After my friend had sex with her ex boyfriend she has had some kind of obsession with him. She calls him every night she waits outside of his class room for class to end and she will find out where he is going so she can follow him. If any one can tell me if she has some kind of Obsessive-compulsive disorder i would greatly Appreciate it.
Angela
2006-10-07 22:12:35 · 17 answers · asked by Angie L 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
That's not OCD... *sigh*... That's just regular obsession. She may just be the clingy/jealous type, so she tails him and has to be around him all the time.
2006-10-07 22:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nowhere close to OCD I'm glad to say. And I have an inkling the DSM IV doesn't touch on personal post-coital over-attachment either. She doesn't have a mental illness, but her behaviour is definitely not healthy in the long term.
How old is your friend? Was he her first? It sounds like she's got some unfinished business with him, which is probably why she won't let go. Have you asked her why she won't leave him alone? If you talk to her about how she's feeling, she may open up and tell you what's wrong.
She probably thought there was more to the relationship than he did, and can't accept that it is over.
She may tell you she's still 'in love' with him, which may be completely true to her. Unfortunately, without reciprocation it's not going to go very far or end very well.
She'll grow out of it, but she'll need time; and a close friend who cares about her. You're on to a good start, now just talk to her.
Be supportive, don't tell her anything she's feeling is 'bad' or 'wrong'. Just be supportive of how she's feeling.
Everyone has a right to be upset and want closure. Men and women are different when it comes to sex and relationships. It sucks, but it's true. Men hunt, women nest.
She'll be okay. Just be there for her.
2006-10-07 22:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by frouste 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no therapist but just from experiences I've been through myself and friends growing up I would say no, she does not have a mental illness. There's obviously a lot more to this story but in most cases if you give a relationship that ended a 2nd shot, no one wants to fail again. Its likely the relationship ended due to some 3rd person and she's doing everything she can to block that from happening again. I guess the real issue is, is the ex ok with it? If not, it could lead to stalking or other unhealthy behavior.
2006-10-07 22:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by Goot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sprung, yes. Crazy, no...LOL...some women(or girls, depending on how old she is) have a hard time seperating sex from love, love from lust, etc. It seems that she is pretty inexperienced and knows the difference between neither. Unfortunately it will take someone breaking her heart to get her to wisen up and move on. I can give you an example from my own life: when I gave up my virginity, I called dude everyday afterwards to tell him how much I "loved" him and followed him to every class I could when we were in school. Needless to say he broke up with me and took someone else to prom. I was hurt and blue for about a week-and then I moved on, got a new prom date, and learned not to be so clingy...
So the moral to this story is, no, your friend's not crazy-just a little inexperienced and sprung...she'll grow out of it!
2006-10-07 22:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like a manic obsession to me.
she might be fine otherwise but her intercourse seems to have been traumatic 'in a good way' to her maybe. But if he has lost interest to her she will still be stalking him.
Its happened to me where I found myself obsessed before and its really no picnic. I can tell you that she will starve his attention even negativity and think she can turn it positive.
Its also happened to me where a girl kept coming after me when I broke it off with her. She kept calling. Near the end of it I was chewing her out for over 1 hour during a phone conversation trying to wake her up. She came to my place at 3am and got extremely kinky in response. it wasnt til weeks later when i cut her off completely, changed my number and moved suddenly that she finally gave up. 2 months later when i ran into her again she said 'thank you' to me for cutting her off and not reporting her to the police.
2006-10-07 22:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by jorluke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she want more than just sex & now she wants him and want him at any cost bad idea having sex with an ex. now she thinks that she can get back with him but realy can't & is to obsessive to she that she will not have him. this is something she has to work out she has a disorder but i don't know what it is called.
2006-10-07 22:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by Mexicool187 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a form of addiction.
Your friend is exhibiting signs of having an addictive personality.
Some people are addicted to alcohol, others to cigarettes and others to men they have had sex with. It has to do with chemicals in the brain and hormones like oxitosin which creates a bonding. It is very unhealthy behavior for her and yes, she needs help. Being addicted to a person is dangerous.
2006-10-07 22:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your buddy is likely tormented by some form of schizophrenia. it quite is characterised by and massive by delusions and different varieties of hallucinations and paranoia. it truly is an particularly severe subject and you'd be cautioned to assist your buddy look for scientific help, as schizophrenia left untreated finally leads to substantial melancholy, stress problems and substance abuse.
2016-10-15 23:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not compulsive," just in love with the idea she is in love".
She wants him back from what you are saying but having sex to get him back is not the answer just creates more problems.Tell her to get over it cuz he is just going to keep using her.She has her whole life ahead of her.Tell her to grow up!
2006-10-07 22:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by bonz6936 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She maynot be have a mental illness.But she may have some mental changing after having sex so she always go after him.I think this is not a illness.
2006-10-07 22:20:28 · answer #10 · answered by wel_come1986 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋