Im 14 I have got a boyfriend. He proposed me just a few days back. But it seems that he is over excited by this relationship. He keeps calling me and is crazy abt me. I have started felling a bit awkward abt his behaviour. What do i do?
2006-10-08 03:49:41 · 33 answers · asked by Sweet Shraddha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-10-08 04:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by karun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, that can definitely be quite stifely...although remember that you are in the relationship because you are crazy about him too? That is frustrating though. The best thing you can do is say something although that is not always easiest at first. Just mention something like, "I'm good but I just talked to you a few minutes ago.." Keep things casual so that you don't embarrass him or get into an argument. And even though it bugs you, try not to keep a running track record about it. Because afterall, he adores you so at least, and it's just the beginning so let him be a little excited, will ya! haha! Anyway, I say just enjoy being fussed over, and keep the communication open and honest. Best of Luck!
2006-10-08 03:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Future Mrs. Beasley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you don't like that kind of attention, tell him. Feel free to talk to him about things you don't like about him. Then offer him a chance to do the same thing about you. Then work the problems. Communication is a key to successful relationship!
But... He may becoming obsessed with you... And that's not good... I'm 18, and I have been proposed last year, so I can't tell you that you are too young for that. I mean, I realize today that I was! Thank god, I broke up with him, so I didn't have time to make a BIG mistake... I can't tell from your question is he just a bit too much overwhelmed about your decision, or is he being paranoid? Whatever is the case, confront him. If he can't control his behavior, he's got a problem. I would suggest that you talk to him in some crowded place, maybe a caffee, or something, and to have there a couple of friends sitting close to you, so they can react if things get ugly. (He shouldn't be aware of their presence).
Remember, U don't need to suffer emotionally or physically from anyone! There are laws for that kind of behavior, and If he can't control himself, it's last resort...
Good luck, hope you won't need it...
2006-10-08 04:08:18 · answer #3 · answered by Looda_Plavusha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you feel awkward about your relationship, that is a sign that you should end it. You are only 14, and you have a lifetime of opportunities to fall in love with a man who loves you. He sounds possessive and that is dangerous. If you care alot about him, talk to him about taking things a little slow, and see what he says. If he does not want to, then be careful and end it. Love should make you happy and you should feel comfortable around him, not awkward. Think about this carefully, 14 is still a young age to be in a serious relationship. You should wait until you are more mature mentally and physically. Ive been there and I know.
2006-10-08 04:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take 2 steps BACK.
Trust your gut, if you are feeling awkard, then you have a good reason for that... since he's sooo crazy about you, you don't want to hurt his feelings, but you don't want to feel smothered, and uncomfortable either.
The biggest thing that happens to relationships and people when their dating, is that they loose themselves, one person may begin to make that person their EVERYTHING.... and that can be scary.
Here's some nice suggestions, that can ease up the tension, and give you some space... to be YOU:
Tell him that you promised your parents good grades in order to get something you really want, so your under strict curfew rules to study.
Tell him you promised your grandma (or any relative) that you will start volunteer or helping them with something, so that you may not be able to hang out with him as much.
Tell him at school, you got in trouble for being on the phone so much, so you have to limit your phone call time, to 15 mins, then you have to go bck to studying.
Keep an eye out if his behavior starts to make you more and more uncomfortable, and if it gets tooo weird for you, tell someone. Tell an adult!
2006-10-08 04:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by * Deep Thought * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it could be possible that you may not like it but its imperitive that you sit & discuss this with him.Also you are far too young so if he really loves you he will be ready to wait or else just let him go as he never loved you in the first place.I am sure he will understand & this relationship will blossom.
Just remember 1 thing he calls because he cares
2006-10-08 04:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by pramodvpacher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it is very simple...
What this all means is that you need to forget about romantic relationships completely-- for at least ten years (cause right now you're only going to suck at them really badly!) Now you need concentrate on loving YOURSELF, loving your parents, and on getting the best education you can get! It is clear that you are not ready for this type of complicated entanglement, and who at 14 could be? At least in this day and age. Yeah maybe in the 1800 it was the norm, but not now! It is not healthy!
This may seem to you like a bad thing, but it is not. If you step away from the hormones, learn to love YOU, find out who you are and what you stand for, and focus on good family relationships then you will be happier in the long run. I promise!
To put it simply:
You are at a crossroad...
You can either search for that wonderful "soul mate", find them, love them, fight with them, divorce them with 2.5 kids (destroying your kids' world in the process) and then spend years looking back with bitter regret..
OR you can learn about you, repair your broken relationships with your family, educate yourself, and then LATER-- find a decent partner to share life's ups and downs with, and make a solid home for any possible future children. Even this is not full proof, but at least you would be stronger and better educated. And besides, the first option is pure suicide for you and your possible progeny.
2006-10-08 03:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by DidoDeeDee 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He is probably jumping around too much because you are probably his first girlfriend.I had my first boyfriend when I was 11. I did make a mistake because it was the worst year for me. So just take it easy and tell him how you feel and cut your dates or meetings shorter and create a little space between the both of you. I ugess when you are ahead in everything like everything is going fine get closer to him.
2006-10-08 06:45:51 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your 2 young 2 get married! (which you are) tell him 2 slow his roll or your gonna be done with the relationship! tell him he's moving 2 fast and its making you a bit uncomfortable! tell him you wanna move slow and just have fun and in a some years if your still 2gether then maybe u 2 can talk about getting married!
2006-10-08 04:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by finenazfuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remain as you were when he was just ur friend...he will settle down in a few days but just remember tat ur just 14 ,still very young so dont get too close to him ( i mean physically).. 1st judge that person n until u are mentally prepared dont get physically involved with him (no matter how much he wants to have any sort of phy. relation with u )..
2006-10-08 03:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋