I gave my child up for addoption but only b/c I agreed to semi-open adoption and they're not answering my calls or emails. Only problem was it was all verbal so on paper it's a normal adoption. I want to give him to a friend of mine that has been trying to have a boy for a long time. She said she would agree in writing to an open adoption. I need all the information I can get.
2006-10-08 05:25:01 · 15 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok, I'm getting a lot of negative vibes here. I know that ya'll don't know the whole story, but there isn't enough room for me to tell it. I didn't have time to find the right people, and I wanted an open addoption. Just b/c some people, kat, don't believe in open addoption doen't mean I don't. That's what I wanted but I was stupid enough to believe these people that they wouldn't keep him from me. I can take care of him by the way, but the father didn't want him and... well I've already been down that road with my 3 year old now... Anyway, there is A LOT yall don't know about this. I just want to know if there is somebody out there that happens to know if there's something I can do about it.
2006-10-08 06:38:53 · update #1
You need to do what best for the baby, its probably already attached to the new parents and taking it away would be very hard on the baby.
2006-10-08 05:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by williestyle1111 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought about that before you gave him to the parent's he has now. You can't just juggle a baby around from person to person. You decided that you couldn't take care of him and did the right thing by allowing someone that could to adopt him. Do not play with people's feelings this way. It is a shame that people who can't have children biologically, open their hearts to an unwanted child, just to get it ripped from their arms by a selfish person who can't make their minds up. Leave that child alone. You are very selfish and I hope you don't put other children and adoptive families in this predicament in the future. Grow up! Walk away from this child so he can have a normal life. It will be hard enough if he learns he was unwanted. If the other girl is willing to let you take this child from these people, she doesn't deserve him either. I hope there is a law to keep you from doing this. I don't believe in open adoption either. You can't take care of him, so you should let the kind people who want to raise him have a wonderful life with him, instead of wondering when you are going to try to mess it up with your indecisiveness.
2006-10-08 12:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by bella kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taking a child from the only family he has known can do severe damage to the child. His entire world is wrapped up in his family and his parents and that is not you. I am sorry you are hurting and missing him. I suggest you get into a support group to help you learn that your child is with his family and that he is where he belongs. Most open adoptions do not offer a lifelong visitation to a child. Ask his parents if they would just send you a letter or note occasionally giving you an update on him and give you comfort that he is ok. They may say no but it doesn't hurt to ask. PLEASE do not remove him from his family. He is where he belongs and you need to be at peace that you made the absolute BEST decision for him. You need to continue to put his best interests first and leave him with the family you lovingly chose for him and know that it was the right decision for him.
2006-10-08 13:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by working mother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long ago did you give the baby up? Did you already sign away your parental rights? Adoptions aren't final until child is about a year old. ( At least in my case) But also maybe they haven't called or written because they are busy caring for their new baby. Think of him being taken care of not of yourself.
2006-10-08 13:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you signed the adoption papers you should have made sure it was in writing about it being a open adoption.The deal has done been made now,you can`t go back now and decide you want to give that baby to someone else.Its not fair to the adoptive parents who are now attached to the baby and especially its not fair to the baby.You are only thinking about yourself and what best suits your needs.Shame On You
2006-10-08 13:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by ravenmo2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have any rights to their child, even if they agreed to something and are now not following through. You gave up all parental rights when you adopted your baby out and the adopters assumed all parental rights, allowing them to decide who has contact with their child. If they chose not to have contact with you, they can.
2006-10-08 12:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you can get your baby back, all states have different laws.I would ask an attorney for that information.There is attorneys that will give you information for free the first time.Or you can call a local adoption agency and see if they can help you there..good luck to you..
2006-10-08 12:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately it I'mpossible.After an adoption has been made final there's nothing you can do.I wish I had something better to tell you but im just telling the truth.And not having anything on paper makes it even more impossible.
2006-10-08 13:58:01 · answer #8 · answered by wvcountrygirl_93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The authorities do not allow you to play volleyball with children. LOL
2006-10-08 12:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by xman77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gooo up to the office and say "If anyone has not takein my baby I want my friend to!!" Yell it if u have too!
2006-10-08 12:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋