Serious ? the Bible says that a wife may win her husband to Christ if she is being submissive and loving etc?

Question

but what if the husband wil never turn to Christ no matter how much she tries? and she loves her husband and doesnt want him to go to hell? in my case i'm becoming spiritually drained...my husband is either dead or sleeping spiritually, he cannot love others and/or will not. i am a generous giving kind of person, he prevents me from giving to others in need. b/c we are together w/money i have to ask him if i can help a family member and not a lot of money but smallfavors that are normal anyone would do them, he says no because that person will always ask. he doesnt even want to understand. gosh its so hard to explain in such few wrods here. but basically i canot understand my husbands logic! he looks down on "giving" and me i am giving he frowns upon it always fearing that if he lets me give i wil make him poor isnt that insane! i cannot lend a brother $30! i cannot send a poor third world country cousin some cream to heal his surgical scar!...serious answers please only

Yes I have to ask him to pray, he never initiates praying he never initiates going to church...and he gets angry at me when i say "if i don't initiate going to church, we stay home"...

No, I am European American

Answer 1

Yes
1 Corinthians 15:33Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.
Relax let grace take it's course let God's grace give you peace
Romans 11:6And if by grace, then is it no more of works: otherwise grace is no more grace. But if it be of works, then it is no more grace: otherwise work is no more work.
You may be working to hard or thinking to hard on it! No offense do you have to ask him to pray?
Ephesians 6:18Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;
Philippians 4:6Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
Remember what Jesus said!!!!
Matthew 21:22And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.
Matthew 7:7Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:
If you don't see results right away.....encourage your self with this
"2 Corinthians 5:7(For we walk by faith, not by sight:)"
Finally, till you receive the promise walk as this wise;
1 John 2:24Let that therefore abide in you, which ye have heard from the beginning. If that which ye have heard from the beginning shall remain in you, ye also shall continue in the Son, and in the Father.
Your true goal is this since you do have the power to sent him (husband)to heaven or hell; walk in grace
Philippians 4:7And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

I beleive in you

You can have inner grace!

I pray with you too
Matthew 18:19Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.

Peace!!!

Answer 2

Every couple needs a few things to argue about. You have yours.

Agree to disagree on these points.

Tell your husband these things are important to you, but don't try to explain why. Just be firm.

Tell him you intend to set aside a certain amount of each month's income for your charitable works.

Negotiate the exact amount, if necessary, but don't back down.

Then, set up your own special fund for that purpose, adding the same amount to it each month, and drawing from it, as necessary.

They used to call these "rainy day funds" or "butter 'n egg money".

Make it clear to him that you won't exceed the agreed monthly amount without discussing it with him, that it's easily affordable, and that you're not ever going to allow it to get out of control.

If he says no, ask him if he really wants to make a big issue out of something so insignificant. Then, say absolutely nothing, and wait for his response.

If he has any sense at all, he'll realize this is one of those things that he can't possibly win, and he'll give in.

If he continues to make a fuss, you may have much more serious marital issues with which to deal.

By the way, the most significant part of the Bible verse you mentioned is the part about husbands loving their wives like Jesus loved the church ... being willing to sacrifice everything, even his own life, if necessary.

Don't give up on prayer, either. God often uses the faults of one marital partner to help sanctify the other, eventually blessing both.

This could take a lifetime, but what other more important things do you have to do, in the mean time?

May God bless you and your family.

Answer 3

Let's put things right first.
The Bible does not know about Christ. It was before Christ came.
And there is no relationship between Christ and what deep inside we are. If your husband is bad, it is not the Bible or Christ who are going to get him on the good path of making good actions.
The solution to this resides in the way you deal with his problem in a very diplomatic manner.
Dont use religion if he's not into it. Religion never helps in desperate cases.

Answer 4

I have a unique relationship with my wife. I would lay down my very life for her, as Christ would the church. She is also the most Christ-like person on earth that I have ever met. Marriage isn't 50/50. It's 100/100. I just paid for her to take a trip to Europe to see our daughter. I pick her up at midnight from the airport. Please pray for travel mercies for her. I miss her so much.

Answer 5

The Bible does not say that by being submissive to your husband that you can win your husband to Christ. What it does say is this: 1st Corinthians 7
13And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. 14For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are (A)holy. 15Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called [a]us (B)to peace.

now what can you do for your husband? The best thing you could do for him is to pray that God would give him a wake up call. Interceed before the throne of Grace for him.

Answer 6

I witnessed someone go through the same thing for 10 years. The fact is he is sanctified by you but not saved. He must make that choice on his own and he cannot depend on you to make him happy and the same goes from you. Happiness comes from a personal relationship with Christ. If you are not being spiritually fed and are not able to be a blessing to others and grow, then you must evaluate exactly what role he is playing at this time in your life and why. Why all of a sudden when you are able to be a blessing are you being stopped. I feel you know the answer to this one you just need to be told it. You gotta make Christ first before husband. If he cannot be on this journey with you than you need to focus on your walk alone. Easier said then done I know. A woman's heart is for her man. But it is definite that your faith in Christ causes you to prosper economically so you can give freely, without the need of lend or return. You will be blessed so you can bless others.

Answer 7

You speak like a Filipino I think. It appears to me that perhaps you lack communication with your husband in matters of finance and why he is concerned. You may see some givings as a priority but he may not. You are implying that he is not a Christian but you knew this I assume before you married.
I would suggest that you pray for him and if you ever can, pray with him. You may be the one God choose to be with him at this time and if you believe there is always a purpose or plan remember this, things are done in God's time, not ours, so if you love your husband tell him and respect him as the head of your home life. Maybe as well there was a time of great need in his life that he knows of and you do not. He may be doing this as well in his way to provide and protect you. Peace..

Answer 8

I really don't know what to tell you
except the Bible speaks about unequally yoked

what this means is a person married to someone who does not believe

I understand that you love him and for this I hope you are strong in this relationship because it will drain you mentally and physically

I also know that you may have shed many tears over this with him...
Speak to God and ask Him to guide you in the right path

This really may not be the right path for you in life.......I hate to see people break apart but I also hate to see someone who gives there all and end up in the end of their life with nothing but pain


Sister......I will pray for you

Answer 9

The relationship of a man or women who does not beleive in christ with someone who does, means if married has to stay together unless adultery or death precides.. but you are to be faithful to christ in this relationship to him.. it is hard.. but you never know when or if God made intercede . Give what you can, but make sure it does not drain your finances between your husband and you.... Giving is not always by money, you have time to offer, advice....not always giving money away...

Answer 10

I can say,this is me and what I go through..If you want truth,this is what the Lord spoke to me when I was in this fire..He spoke very clearly, to let him do the work and for me to praise him,I was not the author of any man..and he was more than capable to turn even the hardest man around..He also said for me to work our my own salvation with fear and trembling..When I learned how to let go and let God,,thats when change came to my home..I now have a husband I have always wanted,one who desires to make me happy and not himself..