefs. Not sure what your standards are though. Are they superficial, like looks? If so, u may have to compromise. But if it's about something you strongly believe in then NO do not compromise. You will find someone that u can work well with and even fall in love with. Not everyone will agree with you on everything though. There will be things about a person that you don't necessarily care for no matter who you date. No one is perfect!! Good luck!!!!!!
2006-10-08 14:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U never have to "drop" your standards. Quit looking so hard and the "right"one will find YOU. If you drop your standards, your going to be in a situation you don't like anyway and will be looking for a way out yourself. Let the love of your life find you... She will!
2006-10-08 14:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by sadie13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you can drop your standards in the hope of falling in love since in your head you will know that this person is not good enough for you (by your own definition). Wait it out and perhaps a girl who you feel is up to you will come along... dont hurt another person just because you dont want to be alone... that isnt fair to either of you
2006-10-08 14:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by hippiemommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER compromise what you want unless your expectations are unrealistic completely. The way I see it, you are compatable with millions of people and only one of those people are your one and only. Imagine if you compromise what you want, get married, and 5 years later meet a woman that has every quality you have dreamed of but she has no intrest in you because you are already promised to another? You need more patience. It's fine to date people you don;t feel fit your exact criteria, but if you dont feel they are perfect for you, don't get serious. By lowering your standards you are only setting yourself for disappointments and failure. It's also not fair to the woman you are with to be with her and love her completely. Just relax, stop looking so hard and eventually you will find what you are looking for and will be thankful that you didnt compromise.
2006-10-08 14:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for some really F-ugly chicks one or two nights in a row. After that bad wont be as bad. Hence, your standards will drop.
2006-10-08 14:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by Pyp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, just go out, have fun and quit judging everyone you meet. Who knows, you might have a good time, meet some nice new friends that have other nice friends that you might get to meet and you might find what you're looking for. If not, you'll still have a good time.
2006-10-08 14:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by M00ND0CT0R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you didn't post a picture of yourself. It must be hell going through life being that damned good looking and stuck on yourself that you should possibly think of lowering your standards for a woman. Phew, I see why you keep getting dumped!
2006-10-08 14:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by tko43078 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont drop your standards, you won't be happy if you just settle. Take you time and you will find the right person. You deserve more then settling. Good luck!!!
2006-10-08 14:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by Chi_Indy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best advice is to stop looking so hard and just let it happen. Date whomever you want to and when the 'girl of your dreams' lands in your lap (so to speak), you both will know right away that everything is right with the world and your love will blossom.
2006-10-08 14:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋