Relationship problem...?

Question

Last night I overreacted to comment my boyfriend said about me. I told him a week ago that we were not going to get into any major arguments for the next two weeks (because things have been getting pretty tense and also he is moving to an apt soon). But we argued late last night because I was sensitive to that and I scoffed at something else he said during the arguement. I know that I should have just blown the comment off but it reminded me of a past relationship that was abusive.
Now he says he doesnt know if he loves me anymore and that he doesnt want to come over today (long distance relationship). He also says he doesn't want my help with the move anymore.
I don't want to break up with him so what can I do? What should I say? We have been together for nearly 3 yrs

Answer 1

First things first, apologize. You said yourself you could have ignored his comment but you didn't. Apologize for the way you acted. Then just leave him alone! Let him cool off and let him gather his thoughts. Nothing is more annoying than being bothered while your in a bad mood, not saying that you'll annoy him but just let him be. Then, when you two start talking again, cause you will, explain to him your past relationship and why you were bothered by his comment. Tell him about your abusive past relationship. Getting over an abusive relationship is extremely hard. I can understand where you are coming from. Just be honest and stay calm. Apologize, let him cool off and tell him the truth. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Well, if you argue a lot possibly you are not made for each other. On the other hand you should just apologise because everything will possibly come back on the good path. If you will play this stupid "I was right" thing than you will regret it very soon, belive me.
Just ask him to forgive you and if you are very overreactive person he will probably understand that it was just another "bomb" in your character and nothing serious.
He could probably just get fed up from the arguements, the relationships are made for people to respect, love (or like) each other, to help and support each other. I can understand him in a way, it is hard to live with person iwith a very frequent arguments.
Talk to him, apologise and see what happens but do not start argument if he asks to have some time away from you or even break up. It does not mean that he will break up for long, he could as well come back to you over some time.
Just talk to him and go from there, but keep yourself calm meanwhile.

Hope that helps, I do not criticise you, I try to help :)
Hope everything will works out well for you two.

Good Lukc, Wolfy.

Answer 3

The only thing that I can say to you is, that is not fair for you to react that way at anyone because of a past relationship. That is the worst you can do to yourself, you need to give you and him as well a chance to talk, analyze and talk about where do you both want ? Remember that when in a discussion sometimes we can say things that we regret later on.
*** Say you are sorry and talk to him, let it out and then take a decision of what do you want do, continue like that or take some space to take note on your feelings and decide if you want to go on or call it quits before things get worst and you guys can't even look at each other.

Answer 4

You are going to have to go out of your way to make it work. It sounds like you both have negative feelings about it and it might be a good idea to take a break from it for the moment

Answer 5

Apologize and then give him, his space and chance to accept the apology.
One thing that can run off a man... is a woman running behind him.
So Man Up, Apologize, and then leave him be.
If he truly misses you/and him..... he'll be back.

Answer 6

Tell him what you just wrote in this question.Just say that you`ve overreacted,but with reason and that you really don`t want to break up.

Answer 7

Apologize to him. You are the one who start the fight. Well good luck~!