If you set up a blind date and she/he turned out to be incredibly fat, would you make your excuses and leave?

Question

Not speaking for personal experience by the way - I have never had a blind date.

Have to say, I am not a shallow person and would not leave. I just wanted to know how other people think. Even thin people put on weight eventually, so you never know what you will end up like.

Answer 1

First off I never go on blind dates. IF I'm meeting someone for the first time I like to make it casual, coffee shop, bar. You set and talk for a while and then you go your separate ways and if there's a connection great and if not no biggie.

I'm fat and I have many men who are attracted to me. I'm very clean and well groomed. Have a killer smile and a great sense of humor. I'm kind and considerate.

If I have a date and my date is fat, I do not judge him and I'm more interested in hygiene and a good heart. Intelligence and a good sense of humor.

Fat people need love and acceptance too!

Answer 2

Firstly, I'd like to comment on how many people have felt the need, apropos of nothing, to begin their answer by stating that they never go on blind dates. Methinks we doth protest too much?

I went on a blind date in April 2005. The girl in question was/is a large girl (size 20). We have been engaged since August 2005. I've always liked bigger women, so perhaps my answering this question is a little biased. However, on our first date, and ever since then in fact, we clicked because of mutual physical attraction, shared interests, common sense of humour, and a real interest in each other and how we feel and think. As an exmple of this, we have speent most of today in bed and we've made love three times. (Actually, I think she may already have answered this question under the sign-in name of 'Largecurves'.)

It's interesting also that our society tends to venerate, almost to the point of a fetish, thinness as being 'the body beautiful'. Fat, or even overweight, people take a lot of stick, both overtly and sunbconsciously. Yet, at the same time as this widespread cultural and social discrimination goes on, the average Body Mass Index continues to rise, as convenience foods, sedentary lifestyles and economic surplus make the majority of us lazier and greedier! An interesting dichotomy at the heart of the modern Western world.

In a nutshell, if someone's size matters that much, you may find it difficult to form lasting and meaningful inter-personal relationships. Any anyway, if you don't go on blind dates, why are you asking this question?

Answer 3

If I went on a blind date and they turned out to be fat, I wouldn't make excuses and leave. Who knows, I may wind up having a fun evening and miss out on making a great friend, not romantic. You can't always judge a book by its cover and all people have feelings. So, if ever in that situation, stay and see what the night turns out to be. Fat people need love too, even if it is just as a friend.

Answer 4

I've never been on a blind date either, but that sounds unnecessarily hateful. I guess the trick would be to organise a time limited date, like lunch (and you have to get back to the office) at the outset. You never know, you could end up finding a new platonic friend.

Invest an hour of your life, share a meal. Remember - (S)he is taking exactly the same type of risk you are.

Answer 5

It is not the looks that counts, it's the heart inside that does, most big people like myself have big hearts and lots of love to give to the right person.
I am a 50 year old disabled man, I had a blind date back in 1984 with this pretty 23 year old girl, I was 28 years old and 21 stone. my weight soared to 30 stones after my nan died in 1989.

I married that young lady on 23 August 1986, and we celebrated our 20 thy anniversarry this year, my weight has now gone down to approx 21 stone, I have suffered everything from a brain haemorrhage after my nan died, 16 mini strokes and kidney failure and umpteen other disabilities and health complaints, but regardless of what life throws at us, our love for each other gets stronger each day.

So this slim butiful young lady picked a big guy like me and took the chance I wasn't a woman beater. I don't smoke nor drink nor do I leave my wife to go out and spend our money like some men do, my money is hers everything I own is hers and vice versa, we share life together, there is no such thing between us as this is my money etc, it is our money everything we own is owned between us. I could be dead in around 10 or so years, she knows that, but it is killing me just thinking about it.

Answer 6

No, if you are going to take the risk of a blind date you should have the courage to face the consequences and at least see the event through.

You also have to consider that the other person, fat or otherwise, may not like you; but you would expect them to have the manners not to run screaming!

Answer 7

I think if it was me I would carry on with the date as I don't really like to offend people but my own preference is for a slimmer person, however there are guys out there that are actually turned on by a fuller figured lady and find slimmer ladies to be a bit of a turn off so I guess it all depends on what the other person is looking for.

Answer 8

Well if I set up a blind date and they turned out to be incredibly shallow, I would make my excuses and leave.

Sheesh.

Answer 9

What I have done is to stay , have a couple of drinks, and after an appropriate amount of time say I need to be somewhere.

If you ever go on a blind date, establish beforehand that you only have a small amount of time available for that meeting. That way you can duck out quickly and safely, or you can extend it saying the rest of your evening was freed up!

Answer 10

Blind dates are always a gamble. The important things is not to be rude or nasty. I dated a woman on a blind date, she was attractive and friendly, I didn't see her after our "date," at dinner she announced that she was not giving me any poontang that night. After I picked up my fork , I reminded her that I hadn't asked. There are many pitfalls to blind dates.