He asked me to leave him alone for now coz his life is in a mess. I'm ok with that. I'm prepared for my feelings to die a natural death or for him to come back for good. I can't handle his reappear only to disappear act. Each time he does that, I end up a mental wreck until he next appears again. Even if he doesn't see himself trying with me again, let me know. This not letting me in but not letting me go is killing me. I don't wanna be his puppy on a leash at his beck and call. Why can't he just be straight with me? What is so difficult about that? Even if he can't decide, at least tell me that.
2006-10-08 05:34:03 · 11 answers · asked by daffodil_leaf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't be putting yourself thru this mess, tell him you are tired of him not giving you a definate answer and then just leave him be. If he still cannot give you a confirmed answer within one or two days, i guess you should just let go and get on with your life.
2006-10-08 21:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by axix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore him. Act like you don't care if he comes by or calls and play it good. he will either show a change that he really cares about you or take off. If he shows that he cares and is there all the time then you have to watch to see how long it will last and if it starts again the " reappear/ disappear" then cut your ties. Alot of guys will keep you hanging simply because they don't want anyone else to have you.
2006-10-08 05:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by james n 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation now. It's been going on for 10 months today. Just a friendship though. We weren't committed, but we acted as if we were together. Now, he comes in and out when he feels like it and acts as if nothing happened. 2 weeks ago, he asked me to leave him alone, and I did. He came back though, and left again. I think they're full of ****. As much as it hurts, you're probably better off moving on. It takes time though.
2006-10-08 05:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by Charlies_Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easily, even nevertheless he's your brother, no. Your mom has positioned you in a confusing place, suggesting which you come over and see him. you're saying you have had problems with seeing him interior the previous and his motives sound sketchy. If he supplies an uncomfortable feeling, back out and tell your mom at yet yet back which you do no longer desire to work out him. It feels like she facilitates him to proceed to be in this function in his existence and that's risky, in itself. you may shop your very own psychological stability and your loved ones secure, and regrettably, he's no longer wholesome for you. Brother or no longer, you already know what form of issues you may circumvent on your very own secure practices.
2016-10-15 23:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in control of what your allowing him to do. You have to stop letting him back when he decides to be back.
You say your not a puppy on a leash, but YOU ARE, if your not taking control yourself!
Stop answering the phoone, or door when you see it's him.
Move if you have to. Just start standing up on your own 2 feet and be in charge of yourself and your own destiny.
2006-10-08 05:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he got issues,,and you are the one who is letting him do this to you. If you dont allow him to contact you in any way...then you will eventually get over him. Dont let yourself get involved with a man who has no clue what he wants,and has issues on top of that. Stop all contact with him if you seriously dont want to be an emotional wreck.
2006-10-08 05:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are allowing him to do this to you. You have to put your foot down, and just break up with him. why do you have to keep putting your life on hold for him. Remember you have a life also. and he is going to keep doing it. Move on, Go out and smell the coffee. In other words, go out and meet people, join clubs, or take a class! Want more for yourself!
2006-10-08 05:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason he can't tell you what he wants is because if he did, you would probably be disgusted and tell him no, and he would disappear again. Why are leaving it up to him to decide anyway? Decide for yourself and kick him to the curb!!!
2006-10-08 05:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by kidd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing the same thing to him and see how he likes it............. dont let a man pull on your tail feathers like that. Just tell him, "Either you're in or you're out!". Start dating other people and keep your selections open until you find someone who will "BE THERE" for you like you want them to be.
2006-10-08 05:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by Help Me Help You 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to speak of old parables , but ,
"if you love a thing let it go...if it returns to you it will be yours for life if not it was not meant to be. otherwise go with the flow and enjoy life otherwise
2006-10-08 05:38:55 · answer #10 · answered by Bucky411_hit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋