Why do so many couples send their children to day care when they know it's detrimental to their upbringing?

Question

Now I know in some cases there are no other choices(such as with a single parent). In almost all other cases there are ways to make sure one of you is at home with your kids instead of letting some stranger raise your child. I know what your saying...Yea but we need the money. So change work hours if you have to so that one of you is always home. If you didn't want to raise kids then why the hell did you have them?

Answer 1

I agree with you. We could give up have big screen TVs, cell phones, a new car every couple of years. And one parent should be home with the children. Maybe when they are going to school a whole day, the at home parent could get a part-time job during school hours. Or work at home. My daughter and son-in-law are doing just that.

Answer 2

I agree with you somewhat. But, day care can actually be good IF the parent uses it to benefit both themselves and their child. For example, if a parent was being driven absolutely stir crazy by their two year old and had absolutely no one else to watch them... but they needed time away from the kid just to get some breathing room for an hour or two every week... then I don't see the harm in it. If it can help the parent not be so stressed out and cause them to lose their temper on their child, it is a good thing.

But I do agree about the work hours and stuff. Besides, the money one parent makes basically just goes to paying for the day care anyway... so they might as well stay home (unless of course they don't *want* to... some people just prefer working environments and being able to "get away").

Answer 3

there are several circumstances that force parents to use daycare,the last sentence in your question was really not necessary either.changing work hours is not always easy,it really depends on the child,some kids do very well with the interaction of other kids at daycare,and of course research of any facility you want watching your child is wise,not everyone has that luxury of letting relatives watch their kids either,some don't even have
both parents around,don't forget that raising children can

get expensive and with the way this country is run,not
everyone can afford to stay home,don't you think they would if they could?


I'm guessing you have never had kids,or you have and are one of the few that does get to stay home with them.

Answer 4

Well I'm 30 and was sent to day care as a child until I was 8 years old. I did just fine and it helped me with my shyness. I made lots of friends and played all day. When I have children I would prefer to keep them at home or have a relative keep them but I love my job (teaching) and would probably keep working. It sounds like you have plenty of money and have no desire to work outside of the home so don't worry about what other people do.

Answer 5

you're oblivious to the whole child raising thing in the year 2006. 2 people have to work in each household to make it nowadays. The right day care or pre school or day camp (whatever you want to call it) is very beneficial to a child.it greatly outways the negatives. you just don't switch jobs or hours at a job when you want...its not that easy. if this "daycare thing" is an issue with you than don't ever have kids!

Answer 6

Not everyone is married to a wealthy hubby/wife that can support the household's every need (shelter, food, clothing) alone. If you have, you're lucky! But not all of us are - many of us don't make that much money. I have a college degree and work in social services, I make hardly anything for what I do, but I do it because I love helping people. Also if I didn't work, my hubby's paycheck wouldn't be enough for us to keep our home, buy food, and pay the bills.

Answer 7

Why do you think you should judge other people? I seriously doubt that there are very many people that send their children to daycare just because they want to. For the people who have nannies or send their child to daycare while the parents aren't working, shame on them. But that is a very slim minority.

You don't know people's situation. How dare you generalize? You could take the arguement as far as saying that the established school system raises our children, not parents. Think about it.

Answer 8

Well there are reasons why people send their kids to daycare so they can go to work, they need:

a roof over their heads
food on the table
pay for cost of living
clothes
car and insurance
savings

the list can go on and on without including extravagant things, they are just basic needs.
Not everyone is lucky enough to have high paying jobs. Have you seen what minimum wage is in this country? Not all jobs accommodate/ tolerate people changing shifts or have night shifts. You shouldn't judge people for their choices. Everyone does the best they can to provide for their families. At least these parents are lucky enough to have sense to put them in someones care and not leave them alone and roam the streets.

Answer 9

My mom never worked and my brother is s devil worshipping freak... I my self have been very successful so... this proves stay at home moms are not always as attentive as you think... My daughter and I keep a close eye on her son who has been in daycare since he was 18mo... I kept him the first 18mos of his life and we gradually introduce him into the daycare world and he loves his school... school is what we have referred to it as instead of "day care" ... There are many parents out there that research their choices and didn't just poke their child in the cheapest one they could find... Also... there are a lot of women that are in no position to choose... they may be dealing with a dead beat dad and have to work... or has a husband that won't keep the kids... also may have no family support and have to get what she can afford... when it comes to her choice of day cares facillities... another aspect is children with no siblings... learn to share and interact with others prior to entering public school... There are so many ways we can look at this... pros and cons...
So... to answer your Questions... not all day cares are detrimental... each situation id different.

Answer 10

I think that you are wrong... I have two children and i work... My kids go to a daycare that is a healthy and safe place... They go here to be with children there own age and to learn... I don't feel that this women is raising my children because as parents we lay the ground rules and others are to follow them.. Who are you to tell me that i should stay home with my kids?????????
I bet you stay home and are on welfare to do so... So therefor i go to work to provide for my family and yours you should be thanking all those that go to work to support you and your kids...