im really heart broken when my very good friend (yeah hes my crush) did not get back in touch with me....its been over 3 weeks he's not really bothered to contact me back....be4 he left (hes gone u london for studies) we were like always on text msging ... yeah we used to talk all non sense...crap...flirt....solvin problems... n tht made me fall for him.... i made him this card sot of thingy too wen he left...he appreciated it very much... he asked me to mail and all....now hes gone he din really try n get back in contact!! i mean we were soooo close.....and shared almost everthing... now i have written this mail telling him all this tht he did not bother to reply (i mailed him 3rice each weekend) and whenever he chatted online he never spoke...
ive witten in the mail about me being hurt n tht i was a fool waiting for his mails. and tht he did not bother... should i mail him or no???
HE JUST PLAYED AROUND WITH MY FELINGS :'(
or do u guys think hes busy adjusting?nahh 3 weeks???
2006-10-08 06:26:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry... keep patience ... wil be back after settling down properly. has lots to say but time and timing is the constraint
2006-10-08 06:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by PG 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when folks are going through stuff - adjusting to a new environment or new job or perhaps some angsts or disappointments of their own - I would think that three weeks is a drop in the bucket... and while they are going through whatever it is that they are dealing with, they are not thinking about those that they've left behind... it is not about us usually... I personally, after many experiences where I ranted and raved about being disrespected or having my ego tattered, and then dumped for being an overbearing loon, I learned that calm support will go further than thinking it's always about us... that they are not writing or calling because of something we've done or not done or because they are behaving badly... often we are not even on the radar at the moment but by offering our support, we can maintain our place in line once the dust does settle and the person is ready once again to resume life as usual... if I were in your shoes, I would just send a cheery card (virtual cards are free even and you don't even need to put on your shoes to go to the mailbox) saying that you are here when he's ready to get back to things... doesn't guarantee that he will step right up and answer you but think about it... a friendly card vs a heated letter.... which would leave a better taste in your mouth? as far as your feelings go, you own those, sweets........ no one "makes" us miserable... we allow those feelings to grow... we can self-talk ourselves past them... stay busy... focus on the tasks of life so that these feelings don't affect everything else that you do... ask yourself... in another month, another year, will this matter? in 5 years will it make a difference? only if you let, baby... only if you let
2006-10-08 06:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by dornalune 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its nt possible tha he may take this much time 2 adjust. Atlease he would have been replying to your mails and 4 sure whenever he was online he would have been crazily chatin t u. Seriously do not hurt urself any more. Try to move away from his presence in your mind. Move your head towards something productive which make u busy enough to think about anything else.
I've tried it 2 N it really works
2006-10-08 06:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by guy_4ur_life 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good friends stay tight for life and if he is or was your friend then he'll tell you what's wrong. So, give him time and I bet you one day he'll see the light and may be by then, some one might have filled the void he's created in your life. time they say, is a magic worker! So, don't fret it. Just stay calm. If he is your friend and misses you he'll get back to you. Let him make contact now for you've done your bit. The ball now is in his court.
Note that if he doesn't get in touch with you it doesn't mean that's the end of life. It only means you didn't know him well enough to have taken him as your bossom friend.
Cheers boo!
2006-10-08 07:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by Elias N 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably is busy adjusting to life in a new place. Its reallly hard when u move away, u concentrate so much on meeting new people and making new friends that u tend to forget your old firends for a short time. Give him another two weeks and if he hasn't answered by then try mailing him again.
2006-10-08 06:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by YOLA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You adult men are pals, you stated so your self. Why is he going to furnish you some play? I say squash your emotions in the mean time and notice how issues play out. basically considering which you spill your heart to somebody does no longer propose they're going to do the comparable element no remember how honest and genuine you're. supply him some area till now he has to assist you recognize to furnish him area. bypass on without him through fact he does not desire somebody who feels needy and clingy whilst a chum. and that's the way you will come off in case you initiate sweating him suited now. He recalls you and is conscious he's not contacting you, you do no longer could remind him. he's thinking of you (possibly no longer in the way which you extremely desire) and while he needs you he will touch you. In different words basically be cool.
2016-12-08 10:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by cheng 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront him once u get a catch of him. tell him all u wanna say. his reply or his ignorance will answer u well. at the same time express ure feelings for him. ure future picture will be seen clear after this confrontation. even if u dont get a positive reply dont worry. we are human beings. some positve attitude of some people makes us feel attracted to them. we feel that the person is of our wavelength. u havent done anything wrong. just confront and figure out what is thia all about.
2006-10-08 06:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he doesn't reply or acknowledge you when he's on line, it's a hint. Maybe you pushed too hard too soon after he left. Leave him alone. Maybe he thinks your are a needy person now. If he wants to contact you, let him to be the one to do it. You are acting like a stalker right now. He could be scared of you.
2006-10-08 06:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
JUST WRITE TO HIM ONE LAST TIME AND TELL HIM THAT HE IS NOT WORTHY OF EVEN KNOWING HIM FORGET THE FRIENDSHIP PART...AND ALSO TELL HIM THAT HE DARE NOT EVER EVER CONTACT YOU...AND YES SINCE HE IS GONE FOR STUDIES DO REMIND HIM TO ENROL FOR MORAL CLASSES IN THE EVENING THIS WILL MAKE HIM A BETTER HUMAN BEING.
TRY THIS MAM' AND YOU WILL BE HAPPY AGAIN'
2006-10-11 20:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did not have had sex then dont e-mail him.
If you had sex then also dont e-mail him.
Go find another guy. You will find lots and lots of really nice guys. And plz stop crying like a baby.
2006-10-08 10:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋