On neglect?

Question

What is neglect? How do you know if you are being neglected? Can teens be neglected? I don't even mean neglect that is illegal. What if you just feel like your parents don't give you enough attention ( like were you trully don't get much attention) and you feel like they don't really care? Like, I feel like my mother neglects me, but i may be nuts. For ex: several times i've told her about my cutting & suicidal intentions, she listened but never brought it up agian. and she still knows about it, not like she forgot. Her cure is to put me on Welbutrin, & you are supposed to watch kids on that, but she doesn't. So, in the end i feel like crap but can't tell her cause she nothing productive happens. & she seems to spend all her time w/ her friend & worrying about her. She is often doing errands, or more likely at her friends, not home. She seems to freak over her friend and herself, & away when i need help. So i feel lonely, jealous, and resentful. am i selfish? Plz help, not sympathy

Answer 1

It sounds like your mom doesn't know what to do with the situation, neither she realises how bad it is. You need her attention and it is her responcibility to give it to you. In the end - you're right - if you feel neglected that pretty much means you are neglected or ignored. She doesn't realize that you need more than just meds. She probably feels that she's doing her job, so in her world, she's doesn't think she's neglecting you. You need to get though to her somehow.

There is such option as family therapy. You can ask to go to a councellor together with your mom. You can tell your mom in front of the councellor how you feel. Councellor will help to make sure that your mom hears you.

Another possibility is telling a relative how you feel. Maybe a relative can explain it to her that you need more than just meds.

Answer 2

I feel your mother is worrying to much about her friends and herself and not seeing what is really important.Have you told her exactly how you are feeling inside?Shes not taking your problems seriously.I think in some way your mother does care about you,but these people are on her mind aswell and that kinda distracts most people.Is your mum a solo mother?If she is she needs her space aswell.Maybe she is just to occupied and has to much on her mind she isnt that loving towards you.I feel because you are like this she is in some way neglecting you and spending more time with her friend then she is with you.

Sit her down tell her how you feel about this hole situation,or tell her when she isnt so busy,or cooking.Even though shes your mother i dont see why she can ever be replaced.She brought you into this world and all you have to do is take that step and tell her how you feel.It isnt easy,but sometime down the road you will eventually tell her.Or else this will become a problem till you move out.

Answer 3

I dont feel mom is neglecting you i think she is hiding from the situation.She may be afraid of the outcome.Medication may not always be the answer.You need to seek some professional help.It is a good thing.I am the mother of a 14 year old who felt the same way.I went to counseling and now I am able to communicate with her on a daily basis.P)arents who run away from their kids problems are usually having their own issues and cant handle their kids problems.Maybe if you have a close friend who has a mom will let you talk to her.
Good Luck

Answer 4

You need to reach out to a professional counsellor in your community, not rely on drugs. You also should read the cautions for the drug below. Your mom loves you, she just is seemingly not able to communicate. She may be overloaded. You need to do this now, dont let anything hold you back. Then after you have spoken to a counsellor, discuss with the cousellor how to get your mom involved. You could ask that you should try to talk to your mom first so that you be sure to do it respectfully and especially so your mom doesn't feel ambushed or that you went behind her back. Do it with love and do it lovingly. Before you talk to her prepare her the day before by asking her for a few minutes one on one, to speak with her in private, then when you do, first tell her how much you love her, and that you need to improve the situation for both of you as far as communication is concerned. You cannot wait forever for your mom to respond to your situation you need to take the initiative. Also for other child family members you need to take the initiative. If you have younger siblings you can take action and talk to them and tell them how much you care. Tell them how much you and your mom loves them, and that with the extra help of a counsellor, everything is going to be ok. Then follow through and dont ever give up. Pray to God because He is real and He helps. Ask God to reveal to you what you need to do. You may find a great counsellor at a local Christian church. Dont be afraid, reach out and ask, check your phone book, the internet for a pastor or counsellor in your area.



Important Safety Information About WELLBUTRIN XL
WELLBUTRIN XL is not for everyone. There is a risk of seizure with WELLBUTRIN XL which increases with higher doses. Taking more than 450 mg/day increases the chance of serious side effects. Don’t use it if you’ve had a seizure or eating disorder, or if you abruptly stop using alcohol or sedatives. Don’t take with MAOIs, or medicines that contain bupropion. When used with a nicotine patch or alone, there is a risk of increased blood pressure, sometimes severe. To reduce risk of serious side effects, tell your doctor if you have liver or kidney problems. Other side effects may include weight loss, dry mouth, nausea, difficulty sleeping, dizziness, or sore throat.

WELLBUTRIN XL is approved only for adults 18 years and over. In some children and teens, antidepressants increase suicidal thoughts or actions. Whether or not you are taking antidepressants, you or your family should call the doctor right away if you have worsening depression, thoughts of suicide, or sudden or severe changes in mood or behavior, especially at the beginning of treatment or after a change in dose (see Patient Information: What is important information I should know and share with my family about taking antidepressants?).

Answer 5

Family counseling.