been seeing this man for a while now and at first things were great and now i don't see him as much because he's always busy. i really like him but i'm not sure how to approach the question 'do you still want to be with me' without causing a argument or without him thinking i don't want him. i feel so depressed and thinking about ending it but don't want to until i know for sure if he wants me or not. Do any of you know the signs or can you give me any ideas on how to ask the question subtley>> please help i can't cope with this.
2006-10-08 04:04:32 · 15 answers · asked by emzie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Best thing to talk to him. Tell hinm everything you think and what you wrote here. The truth always best thing to do. Possibly he is just busy with work or whatever and it doesn't mean he is moving away from you.
If you still like or love him you should talk to him and he will not be mad at you for telling the turth if he realling loves you or like you. If he getting mad at you for that, than the person you chosen to date or live with was the wrong choice.
You should chose the person you not only comfortable with for a relationship but also the person who can understand you and accept you, for who you are.
Good luck and hope everything works out for you, Wolfy.
P.S. Just talk to him and be truthful.
2006-10-08 04:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by lone_wolf_time_to_change 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are a few ways of finding out if he wants to be with you still.
Try breaking it off... Even if he wants to then you know and you are better off without him. If you are depressed because of his lake of time with you and you feel unwanted. Then you surely are better off with someone else and should try getting out there making new friends when he is "Busy" Dont sit around being sad and letting him run your life and how you feel . Be happy you have life and you are young. When you are 80 do you wanna look back on your life thinking " I was so stupid I should have got out there and made the best of my time" Start doing things you can be proud of. Dont let life tie you down. Get some girlfriends and go clubing or something.
If you need some one to talk to, Just IM me!
2006-10-08 11:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, he may have lost interest but you can't assume this is your fault. he may just be into the chase and the first few months of bliss and then grow bored. You should tell him that you have noticed a change in him and say you are not lo longer as happy as you were. If he tries to fix it, the relationship may be worth slavaging but if he doesn't, it's best to move on. there is no sense of scooping water out of a sinking boat. abandon ship! b/c you are too good to be made to feel depressed and the right guy will come along and if he never does, that was god's plan for you.
2006-10-08 11:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has it ever crossed your mind that he may be thinking the same thing as you or feeling the same way. The only way you'll ever know is to ask him.
Yes, there is a chance it won't go the way you hope, but at least then you won't be wasting any more time.
Whats the alternative, sit around and drive yourself crazy thinking about it..
And why on earth are you thinking of ending it before you've even spoken to him about it. How stupid is that..
2006-10-08 11:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by Georgie's Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In relationships, men are basically cowards and will do anything rather than break things off. If he is lacking interest in you he is probably trying to remove himself from the relationship, best to ask him outright and suffer the consequences. I been there too, its hard but at least you will klnow for sure one way or another. Best of luck anyway .
2006-10-08 11:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he wants you to do the dirty work here ... my best advice would be to ignore him, stop calling him ... see how long it takes (if) he calls you, then you'll have your answer ...
the only real way to know is to ask ... but if he's always busy then he's probably moving on to someone else and trying not to be a jerk in your eyes in case it doesn't work out with her.
(Or maybe he's married?)
2006-10-08 11:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him your feeling pretty much alone and you want to know if he is still interested in you...tell him you need to know in order to move on with your life...if he is ignoring you, then take it that he's no longer interested, but he may just be busy....find out what the problem is and stop torturing yourself....
2006-10-08 11:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him, it's better to get htese things out in the open, because you'll only make your self ill worrying about it.
Hope you get the result you want. x
2006-10-08 11:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by Clare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should make sure that he knows that u want to be with him and then ask him if he still wants to be with you.
2006-10-08 11:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by big red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find yourself some friends and go out with them and enjoy yourself don't sit round thinking of him, psssssss he knows you will sit waiting for him when he clicks his fingers you jump. don't do it.
get out and enjoy yourself.
honestly i have been there, he will soon come round when he knows your not at his beckoned call
2006-10-08 11:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by ♥fluffykins_69♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋