our parents, especially his, haven't been able to accept our relationship. i really love him but i don't think i love him enough to convert. also, he told me before that he will not force me to convert but recently, he has been hinting for us to go to religious class together. i'm so lost...
2006-10-08 01:19:19 · 9 answers · asked by Angie Pastrami 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
questions about our future have really started to bug me now.
like if we do get married and have kids, what will their religion be?
since we both clearly do not want to convert, what happens when we have different festivities or religious obligations? (like i go to church every saturday and sunday and he has to fast. christmas and hari raya..)
i think it's such a pity that we have to give up love for religion...
2006-10-08 06:01:05 · update #1
I am a muslim and according to the Islamic law, a muslim man can marry a woman from the people of the book. People of the book are muslims, christians and jews. According to islamic law, you can marry and so tell him that.
Don't convert for him, read the quran and if you think islam is the right religion then convert, otherwise just be who you are, I mean its your right to believe in whatever faith you want
2006-10-08 01:27:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi Angie,
it Happened to me as well twice! The first lasted for 2,5 years, but it came to end, without any reason, but i believe it's because of our religions. The second time, even worse, only for 2 months. I love him, he loves me as well. He asked me whether i want to marry him or not, with one condition, it should be in the mosque.
Well, i dont mind to have different religion husband, but same to you, i think my love is not big enough to convert my religion..
the point is, such kind relationship never works!!!
well, good luck! [ I think i know where u are from :) ]
2006-10-08 08:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by dayBYday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart. I know that if your a woman, it does not really follow that you have to convery to islam. But if you were a muslim woman, then the guy has to convert. I dont really know why. But i think he was hinting not because he wants you to convert but maybe try to learn a little of his religion. Maybe this could also bridge the gap bet you and his parents :-) Give it a try...
2006-10-08 08:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow! You realise that marriage is out of the question. His parents will never allow it. One of my friends went through the whole thing, even the conversion, but it still wasn't good enough. Be careful and talk to your friends and family. If someone really loves you, they love all of you and not try to change your beliefs.
2006-10-08 08:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by Funny Bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are all on different roads to the same place. why "convert" someone? You love him or you dont. simple. all wars in history have been fought over religious differences. people want others to see things exactly the way they do. many lives have been lost, much suffering has come from religious "ego". try love. it works.
2006-10-08 08:31:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do anything you're not comfortable with! If you don't genuinly believe in his religion, and you only convert for him, it won't disrespectful to yourself and to the religion. If he loves you, he'll accept you for what you believe.
2006-10-08 08:21:20 · answer #6 · answered by Jane D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't convert. If he loves you he wouldn't force you. I've tried a muslim guy too, trust me they've hell a lot of rules!
2006-10-08 08:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by Jordaan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be unequally yoked. The word is still true.
2006-10-08 08:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by fred k 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Damnit man!
2006-10-08 08:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋