why don't girls like me... ?

Question

Okey... I am very well maintained.. Well dressed (See: Label Whore), Groomed, Smooth manicured hands.. the whole bit. I have a sense of confidence about me, but not so much that I appear cocky. I respect wemon, using words such as 'beautiful', rather than 'hot'.. and such. I am loyal, trusting, attentative (I won't forget your birthday), I'll even notice when you color your hair (No matter how subtle it may be). I care about the well being of everybody I come in contact with, even if they dislike me. Peace not war. I believe that I am a good looking male, I am 20 years old, Spanish (Fluent), 5'9'', 153 pounds, I work out on a regular basis. I love all women, and who they are. Why don't girls like me? Do they feel intimidated by me? Do they see me as a player? I swear im not! I'm not trying to hard.. This is just how I am. Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic... eventually, she'll... come by. Right? This sucks. ('GO' here for photo... http://www.ratemybody.com/profile_749786_checho.html)

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lets get one thing straight.. I'm not.. 'self-centred', I'm not God's gift to women, I'm the guy that hooks you up with my friend, because I think you two are good for each other... I don't fall in 'love' in a split second.. I'm not in love with the mirror. I' interested in those things... 'what are you into', 'What I'm into', my likes. my dislikes.. I want to get to know you as a person.. I don't have this self of self that you think I have, please.. Get it right. Seriously. This is something serious, the picutres you see.. That's the 'internet me', I am, 'exactly what I say I am. Chad_G, you had the best answer so far.. But, if anybody can seriously relate to this question, I'd love your feedback.

***lot's of grammatical mistakes.

Answer 1

HA! You sure your not gay? Or maybe your just too full of yourself.

Answer 2

Chin up son, i am sorry to bust your balls but you are just klike every other guy you Know every guy hasa these attributes under the cover even the meanest. Its not that women dont like you but i bet you have not been putting yourself out there why i say that? because you sound reserved, the stay at home type, who goes out seldomly the kind who sees one hottie (yes i said it hottie) and goes nut and think that she is the one. Ask your self this question how do you catch a fish? Do you just sit by the waters edge not trying or without some means (a fishing rod, line) or do you go where they are and try to get at it and not stopping at the first bite. Hey i am not bashing you because truth be told every guy has this problem some time in their lifetime so if you want you could do like me and search my behviour, like going out often, making more friends and yes not trying to say that the next girln i talk to is the one but rateher that she will be my friend then guess what i now have morfe female friends that either adore me or are recomending me to their friends and some male friends that are trying to hook me upn with their girl friends sisters ans friends so now i am sort a like one of them eligible bachlor type. lol

Answer 3

Pendeho . Mate its a fact looks dont really count i get 8.7 on hot or not and rated attractive be woman , but thats not enougth it seems like nice guys finnish last howether woman are attracted to guys who are not the average boring same as everyone else type of guy you know trying to buy a woman etc it doesent work how are you going about approching them etc without knowing about all that i cant help i reccomend you checkout www.daviddeangelo.com and www.double yourdating.com same site but the info is spot on and its not what you think just sighn up for the free newsletter .

Also try not to get pissed off i mean everyone has troubles with the opersit sex but id say your dress style is not bad just well work on personality ie more charming , funny but not a dork . The ability to talk to anyone and be confident with them like youve known them for years but you have only just met them is a good skil to learn you know if your chating to a supermodel or ya best mate the same level of confidence etc . Good luck man .

Answer 4

Perhaps you are over confident. We appreciate that you think you can respect us, but no one's perfect and you shouldn't expect us to come flocking to you because you think you're good for us.

Normally, it's customary for the guy to take the first initiative. Ask someone you like out on a date ... give her your phone number ... something. If she's not interested, that's her problem - right? Just be patient and go for it. The worst anyone can say is "no". Really. And I'll tell you most of the time we say yes ;)

Answer 5

Maybe because your on a dating site, they might wonder, is there a hidden part to his personality? Why doesn't he already have a g/f, why would he go to this site? can't he get a date elsewhere? I personally think you look good but the part about the cocaine bit might put some other women off..because...drugs is a total off for us. Also, there have been many true stories about men that are already commited that go to dating sites to two time so many women may think that you are doing this. I personally think that it's better to meet someone off a dating site. If your as good as you say that you are, you should have good luck.

Answer 6

Women don't like you because you're way too full of yourself. Peel your face off the mirror and your bod away from in front of a camera and get involved in life a little. Become the man a woman would want to be attracted to by showing that you care about something other than yourself.

Answer 7

Well i have a similar issues. But not that people hate me. But i ahppened to find out that someone had spread a rumour that i thought i was all that, rich and a complete show off. So for a while i had trouble making new friends.

Apart from this, i sort of have this attitude that i only smile at people if they smile at me first. this is so becauze, initially i used to smile at averyone, but it was rather embarassing when they didnt smile back or didnt even see me. So see if u are in the same boat.

Answer 8

I don't want to be harsh but you sound really self centred and superficial...What are you into? Like do you read? Do like movies? Documentories? What do you believe in? And don't say "love not war" because that is really undefinable.

What makes you angry? What makes you happy? What makes you laugh so hard you think that your going to wet your pants? What makes you so angry that you just want to scream?

Most people don't care about how good you look or how good your body is, they care about how big your heart is and how you view the world.

Good Luck

Answer 9

Mybe you try too hard. And you have to let someone u like know subtly that you like her. believe me, the better looking you are, the harder it will be as girls will label you as a playa. Its normal. SO make solid friendships to start with, don't be too hasty about finding THE GIRL. Just mingle without strings attached. You will find someone attracted to you for your personality and vice versa. Let people get to know you for what you have on the inside rather that your physical

Good luck!

Answer 10

I think no other girl like you because you do not have self-confidence.I have the experience like this but I can solved this problem slow down.I don't care no other person like me.I never play them.I pay attention to my job.I never pay attention what they say.I like the crazy girl.I'm so sad and unhappy.I still happy-go -lucky girl.I happy for my life.You can enjoy your life with choosing your couple or friend to solve your friend.This can make fresh and happy.

Answer 11

Be careful that your confidence doesn't come across as arrogance. In your pictures you look handsome, but not friendly, and certainly not approachable. You may want to work on that aspect of your image, and be careful not to come across as materialistic, unless you actually are. As far as true love goes, who knows when it comes, it could happen tomorrow, or in ten years. Be patient and enjoy life....that in itself will draw people to you.