How young is too young?
I am 32, single, have 2 kids........I recently aquired a "crush". He is 21. I keep telling him I am too old....he thinks I am not...says he prefers "older" women.
I am not looking for a "booty call"....I want something substantial & he says he can give that to me...but I am not sure if he is ready for that. He says he wants to Marry & have kids one day, but I cant have kids any longer...
I do like him for who he is....but I feel he is just too young...
My friends say to give it a try...he sounds sincere.....
Any Suggestions?
2006-10-07 21:51:38 · 18 answers · asked by mysticfairy74 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would definately go for it! If he says that he's ready to take on that kind of responsibility...let him have a shot! If you care for him enough to put him in your life and around your two children (especially if he's admitted to that kind of commitment) it doesn't seem like a bad deal. Honestly when people say that age is just a number...it really is just a number. People can mature at all types of ages and some people reach their biological clock sooner than others. Maybe it's his time and he wants to give you his all...however, you have to be fully willing and not jump into this with a "I think..." or... "What if..." or even a "I dunno..." You should have a positive outlook upon this situation because many women in this situation do not get a chance like yours. : )
-Nab and Amb
2006-10-07 21:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by think_tink86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might think that he wants to be in a rel w/ someone older, but is he responsible enough ? Don't make a decision right away. Go on a few dates... see how it goes w/ the kids... If the kids & him can't/won't get along, then it's not even worth it. Who comes first, him or your kids ? If your kids & him get along fine & like each other, then maybe things can work out. I think that this may be the biggest obstacle...esp if one is even 10 (you didn't say their ages).
2006-10-08 05:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 33 and my boyfriend is 28 not as big an age difference but i was like look you are as young as my brother at first things were weird but once we got past the numbers our relationship has become something that never expected. start out slow see how things go it may be just what you are looking for.
2006-10-08 04:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by njredgrl32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advise: stay away. 21 is too young to handle your situation. it's purely a fantasy thing for him at this age, trust me.
i won't say this if you were 42 and he were 31. but think of it too.. you'd be 42 and he'd be 31.. with lots of young things around..
i suggest you look for a more mature, responsible guy, especially that you have 2 kids.
2006-10-08 04:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure first of all that hes just not horney!! second of all give it a chance allot of young men are seeking older women with children because they feel asurance, i did the same but the girl i met up with had 3 children & we broke up because she felt she was still in love with ex...
2006-10-08 04:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Middle-aged guys (especially the rich ones) date young sexy 20-25 yr old girls all the time. How is it different in your case? Mind you this could be tough for your kids to adjust
2006-10-08 04:59:11 · answer #6 · answered by hugh_cheung 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a shot, if he really is sincere then you should be able to tell pretty quickly, let him know that you are unable to have kids ne more. If he isnt sincere then break it off. Then and there.
2006-10-08 04:54:30 · answer #7 · answered by Don A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say give it a try too cause.. how would you ever find out if he's sincere or not if you don't give him a chance to prove it? it's okay to start with a new relationship and if he's mature enough to handle a family situation.. then let him... i'd say give him time first... you don't have to decide now...
g'luck!
2006-10-08 04:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by ju5sm3h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes love is a leap of faith if you are both consenting adults than there isn't any problems. But if you can't get over the age difference than maybe it isn't somthing you should do. Listen to your heart it knows
2006-10-08 04:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by Redhead with love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
21 dude
2006-10-08 04:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by falcon_t33444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋