Why do teenagers hardly ever listen and when you say don't do something they still do it?

Question

Like this 14 & 15 year old guys..do theyact like that on purpose?

Answer 1

I recommend an adolescent psychology class... the way the teenage mind works & makes decisions is amazing. Teenagers are so fragile, but they have no idea how much love, acceptance, & guidance they really need. Believe it or not, they can't help it. Poor teenage souls... bless their lil hearts :)

I would not be a teenager again if someone paid me!!!

Answer 2

I have a 15yr od daughter and an 18yr old son. I have figured out that when you tell a teenager not to do something it is the thing they most want to do! They like to push limits and it is always more fun to do something you aren't supposed to. think back to when you were that age. Hell, it was a lot more fun to drink before you were of age wasn't it? I am in my late 30's and even though I know my mom is probably right I still don't like to do what she thinks is best. Teens are trying to come into their own and like to think they know better than their parents. They also think adults have never experienced what they are going through and that you are so old you could never relate! I have worked hard to have a very open relationship with both of my kids. there is nothing we don't talk about. Most of their friends come to me to talk about things too. I am always honest with them. The key is to really be interested in what they are doing, what music they listen to, who their friends are, what boys/girls they like. Pick your battles. Don't always be telling them what to do. Give them choices and let them choose. My daughter has certain chores to do every week. They are written down and she checks them off as she does them. There is a set punishment if they are not done by Friday. I don't harp on her about them, she chooses the day and time she gets them done. It gives her a little more control over her life and lets her know I trust her to be responsible. Teenagers are like a different species. I don't think they act the way they do on purpose. I think it is a combination of hormones, friends, the media, and their brains. They will grow out of it eventually. We all did ....didn't we?(smile)

Answer 3

Because didn't you know.. teenagers already know everything! The fact that they are still yet to participate in the real world is merely a minor detail. Boys at that age have this thing developing called an ego which gets bigger everyday making them truely believe that they are the hottest, coolest, smartest person that ever lived. I would like to say that it passes as they get older but there are only a small percentage of males that escape its clutches.

Answer 4

This is almost a subconcious thing.

We'll use drinking alcohol as an example here. You can tell a teenager not to do it, but weather they do or not is completely up to them.

Most of a teenager's 'oppositional deffiance' is all based on the need to experiment. If we don't experiment with certain things, then we tend to ask ourselves 'what will it be like?'

Don't get me wrong, talking with us about certain things like drugs, alcohol, and cigarettes does help educate us as to why we shouldn't do these things, but it doesn't do anything to curb innocent curiousity.

Answer 5

they listen they just don't see the same outcome as you.all children have the eyes of a child.they are looking at this world with children eyes.It's almost like Adam and eve who were so innocent and the world was so very wonderful until they wanted to think for themselves.your job is rabbi which means teacher.our job as parents is to tell them what's right,it's our job to fill their ears and head with knowledge.they probably appear to not listen because trouble eludes them for the time being,but when their actions cause them strife your words will ring in their ears and in their hearts and they then will know what to do,why?because you the parent bugged them constantly concerning the very things they denied doing.had you not put all you could into your child they would have nothing to refer back to in times of trouble.The best thing of all is when they are grown up, I know you think you all won't make it, but when they do and have kids of their own they will understand your trials and troubles and they will have knowledge of how to handle it because you showed them early in life when you thought they weren't listening.Tupac the rapper said "they'll never understand until they walk in your shoes"talking about the kids.keep talking and keep your rules and keep being in charge,it will get better,after while.I have raised 5 daughters,! god daughter and 2 nephews.I now have 26 grands and 1 great gran.I know of what I speak. good luck and the kids lose when the parents give up.fight for them now,fight with them now and they will be better people for the world later.

Answer 6

Because as teenagers they know the Truth
And that is you are old and cant be responsible for all the stupid things that you have learned through out your life and that because they know everything they can never be wrong
You see experience will never be more accurate than my friend says or some one told me . so you will learn in time that until they reach oldness like 20 you are wrong like live with it old dude

Answer 7

I've blocked out all memories of being a 14-15 year old guy, out of shame. I'm not quite sure what comes over us...

Answer 8

hi the problem with teenagers ( i've raised 2 boys) is that they are neither child nor adult therefore are trying to make up their minds about everything so when you tell them what to do they have to rebel and do the opposite don't worry they grow out of that and i am sure will become very responsible adults

Answer 9

Raging hormones are to blame.

Answer 10

They are starting to assert their independence.