what age do you think we should worry about kids being sexaul atvie?

Question

what age did you loose your viginity? what age you think we should worry about our kids loosing theres?

Answer 1

I think parents should gradually discuss their values with their children as they grow older. In other words, parents should tailor the information to their children's age and maturity level, giving them as much information as is appropriate instead of dumping "the talk" on them when they are a teenager. If you wait and dump it all on them at once, it's too late. They've already gotten information from the media and their friends and adopted the values/morals of the same.

Left to their own devices, pre-teens and teenagers can and will adopt the values that the media/popular culture and their friends present to them--namely, that sex is OK "as long as you care about your partner", that marriage is unnecessary and that waiting for marriage is a stuffy, old-fashioned idea. Society teaches youngsters that sex is OK "when you feel ready". Trouble is, a pre-teen or teenager isn't emotionally ready to handle a marriage-level committment. All they know is that their hormones are going a mile a minute and "everyone else is doing it, so why can't I?".

I was in the Class of 2001, so I can tell you from personal experience about the sort of peer pressure and other factors that kids face nowadays about sex and other issues. I knew a girl when I was a Freshman in High School that was heavily pregnant on her 15th birthday (the father was in his early 20's...). Personally, I started to be interested in boys "in that way" when I was 12 or 13. I remember that the sexual urge at that age was very strong and had I not been supervised there was a high likelihood that I would have become sexually active at that time. My parents didn't really monitor what messages I was getting from movies, books, magazines, and peers and I considered it pretty normal at the time, and something that "everyone else" was doing.

I made quite a few mistakes during my teen years (even the early ones), and now that I know that those things were wrong to do I wish I could go back and re-live my life properly. But of course, that's impossible. All I can do now is learn from my mistakes and apply that knowledge to my own children's upbringing. I will certainly be keeping a close eye on what my children are picking up outside the home, and I will also be very careful to teach them proper values as they mature. I don't want them to have the same illusions about moral right and wrong that I had growing up.

For the parents who haven't gradually taught their children and are just now thinking of "the talk", I would say they should start introducing some information about abstinence, modesty and these sorts of things by the age of 12 (girls) and 13 (boys). Also, it would pay off to talk to the principal of your child's school when they hit 5th or 6th grade and ask them when the school does its sex ed program, and ask for copies of EVERYTHING they plan on teaching and/or handing out to the kids so that you an review them to make sure they line up with the values you want to give your children. Lots of sex ed programs in schools nowadays teach kids that sexual experimentation is OK (including homosexual experimentation), and heavily imply that these kids are incapable of waiting until they are married. If you find that your child's school's sex ed program is unacceptable, you should be able to opt them out. If they won't allow you to, then you do have legal recourse. Parents have the right to decide what their children do and don't learn in school. It is not up to the school system to decide whether your child should be in the sex ed class or not.

The bottom line is, it isn't the school's responsibility to teach kids about sex anyway. It's the parent's. Any parent who relies on the school or anyone else to teach kids about sex is just taking the easy (lazy) way out. It's a parent's responsibility to teach morals and values to their child/children. Let everyone else do it and you may not like how your kid turns out at all.

There's an author named Kevin Leman who writes awesome books about marriage relationships, family dynamics, child rearing, etc. There are a couple of books he wrote that would be great regarding this discussion. The first one is, "A Chicken's Guide to Talking Turkey With Your Kids About Sex" and the second one is "Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours". There is also another book he wrote about raising teenagers (sorry, but I forgot what that one is called). Any large library should have them. If not, you may be able to buy them cheap at secondhand bookstores, eBay/Amazon.com, or someplace like that. Reading those books should help you think through these issues yourself and help you decide what you want to teach your children.

Hope this helps. God bless!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I lost mine at 14 (AKA - the year my parents stopped keeping track of me)...

I think people should start worrying when their child hits teenage years. Of course, some do have sex earlier.... but if you are a good parent, meaning you know where your 11 year old is, who they are with, can call the place they say they are at and speak to them, and not let them date... then you should not have to worry about your 11 or 12 year old having sex.

Answer 4

I think we need to worry about long before we should have to. We started talking to our kids early about sex and my 14 1/2 year old son is a virgin so far. We started while they were still in elementary school. I know it seems young, but with all they are exposed to I think they need the information to make informed decisions.

There's so much they need to know about: pregnancy, AIDS, all the other STD's, birth control,etc.

Answer 5

Read some of these questions. It seems that a lot of these kids are losing their virginity at 12. Talk to them when they are about 10 to try to prevent it. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 19.

Answer 6

now days they do it at the age of 10 so i here 12 they really start getting interestand that is girls then they go for older boys and bingothey go all the way cause they think they cant have a baby..

Answer 7

Kids become curious alot earlier than we think they do. You should speak to your children about sex early, if you haven't done so already. Since you're worried about it, I'm assuming your children aren't babies. I'd start talking to them as early as 6th grade. Letting them know they can come and talk to you if they have any questions, so on and so forth. Most of my friends lost their virginity very early. In elementry school. I lost mine freshman year of high school, which was still way too early. Especially not having any real guidance. Talk to them. :)

Answer 8

The answer to your question is a subjective one. You haven't specified where do you hail from. Because people in different regions of the world get sexually active at different age.

Answer 9

i really would say 12/13 and up
at that age they start thinking about almost all the time
the boys are crazy for girls with big boobs and booty
girls love a boy with a strong body

mostly at age 12 they start thinking about that

Answer 10

Nowadays? Try age 7.