We get along well and laugh together a lot. I think he wants to make it an exclusive relationship. I'm not so sure. I am worried about the long term - he is a diffrent religion and culture, has no kids, never married. I am in my 40's, have two teens, and am divorced. My ideal for a partner is around my age, someone who has been married and is a Dad like myself, has the same level of life experience. This guy and I are comfortable together, but I have not committed to him. I still occasionally date others. I have not slept with him yet because of this. What do you think? Am I being smart or should I go for it? I'm worried the differences will cause a problem over time.
2006-10-08 04:18:59 · 15 answers · asked by waterbaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are a Dad? named Betsy? I am confused. Well, either way, I wouldn't sweat the whole "lifemate" thing right now, but enjoy what you two have together. Play it by ear, don't be too intense. We can make plans for what and who we want, all we want, but life has a funny way of sometimes deciding for us. Isn't it ironic?
2006-10-08 04:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by desperatehw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is 15 yrs older than me, we have been together over 5 yrs and been married for 21/2 yrs. It's the best relationship I've ever had and she says the same thing. At the beginning we were friends, watched movies together, laughed alot and had a good time together. She was worried about the age difference...it didn't bother me at all because we had so much in common. of course, she always says I am an old soul. We are both well traveled and had both been married before. Neither of us have children so it was not as complicated. I say give it a chance if you enjoy his company and have a good time together. We were both tired of being alone and had experienced bad relationships. I feel like God brought us together. We are best friends and would rather hang out together than with anybody else. It's worth a try. Age is in your mind, it's an attitude. If your personalities and goals are common ground it may end up being the best thing that's ever happened to you. I wish you the best and hope you end up as happy as we are!
2006-10-08 04:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is 24 and you are 40 with two teenagers. I am worried that you will become too attached and get hurt. Be careful.
Write a list of the things that you want in a future mate, including age (you mentioned some above) then seek out a person who meets your criteria.
P.S. There is nothing wrong with enjoying his company.
2006-10-08 04:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he good to you? Does he make you happy? Does he get along with your kids and vice versa? If so, it sounds like he is a great match for you! I married a man 4 years younger, 3 inches shorter, who is Jewish (I'm Catholic). I know how it can feel to be worried about age, appearance, and religion. But if this guy makes you feel like everything is okay and you feel better when he is around, I say go for it! Give him a chance. Good Luck with everything!
2006-10-08 04:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by sandy81676 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are risks and long term consequences that come with either choice! I doubt there is a right answer here to this question!
what do you want? You seem to already be aware that the age thing contains built in future complications.
Your call my frined!
2006-10-09 08:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by zigzagidiot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the religion and culture is acceptable t u and the kids respect him and he doesnt have a problem with them then i see no reason that u 2 cannot make a go of a relationship ..
2006-10-08 04:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It truly relies upon on them, on their adulthood. It does not matter what human beings think of of them. Are they questioning of having married? If no longer, then perhaps they might take a huge gamble and take it from there. Age truly should not matter yet he's almost youthful, he's basically 21.He could no longer understand what he truly needs in his existence.
2016-10-15 23:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you messed up on some wording lol...anyway i would agree with you you want someone that has gone through what you have alreay been through just so they know whats going on if their ever is a fight they cant use the extra baggage saying...i just dont see it happening when you have very little in common..the kids should be your main priority right now maybe ask their opinions if they are old enough
2006-10-08 04:24:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better find someone else. That age difference will become an increasing problem as time goes on.
2006-10-08 04:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pl get married, sleep with him and make him DAD.
Pl consult the Dr 4 your health.
2006-10-08 04:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋