I want to be more confident. Any confident people out there?

Question

Any confident people out there? Please give me advice. I'm rather shy, but i am trying to be a more confident person. Usually confident people talk a lot and people dislike them and think they're arrogant.

I didn't want to be thought as being proud, arrogant or a b*tch. How can i be confident without being misunderstood? .. please help..

Answer 1

First, get it out of your head that confident people talk a lot. That is a big sign of an insecure person. Confident, secure people don't have the need to fill every second with 'noise'. So make peace with the fact that you may not have something to add to every conversation and that's perfectly fine. If someone asks *why* you are not participating in the conversation, simply look at them (eye contact, please!) and tell them "because I really have nothing significant to add" or "I was enjoying hearing your views on this".

Confidence is very much about practice if you haven't been raised to be confident. Stand straight, look people in the face/eyes when they speak to you and you speak back to them. Even if you don't feel confident, it will create the illusion of confidence and the difference in the way you are treated will eventually build your confidence.

More practice - go places alone and while standing on line smile at someone who looks at you and say "Hello". That's it. You just talked to a stranger! THAT takes confidence. Of course, you could end up listening to someone's life story as a result but handling it politely and with grace also builds confidence, not to mention patience and tolerance.

Posture creates confidence as well. Hold your head high and don't look away when someone walks toward you from the other direction. The ground is not very interesting in most areas, so why stare at it while you walk?

Cheap confidence building trick - body graffiti! A friend of mine, a reserved, shy type, never leaves the house for social gatherings without writing encouraging messages to herself all over her body in eyeliner under her clothing. I found this out quite by accident. But it has apparently helped her come out of her shell over the past couple years. Her typical messages to herself include "I am strong" "I am capable" "I am beautiful" and "I love you". It seems silly, but if it worked for her, it may work for you, too.

I hope some of these little tips help you. Hopefully you'll get plenty of other tips to build yourself into the confident person you know you can be!

~Morg~

Answer 2

There is a very fine line between being thought of as arrogant or confident. Know what you are talking about when making discussion. Don't brag about personal bests. Practice talking in front of a mirror. Do you look confident or arrogant? Adjust your style to where it makes you look confident.

Answer 3

Remember the fine line between confidence and *********.Also keep in mind the person you see in the mirror is not the same person others see.It is some sort of phsychological thing about the way we percieve ourselves.As your confidence grows that image in the mirror will change without altering your physical appearance.It is some pretty amazing stuff.

Answer 4

Confidence is not about talking alot

To be Confident person you should talk sensible, clear and very short.

Confidence is not about talking alot but talking what you want to talk about
and being shy doesnt mean your not cofident person
it only say you dont want to speak too much..... and if you feel like speaking you will speak

Just remember u might have did many times :)

Chill Out :)

Answer 5

I am a confident person. Probably because i don't take any crap! I am not a ***** but I deserve respect just like anyone else does. I tell it how it is, I am open and honest. I think those are the main keys to building confidence. Just letting others know you're friendly but you're not stupid and one to be taken for.

Answer 6

First you have to learn to appreciate yourself..i'm not trying to sound like everyone else but it's true. Second look at yourself in the mirror and pick out everything you like about yourself and concentrate on those things. Third start out with small things (like smiling a lot more or saying hi to random people) and work your way up to being a talker.

Answer 7

I'd like to share this poem with you and then I want you to go out and believe in yourself and be you. You can try to be a little more outgoing but pepole can tell when others are not being themselves......Just be you, love yourself and be happy ...smile a lot ...people are attracted to those qualities.



"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light , not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of god. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.

We were born to make and manifest the glory of god that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

Authors Details: Marianne Williamson
"Our greatest fear" from her book 'A return to love'

Answer 8

think more,talk like you normally do...just choose words carefully.Avoid "um" etc,anything like that is the opposite of what you're goin for. As long as you have worthwhile things to say,and can relate with people in a conversation -quickly and simply-you're be confident...over time those people will listen closely to what you say because of you're confidence and they won't accuse you of anything because they value your input.

Answer 9

Wanting to be confident won't give you anything but just that...wanting. Eliminate that want by looking at yourself and see what it is you'd like to express. Resolve your shyness. Start by speaking what you know and speak from your heart. Once you've been able to accomplish this, then half the battle is won.

Don't convince others. Convince yourself and speak with conviction.

Answer 10

No sweetie not all confident people talk a lot ! Insecure people are loud and talk a lot . People who are confident have nothing to prove to anyone . They walk with their head held high and always look others in the eye when talking to them .

Practice makes perfect , fake it until you make it , project it until you prefect
it .