I've known this guy on and off for 3 years. We started hooking up 2-3 months ago, and became bf/gf. It just didn't really work out, but we never officially broke up. We didn't talk for a couple weeks, then i bumped into him, he had lost his phone and didn't have my number to call. He called the next day, i went over, and things were pretty different between us. We, you know, did it, but i didn't really feel like just hanging out, and he seemed to be occupied with his plans for that night. When i stop to think about it, i feel really bad that it's come to this after everything we shared, but i don't want to stop being friends with him, and he's a good booty call in the mean time. Do you think it could possibly work, or am i setting myself up for a really big heartbreak? Have you ever done this?
2006-10-08 06:59:31 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, keep in mind, i'm using him for sex too
2006-10-08 07:03:22 · update #1
It sounds to me like you like to have sex with him.If you're just in for sex than you can't be setting yourself up for a heart break.But if you feel deep down inside that you care for him you are going to get hurt.
2006-10-08 07:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by mike j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be using the man for sex but what ain't clear is whether or not you still like him. If you still have feelings for him and find yourself deep down in side havin sex with him n all because you hope that one day you 2 may be together again then you should stop. If you don't then you will most definitely be setting yourself up for some major heartbreak.
As for the bootie call thing, yeah the sex may be great n all but if you wanna keep him as a friend you need to stop the booty call. Take a brake from him. you can talk on the phone n all but no more sex...n then after a while when you are more calm and have lost dat urge to rock the boots with him, then possibly you can hang out again. Just remember to stay grounded n not go back to havin sex with him ya kno:?
If the 2 of you survive this time period of just talking then you have a true friend. If it doesn't then well.., unfortunately you do not have a true friend....
I hope this helps best of luck and I am sure it is obvious but be safe with what you do..last thing you will need is a baby up in the mix to make things even more complicated!!
2006-10-08 08:17:46 · answer #2 · answered by shykaliguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh yes I've done this. And at the end it sucked, you know why? B/c I got cheated out of a 'real' boyfriend and whenever he found a 'real' girlfriend, the booty stopped. And it hurt bad. Right now he has all the benefits of a girlfriend with out having to actually have one. Just think of it like this.... Say your with a guy and he's buying you everything you could ever want and he gives you his credit card and you can have anything, but you don't have to show him to your friends or family b/c he's ugly or short or something so when he asks you to be his girl, you're like why should I be his girl, he's already buying me all of this stuff and I don't even have to do anything. So maybe that will shine some light into your life.
It sucks b/c you still love him but he has no love or respect for you whatsoever, or else he WOULD be with you. AND YOU DESERVE A GREAT BOYFRIEND!
2006-10-08 07:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by DiG iT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definetly setting yourself up. It didn't work out right now, so you should be looking for a new boyfriend. HE'S YOUR EX FOR A REASON, GIRL! Stop, and reconsider your question.
2006-10-08 07:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by Shanann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as both of you understand the ground rules... and he isn't seeing anyone (I'm assuming you aren't either), it might be okay, just as a physical release for both of you with someone you know and trust. Sometimes one or the other starts to develop feelings, though, so be careful.
2006-10-08 07:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's always more to a relationship than just the physical. if you're not gonna be getting one part of it, then you shouldn't be giving the other. you should wait until you find a person that you are totally comfortable with and enjoy spending time with.
2006-10-08 07:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just accept it for what it is. Friends with benefits. It won't ever be more than that. If you can live with that, then keep doing it. If now, stop.
2006-10-08 07:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by queenblafalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your going to get hurt in the end.. Men know how to separate sex and relationship better than woman do.. your thinking on emotions rather than just the physical your going to get caught up its not worth continuing if you can keep it separate.
It this point your not even friends your just someone he knows or tried to get to know on a personal level.. true friends can handle anything and learn from mistakes
2006-10-08 07:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is your question : "Should I stop sleeping with my ex."
Look at that really hard.... anything stick out? "EX" thats the whole reason you should stop he is your ex not your bf >.>
2006-10-08 07:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by Idiotman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-02 04:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋