The other night i dated again with this guy. We had fun and everything runs smoothly. he taken care of me. he called me early in the morning and we talked. i asked him where will be the relationship will go. asking him what is his intention with me and he answered he wanted to be as good friends first. but couldnt understand him coz he told me before that he only wants me to date him. if he knew that i dated other guys he will just keep me as friend and will not pursue our dating anymore. i like him but i think its being unfair coz i dont know where this relationship going to. next day he didnt call instead i texted him asking whats wrong. he didnt answer until midnight he called me that its him and not me who is wrong. he said he likes me but why is it he only likes us to be friends only? And the thing that he was saying about dating, do u think its fair?what will i do?
2006-10-08 01:05:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are being too pushy and asking too much too soon. You are literally pushing him away. Relax and let the relationship develop naturally or he will totally pull away from you because men do not like clingy, demanding woman who tend to smother them.
2006-10-08 01:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave this guy alone you are looking for a relationship he isnt. You are both dating so why do you think he would be upset if you date someone else? I doubt if he would. You have only had one date with this guy and then he didnt call the next day. Thats a sign that he doesnt want to be seriously involved. Dont keep asking where the relationship is going that might have been what turned him off before. Why do you think you had to define the relationship so quick. It would have been easier for you just to hang out and see where things were heading. Remember this the next time you like a guy dont move so fast.
2006-10-08 08:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is to look for a partner to marry. What you are doing on dates is up to the two of you. I did not mean that to sound in a bad way. If a prospect is becoming more than just another date then it is not right to keep seeing others. But if you see that it is not become that way then dating others is just keeping your options open because you are still looking. Even when dating and having just one that you are seeing only you still need friends but need to not look from other peoples view as a second relationship kind of thing. Hope you undrstand what i've tried to say.
2006-10-08 08:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move on girl. the purpose you go on dates is to find out if you and the other person will be good for each other. as harsh as this may sound, he looks like he wants you to stay friends and nothing futher. you are lucky he even told you.other guys will just not return your calls or texts. so there is no 'relationship', he says he wants you to be friends. what other hints do you want?
do you want him to say, 'listen i just do not like you in that way? he has been a nice gentleman, now let him go!
2006-10-08 08:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by naa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
waiting is a thing that i hate most...
it can be one of his best reason not to build a relationship with you......
or maybe he wants to have a slow strong relationship with you...
he loves you but he might not really sure to what he wants..
he wants to have a long relationship i think... marry you
but of course everything need a process and being one of his friend is one of his ideal things to know you better.. patience is the key...
well, instead of questioning whether this relationship will be working or not.. it's better for you to know or check some of his male friends. just to know him better and check whether he really loves you or plays game with u...
2006-10-08 08:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by Red_aS_blOoD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U think u are confused???
Sounds to me like this guy is confused...
Maybe he likes u lots plus he likes his "freedom" and maybe it's a difficult choice.
or...
He got hurt and not sure to take the risk...
My bet is the latter -- if it is, take it slow and stay friends and see what happens
If you start with friendship and nothing happens, you still have a friend!!
2006-10-08 08:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by FBiT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, dont go one step ahead of him. Just take it slow, if he wants you to be friends first then be a friend and be yourself. Maybe later on he will realize that you are the girl he loves. But this does not mean you have to wait for him forever. go on with life....
2006-10-08 08:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by j6shawie26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is never fair, life is what you make it ,bite the bit and goto the next stage ,if your date wants you let him persue you, you have aworld full of people looking for love, billions of men who want you for just who you are
2006-10-08 08:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by Peter B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well apparently hes just another confused loser. Dump his @$$ on the curb
2006-10-08 08:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by datehelpplz321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry dear... from the theases i read above, i don't see much of a hope. if he is not concerned at all, what chances do u have anyway.
2006-10-08 08:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by Caprisco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋