I have a friend who has had a rough time finding guys she is nice very pretty and sweet. She is also shy and naive but her first bf was a complete *** manipulating her and he used her for sex got her pregnant and dumped her. She went through a terrible miscarriage and then jumped from guy to guy not having sex but seemed to be looking for emotional compensation. Most of the guys also seemed to have the same personality as the first ex. bf. She is also really smart i dont get it she gets straight A's.These guys also were all bad boys and not from nice areas. She asked my friend mariah and i for help finding a decent guy but its hard because she only talks to 4 people . Should we help her?
2006-10-08 04:42:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not sure what she wants? she became really anti-social at one point so is their a way we can help her by just getting her out of the house she seems so misreable. I want to help but am not sure how?any ideas?she is also a bit submissive.
2006-10-08 04:43:38 · update #1
Why would you take it upon yourself to help her find a man? I hate it when someone says sh it like that, just let her find her own man. Do you know what a self confidence buster that is? You trying to 'help' her find someone? Maybe she doesn't need anyone right now, leave her alone.
2006-10-08 04:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by DiG iT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to learn self-confidence before she will find any of the guys who are good for her. Without that, she's just going to keep picking the same personality types, over and over again, because she's used to them. It's what she knows, and she's used to being treated that way. Stop concentrating on getting her hooked up with people, and just get her hanging out with friends. Eventually, she'll find someone in the group of friends she likes, and they'll hit it off. It's always better that way.
2006-10-08 04:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT can be very hard to match people.
Do you have any old friends that might be suitable?
Otherwise, go and quiz some men about themselves. Ask them if they'd like to meet an intelligent, pretty, sweet young lady. Quiz them, are they single?, how do they cope with stress?, what upsets them? etc.
Hard work but otherwise she'll continue meeting the wrong people.
Good luck
J
2006-10-08 04:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there's some underlying reason for her going for those types of guys. I don't know her, so I don't know exactly why she falls for losers. I think that issue, whatever it is, needs to be dealt with first so that she stops throwing herself at one loser after another and is strong enough to stop taking that crap from men.
2006-10-08 04:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope you could talk to her more seriously about what she wants in a guy. ask her what she want from a guy! physically, and emotionally. or ask her, what are you looking for in a man? that would start a good idea on how to help her. if you would like to ask me more. email me at rbsanluis@yahoo.com
2006-10-08 04:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Richard Bernard S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her to see a counsellor. Maybe she hasnt recovered from the rejection... yet.
2006-10-08 04:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by novembr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm single and looking. Where is she from? What does she look like? What are her interests? How old is she?
2006-10-08 04:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by myhandsarecuffed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋