my family always tells me that I am the easiest one to talk to, so they all tell me their problems and this is leaving me emotionally drained!! what can i do?
2006-10-08 04:30:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sometimes you have to be honest and say " I just can't handle any more right now". My wife is the one that everyone in her family depends on and comes to with problems. She has her own problems with bad health and it makes me angry sometimes that they don't take that into consideration. She had to learn to lovingly and honestly say no. It was hard but if you do it the right way, they should be understanding.
2006-10-08 04:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can still listen to them, but let them know how you are feeling. I go throuh the same thing. I have people I dont even know come up to me and ask me questions about things that are wrong in thier life. Find something to relax to or with. Find a song you can listen to and then go to a quiet place where you can listen to it in peace and think. It helps me when I'm feeling drained. Maybe you think to hard into the things people tell you and you subconsiously keep thinking about it to make everything better. You were not brought into the world to listen and solve everyones problem, Have them listen to you for a chage. Or just find a way to express how you are feeling, find something to take the strain off for awhile. There is still a lot that can be done to get you back up like new. Do you like to draw, sing, dance, write poetry? All those things can help you to A) Under stand a lot of things that you needed to, meaning your own problems and B) it can help you to stop thinking about everyone else's problem...Best of luck with your family.
2006-10-08 12:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by Bratney 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
means u r a good listener and maybe also someone that can see the bigger picture and help others solve stuff by looking at it from a different angle... now u have to be able to seperate yourself from the stuff that they are dumping on u .. and not see it as your problem .. kinda tricky t do but it takes practice ... im not sure how old u r but others in school , college ,, work environment will also see this in u and try to burden u with there problems ... a good listener cant get away from it... think about making it a profession at least u will get paid big bucks for listening to folks ...
2006-10-08 11:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop being easy to talk to. I understand what you're saying. Just tell them when they tell you their problems you take on their pain and it is draining you & you need a break for a little while. Suggest another family member for them to talk to.
2006-10-08 11:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen to them but try not to keep their problems with you. Maybe say a little prayer or something so that you can release their troubles and not keep them within you to drain you. Good luck to you! Take care
2006-10-08 11:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we're on the same boat LJ. everyone in the family tells me all their problems and its really draining me. it's like, hello i have my own problems to take care, but you know, they're your family and you couldn't just ignore them. take time to listen, give out some few advices but don't take it too seriously. just take time to listen cause i know how it feels to have a lot of problems.
2006-10-08 12:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by tikla79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do what you just did with all of us: YOu tell them their draining you!!
Stop giving advice, stop listening.
Tell them your going to become a head shrink or a counselor and start charging them.
2006-10-08 11:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop answering the telephone all of the time. Don't make yourself available. Make conversations short and seem disinterested. If this doesn't work resort to being ghetto. Hope this helps.
2006-10-08 11:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by NO delusions 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get UP MAN, be a hero in your own eye. i can understand you have dreams in your life to chase and free time to have fun , but these things are in every-ones life their are few who have the power to serve others and you have that . think that while it might be a loss on personal self but in total it is gain for your family .. own up and get going , by taking responsibility you are growing bigger. having said that i would also like to add , teach them to solve their problem with patience and maturity . it will take time but than soon they will be on their own to help them selves Good luck .. these managing skills will help you in life to grow bigger.
2006-10-08 11:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by poojacssingh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not dwell on their problems, listen to what they have to say and give them some advice, then just forget about it. This is not your problem, however, maybe you can help them out with the advice that you give to them. Do Not Dwell on their problems. Have you asked them to talk it over with the people that they have the problems with?
2006-10-08 11:36:14 · answer #10 · answered by pits_me1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋