2006-10-08 03:19:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Both the bride and groom. Period.
2006-10-08 03:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by Carmit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride and groom should pay for their wedding unless the offer is made by their parents to help out. Traditional wedding expenses for the "who pays for what" are a little out dated, so it's all about who chooses to chip in, and who doesn't. If your father doesn't want to help out, then you shouldn't pressure him to. If you think he would resent even the asking, then start planning and see if he makes the offer. While I think that parents should help as much as they can afford to help give their children a very special day to remember, there is no way to make people fork over money if they don't want to. And you shouldn' try, all it will do is cause arguements and bad feelings.
Here's a link for the average expenses, but it's a guide not a rule.
http://www.topweddinglinks.com/etiquette.html
If you can't afford your dream wedding without outside financial assistance, then find ways to cut costs. Silk flowers instead of fresh. Renting attire instead of buying. Do your own hair, nails, makeup instead of going to the salon. Get lots of disposable cameras instead of hiring a professional photographer. Only offer the wedding cake instead of multiple desserts. Have a buffet style meal instead of a sit down meal. Or skip the meal, and have an afternoon wedding where finger foods and snacks are better than a full spread. Have the ceremony and reception at the same location to save on site fees, or have it at a friends/family members house to eliminate them all together. Skip the designer gown and opt for a cheaper name in a similar style. Try David's Bridal, they have $99 sales all the time. Make as much as you can yourself, or get friends and family to help out. Everything from the food to decorations to flowers can be done at home saving the cost of the professional. Try Michael's for supplies and how to's.
http://www.michaels.com/art/online/static?page=wedding
http://www.smartmoney.com/divorce/marriage/index.cfm?story=wedding-cutcosts
http://www.weddingsaffordable.com/cut-wedding-flowers-costs/
2006-10-08 10:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your man want to be married, as adults you should realise that whatever tradition may dictate, you have to accept responsibility for your own debts. So who "should" pay for it - that's the couple. If they are lucky enough to be offered any help at all by family, they are very lucky and there is no reason not to accept it with grateful thanks. But there is no question of expecting any parent to be responsible for paying for a wedding or anything else for you - once you are an adult anything they offer you is a gift out of the kindness of their hearts, not a duty.
2006-10-08 14:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These days, the couple should be paying for their own wedding. Sometimes either or both sets of parents can kick in some to help out.
2006-10-08 10:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I paid for our own wedding. It was nice because no one had a say in what we were choosing due to the fact they were not contributing. I did however tell my mom that if she wanted more than finger foods at the reception to anti up with the money. She did and paid over $1000 for the 3 course dinner we all had. That could be one angle that you use.
Good luck to the both of you and enjoy your day.
2006-10-08 11:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by tiggers123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess tradittionally it would be the responsibility of the bride's parents. But really, it's not 1960 anymore! My fiance and myself are paying for our wedding. But my parents want to help out, so that's fine and great. His parents want to contribute a bit as well, and that's fine. It wasn't a worry though, we were ready to take it all on ourselves.
2006-10-08 10:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by Kass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age - bride and groom.
If your dad wants to contribute its up to him.
The brides parents paying for the wedding is a relic of the days when women had to have a dowry and promised to honour and obey. Ick!
2006-10-08 10:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by Trin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, father of the bride pays for the wedding, father of the groom pays for the honeymoon, but it's not a legal requirement.
2006-10-08 10:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
More and more, it's the bride and groom that pays for everything.
Leave it up to you parents to contribute what they can or want.
People are getting married are a bit older these days with big expectations, high end tastes and costs.
2006-10-08 10:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by treday25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as i remember it the bride's family pays for the wedding, but the grooms family pays for the booze. Just say that the brides family pays for everything.
2006-10-08 10:26:31 · answer #10 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, have you actually asked your father yet. If he wont then maybe thing about splitting the cost between the groom parents and you and your hubby to be.People do this nowaday as most people dont stick to tradions anymore. You will work it out in the end.
2006-10-08 12:48:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋