Im not getting enought answers to help me! My boyfriend of 3 years just doesnt act like i'm his "one and only" anymore, sure he tells me i am, but doesn't show as much affection as he used to when we are at school, out with friends, only when we are alone, and even then, it's not that much. He keeps finding excuses to not hang out with me. I'm not going to call him until he calls me, and even then if he wants to see me i might say that i have other things to do. Because for all i know, he could have been out at a party with girls all around him, and he said he would call but he didn't so i have no way of knowing! WHY THE HELL IS HE ACTING LIKE THIS? Don't you think if he doesn't want to be with me anymore, he should jsut say so?
2006-10-08 04:33:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he wants to string you along until he finds someone else...which is pretty chicken **** to me...why not dump his *** and find someone who'll make you happy...no sense being miserable!
2006-10-08 04:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's crazy that you are asking that question because that is my one and only fear in a relationship. My boyfriend is moving in with me, and I am worried about things fizzling off...but the only way to do that is to keep the "fizzle" there. Pardon the example because I don't know how old you are...but sex therapists always say, if the sex is strating to get boring then try it in a new place...etc. If you have done the same things for 3 years, not with sex but just in general then try and spice things up. If you usally go out for supper, plan and cook a home supper or try nex activities together. 3 years is a long time with someone, but like your best friends...you just don't get sick of them. If he doesn't react to wanting to spend time with you, or when he is with you it just isn't the same anymore...then I suggest that you maybe think about moving on. Stop playing games because that just pushes ppl apart. Be adult and talk about it, and be proactive to try and fix it...otherwise move on to someone that will adore you back for a longer shelf life than just 3 years. Good LUCK!!!
2006-10-08 11:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Future Mrs. Beasley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are notorious for taking us girls for granted. Ask any woman who's been married for a few years, and she'll be able to tell you.
If he really is trying to pull away from you you're on the right track to make some other plans with other people and make him compete for your attention. The worst thing you could do if he's feeling smothered is try to cling to him, the best thing you can do is pull away and make him come to you. If he still doesn't respond, tell him you want to see other people for a while. If he's already pulling away that conversation is going to happen, and it's better if you do the breaking up than if he does. Good Luck
2006-10-08 11:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by awakeatdawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boredom! Its time for both of you to move on. Hes wanting to, but does not want to hurt you. Seems to me the best thing you both can do is try acting like adults, even though you are NOT, and talk this thing through and hopefully you can end up friends. You will probably have to take control & initiate the conversation, because he has what he wants, the best of both worlds, you and his freedom.
Dont ignore it, it wont go away. Dont cheat on him as that only make you less of a person.
2006-10-08 11:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by cwxmas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I can see from what you have wrote here, he shows no interest anymore and you are not in the mood to hang out with him because of his behavior. But it's time to face the whole situation and be honest with yourselves. What I mean with that? IF I WERE YOU, I WOULD HAVE A SINCERE CONVERSATION WITH HIM. No matter how it maybe hurts, you have both to face the truth that your relationship is not working this time. REASSURE THAT YOU LOVE HIM AND ASK HIM WHY HE ACTS LIKE THAT. Be honest with him and explain that his behavior hurts you.
2006-10-08 11:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well he is a man and he is probably keeping his options open by that i mean he is looking for somebody new but doesnt want to get rid of you yet till he has made up his mind. Or there is that he is scared to tell you its over and is waiting for you to get fed up of his behaviour and you end it for him. My advice DUMP him and move on hun you dont need it.
2006-10-08 11:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by Lindy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably too young to be exclusive. Both of you need to date others. Move on and learn about life.
2006-10-08 11:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one does the formal break up anymore!!!! He's telling you it's over in soooo many ways, catch up and move on
2006-10-08 11:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by 504Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wanna know why hes acting this way ???
because you are acting the way that you are...
lookit, we dudes pick up on this stuff...
you are smoothering him....you have became clingy, needy, ect...
wanna know how to fix this ???
reverse psychology, dude...
act like you dont give a darn anymore, and, hell come back....
and if he dont, then, he was on his way out anyhow...
2006-10-08 11:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by sparko311 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably been pressured by his friends to hang with them more
2006-10-08 11:37:38 · answer #10 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋