I've been in a relationship with a girl I met online for seven months now, talking practically every night via IM, phone, or video chat. Neither of us doubts the other's devotion - we agreed from the beginning that a long-distance relationship would be difficult, but we wanted to try it anyway.
I really got my hopes up about finally getting to go see her during fall break (next week), but unfortunately financial problems seem to have gotten in the way. I may not get to see her until spring break, and the heartache is starting to get really bad. Any advice on what we can do - as a couple or individually - to try to fend off our loneliness in the meantime?
When we do finally get to meet, it'll probably only be for a few days. We've given it a lot of thought and are planning a sort of "falling in love all over again" episode, since we'll have a lot to learn about each other that can't be conveyed online. Any advice on how to make this go over well?
(Note that we're both chaste.)
2006-10-07 23:14:49 · 5 answers · asked by Pif 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
(and by chaste, I mean no sex :P)
2006-10-07 23:15:22 · update #1
With LD relationships, planning is key. You need to plan your time together so that you're neither bored nor overwhelmed. Trust me... it is HARD! My hubby and I were long-distance the whole time I was in college... all 4 years! And all of them with us at least 1800 miles apart... sometimes more when one of us was out of the country. When we were together, we made memories.... we went to places & did activities that we both loved. We tried out new theme parks or restaurants that we'd never been to. We did regular date things like going to the mall or to a movie, or just spent time hanging out with & getting to know each other's friends & families. It was so amazing.... :)
It seems like you have a good idea on how to make it work though... so keep up your train of thought, and I'm sure you guys will have a dynamic relationship. Hubby and I made it work... we've been together 10 yrs now, and married for 5!!! :) Best wishes for you & your relationship!
2006-10-07 23:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by Jemmie Vee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do agree long distance relationships are hard to make work...i am sorry that money will stand in your way of meeting her...i have heard of some real good relationships that come out of on line dating though....but it is good you both do not go out with others...but if it is meant to be then i think all will work out...but it is not going to be easy...and i also think meeting in person is going to be all a different thing that writing emails and talking on line....all i can say is stay busy with your work or whatever you can....you should of really saved money for this meeting though...all i can say is good luck to both of you...i know i have tried long distance relationships but i have learned not to trust so much as i have grown older...without trust you have nothing at all.....
2006-10-08 06:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch Napoleon Dynamite regarding Chip and Lafawnda.
2006-10-08 06:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Airline tickets are relatively cheap these days. Go to her. Stay at a cheap hotel and eat at her parents house. You could do it for less than $400
2006-10-08 06:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow,,if your both chaste what can you do in person that you havent done already except hug each other , then continue the correspondence,, otherwise sleep together,, the illogic of such a question confuse me
2006-10-08 06:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by kewl69charger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋