im 18 and he's 40 or something
2006-10-08 06:50:39 · 15 answers · asked by ........ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He shares the same pathology as a pedophile, though your age negates the term 'pedophile'.
He needs to be in control and feel more powerful by being the more experienced and dominant one in a relationship. He has issues.
He feels inadequate around other women his own age, who have more experience, and are more accomplished.
He will dump you when you grow up, for another inexperienced 18 year old. Don't expect this to last forever. If you had more experience with men, you would already know this.
It's not your fault, you just have not been alive long enough to have had many emotionally invested, adult relationships. Each one teaches you more about yourself, what you want and need from a partner, what you will and will not accept from someone, etc.
This guy is moving closer to the point in his life to where his body is producing less testosterone. This causes him to feel 'over the hill' and he is using you to validate his own masculinity and verility. He is reinventing himself to you, someone who does not have enough experience to see right through it. And like I said, when you grow up more and learn more, he'll dump you for another star-struck 18 year old.
Maybe you didn't get the kind of attention and appreciation from your own father and that's why you crave this kind of relationship. Over time, you will feel more and more ike you are dating your father. You will want to rebel against him, in this parent-child relationship. You will resent his influence.
Unless you are a professional gold-digger who is looking for long-term financial security, or you are a total opportunist, you should move on. If a family of your own is what you want, and an equal partnership is what you want, you should move on and date guys closer to your own age and mentality. You should go to college, work in different fields, and develop yourself more and increase your marketability and earning potential. You should give yourself time to hone some skills, and establish yourself. You will be more independant and less easily influences if you have the sbility to stand on your own, and more to offer in a relationsip.
Plus, you will attract men who will have more respect for you and not try to change you into what they want you to be.
2006-10-08 07:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety----NO! When I was 18 I dated a 31 year old and I was soooo "in love". Everyone wold tell me that it was wrong and they all said " WHAT WOULD A 31 YEAR OLD WANT WITH A 18 YEAR OLD"...they all said that! but I didn't listen i was in love remember. We finally broke up and I now look back on it 6 years later even at 2 years later and I can't believe that I dated a man that old. We had nothing in common but i would always find something that we shared but it was me making it all up in my head...You'll see one day that people relate better to those in their age range.
2006-10-08 06:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. You can't even hold a decent conversation with him, unless he's retarded. I'm not making fun of u. You are 18, and he's 40 something?... He's been places ,done things, seen things you can't even imagine. After the lust is gone and reality sets in, he's going to become disenchanted with you and move on. I have seen it again and again.. Trust me.
2006-10-08 06:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by sadie13 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW.....no i dont think its okay because if you are that far apart in age, you will have very different ways of doing things. Its wayyy better to date someone in your age level who shares today's style and ways rather than someone who will act like a parent to you....(thats older than my parents)!
2006-10-08 06:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your young.date who you what to . a man 40 and your 18. thats a dream to a man that age.he going to treat you good.but you should'nt just date him. but a man that age might get a little mad if you date other people he wants you to himself. after all his lived life your just starting life. be carefull
2006-10-08 06:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Or something? Well, if you love him and the two of you get along well, then I don't see a problem with it I suppose. After all, you're legal and so is he.
2006-10-08 06:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No that's like child molestion and if the police finds out, he will get arrested
2006-10-08 06:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say go slow. But if he is good to you and you are happy. And he respects you. I say go for it! Live life and never look back!
2006-10-08 06:57:09 · answer #8 · answered by sherry.1977 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't. You would have nothing in common. It would be a crazy relationship.
2006-10-08 06:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by teeka 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that's a lot of difference..
2006-10-08 06:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋