I think my boyfriend wants my virginity, and now my mom wants me on the pill. I'M ONLY 13!!! I don't know what 2 do. My boyfriend has already been with 2 other girls, and now i think he wants to have sex w/ me and i'm scared. I've been having these weird dreams about having sex w/ him and ending up pregnant and i don't want that 2 happen 2 me. I just really need y'all's help on this. Should I give it 2 him?
2006-10-08 06:17:03 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No baby girl...you are too young to have sex...It's going to be so painful...Trust me I know...I lost mine when I was 12...you are having these dreams because you are at an age when your hormones are out of control...This sounds gross but just masturbate...or get a vibrator... I don't want to insult you or anything but you are still a kid and should be enjoy your youth...I promise you will not meet the man of your dreams when you are 13... He'll break up with you and you'll be heart broken and sore...and plus if you are having dreams that you are getting pregnant it's probably a premonition...women have natural intuition especially when they sleep...your subconscious is telling you something and you need to listen...I know it's hard with these raging feelings...but you need to be strong...I know that when I had sex way too early it made me addicted to dating men. I became dependent on a relationship to make me happy...I'm 22 now and it took years to get over the emotional tailspin my decisions put me through...and seeing a psychologist...to get back to my former self... I wish I would have talked to my mom...at leasts she's cool about putting you on the pill...that means she'll understand you...Your mom will be your best friend some day... Again, women aren't made to have sex at 13...it's outright painful. It know I did it...and it screws you up psychologically..you wont enjoy it. It's not possible. It rips you in two...and you'll bleed and you'll cry and you'll wish you never have done it...I know this is really graphic but you need to know the truth..please email me if you need to talk to someone...alyssab1984@yahoo.com
2006-10-08 06:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Alyssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the others said, don't do it. You're only 13 years old and you shouldn't give it to some asshole who will throw it away.
I'm 14 and I want to save mine for a guy I really love and trust. When I was 11, I was so desperate for a boyfriend and wanted to lose my virginity. Now, to this day, I regret thinking of those thoughts.
Fantasies are fine, but don't do anything serious.
2006-10-08 06:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men or boys are dogs.I think that if he really likes you than he will wait until you are ready.You are onlt 13.You still have a lot of life to live so you have time to have sex.Just make sure that when the time comes that you are ready.Don't let someone pressure you into doing something that you don't want to do yet.
2006-10-08 06:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by mike j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg , no offense but this makes me sick. You're only 13 and already thinking about having sex. I'm 17 and I want to wait until I'm married. Your mom wants you on the pill ? that is really sad...she shouldn't be encouraging you
2006-10-08 06:21:22 · answer #4 · answered by ?heartthrob? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready, don't do it. I understand why your mom would want you on the pill. She doesn't want you pregnant either. There is more than just pregnancy to worry about though, like diseases. Always protect yourself. If you don't want to go all the way yet, don't. It is your body and your right to say no. After all, like you said you are only thirteen. If he cannot understand this, he is not the one for you. Never let a boy pressure you into something you are not ready for.
2006-10-08 06:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by Social_D 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your'e only 13 yrs old. this is big. and it's the one and only thing that you can treasure and keep until you decide the time and person is right and until you are emotionally ready. now is probably too soon. you don't know if in three yrs from now you will have wished to have waited for that special person. think hard about this and talk with your mom and let her know what you feel.
2006-10-08 06:25:54 · answer #6 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like this guy is wanting another notch on his bed post you are only 13 ther is still alot of things you need to do in life before you take this kind of chance your mother has the right idea on birth control because nobody can stop you from doing this but yourself. i suggest you talking to your mother about what is going through your head sound like she is a very knowledgeable person and in tune with your thoughts. but from someone that has been down this road already please listen to your mom and dont jump in the sack with this guy. the first time should be spontaneous and with someone you love not with someone that just wants to add you to his trophy list.
2006-10-08 06:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by jacks5j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 13 babygirl.........you should not be having sex (not to tell you what to do or anything like that) and if your so called "boyfriend" dont/cant/will not understand that......tell him to kick rocks......and as far as those dreams you been having....your subconscious always speaks the truth...(you have sex, you get a baby or possibly other things that you definately dont want, right?)..... so it would probably be better to listen it babygirl....
2006-10-08 06:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you always have more boyfriends if he's gonna be like that. looks like he's looking for another notch to go on his belt.at 13 you've got plenty of time to engage in sex later on. right now your main concernshould be school and things of more importance. and trust me you definitely do not want to get pregnant at 13. you'll regret it for the rest of your life. do you think it's worth it? like i said,therewill always be other guys. hope u wise up.
2006-10-08 07:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by Deep Purple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF is wrong with you
where are your parents,, especially your father
If i had a 13 year old daught she would NOT have a BF
he need to kick the crap out of the kid
you do not NEED nor do you have the maturity to have a BF at a young age
it's exactly why you mention about pregnancy that why 13 years olds do not have what it takes to have any sort of relationship
2006-10-08 06:21:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋