I started dating someone about 3 months ago, I thought everything was going good, then last night out of the blue he said "Your out of my life for good". I was totally caught off guard, I have been nothing but good to him and now I feel like my heart is broken. This is not kindergarten, he said this to me over the phone, after I just left where we were at together, I had to run some errands. After we talked (actually it was him doing all the talking) I got 2 messages on my phone saying he knew that I was cheating on him, which is so not true. At the beginning of our relationship, he said he just wanted to be friends with benefits, and then we started to have genuine feelings for each other. I am so confused and I don't want to hear "I told you so" from my parents. Any advice on how to deal with this would help. Honestly, I think there is more to him, maybe I wasn't good enough, or he just wanted to be single. I don't know, I am on an emotional rollercoaster right now
2006-10-08 01:27:49 · 8 answers · asked by alleybug_2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ohh boy ....
Okay ""no I told you so""
Let me give you one story, and from this story you should see this is the RISK in dealing with relationships. Relationships is like the lotto it's ALWAYS this chance. It's a Chance this will work out, It's a Chance it mite not. Remember this ... When you get in a relationship with a guy, I don't care how serious he is, it could END the next day. OR it could last for years.
I had a friend who was dating this girl for 4 years, and I was by him one night as usual we chill and have a few beers, and he got up and walked in the room where is g/f was, know he was planning to get married to her in like 9 months, so after about 10 minutes, he didn't come back out, so I started snooping around and I heard them two like rowing and he was telling her how he need to space to think, and she was pleading, no no don't end this relationship, I'll wait for you, you need 5 years to think, I'll wait, and my boy was dropping it light, he was like noo I don't want you to wait. I hurried tip toed back where I was, and I was shocked, DAM he ending the relationship, and I was like but they suppose to be getting married, what the family gone say. But listen, that's the RISK.
Forget about you, okay sweety, you MUST get this, any time you get in a relationship with a guy, REALIZE he could pick-up and leave ANY DAY.
STOP all the confused minds, up all night saying you aren't fine enough. STOP all of it. Just get this .. As soon as you agree and start a relationship. That guy CAN leave ANY DAY. And unfortunately in your case, he left. I'm holding my mouth from saying "I told you so", but if you'd understand this RISK. Whenever he'd leave you, it wouldn't BUG you like this.
Okay sweety (And don't cry ..okay) cuz I really hate to see ppl go through stuff like this,
2006-10-08 05:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by hhgdgdfg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to take some time to reflect over everything that has transpired. While there are no obvious reasons for what happened, maybe there were clues during the last few days. Something said or done that just didn't make sense. At any rate, this doesn't sound like an equal relationship. He does all the talking, he makes the rules, he accuses, he breaks up. Never think that you weren't good enough. He may have wanted to just be single, and maybe he felt more committed to you than he wanted to feel. This doesn't excuse his behavior. Let him know that you aren't playing his ridiculous game.
2006-10-08 01:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really understand what you must be going through at the moment - being dumped like that.
I believe you need to seat back a little and think about what must have got him to react that way. If you can't honestly find anything you've done wrong then you must set up a meeting with him to ask him exactly what the problem is.
If his only excuse is that you are cheating on him - and you're not, try to convince him. Ask him from whom he's being getting such incorrect info from.
If he still wont yield, then it must be that he's found someone else and just said that to break up with you. Or perhaps he just wanted to chicken out of the relationship.
In any case, I think if he's not man enough to express himself to you - whom he's being dating all the while, then he must be a dick head.
2006-10-08 02:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by topgun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably the one who was cheating !
be gald you don't have to deal w/ him anymore, it
sounds like he does not know what he wants out of
a relationship right now & he has some thinking & growing up to do. Take Care & remember is was nothing you said or did, it's just the way he is @ the present time.
2006-10-08 01:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be all he wanted was sex, then he got some feelings for you, maybe a bad case of consience, and then he talked with his buddies and realized all he wanted was sex so this other girl came along who was better so he just ditched you. The I know u were cheating thing is sooooo old ive used it so many times myself. lol
2006-10-08 01:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by cowboysfan4lyfe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone else is either in love with him or u, in either case, u have to clear the doubt, try to get the message across through ur best trusted friend who can convey the right message and find out who the other person is!
2006-10-08 01:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by Caprisco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't love you. He just wanted to use you until he could find something he considers better. never speak to him again seeing as he didn't have the common decency to even break up with you face to face. his saying you're cheating on him implies he's cheating on you and doesn't want to be caught.
2006-10-08 01:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by truckinmann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..dumped on the telli..that's cold..Forget about this user and abuser and find a real man who knows how to treat a lady!
2006-10-08 01:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋