Alright well due to some finacial issues i have had to recently move away from my gf. We have had are fair share of issues. She is convinced that i am going to cheat on her, or that when i move back i wont have feelings for her. She is also having bad dreams everynight about us in the future, me cheating on her, me beating her and things like that. What does this mean. I have never cheated on her or ne other gf's. I love her more than anything in the world and im workin my *** off to save enough money to move back. What should i do?
2006-10-07 21:36:06 · 10 answers · asked by Don A 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all you said that she's having dreams of you cheating on her. You need to let her know that dreaming of your partner/spouse cheating on you is actually a sign that they love you and are loyal...you should tell her that. It's part of a dream analysis. Also, let her know your true feelings (if you want to make it last) and how you're saving money to make it work. Let her know that her paranoia may lead to driving you away, and obviously she does not want that. Have her take a positive outlook on things..this just might be a hard time for her because of the move and financial situations (I'm going through this right now). Just keep the relationship positive and let her know how you're working towards seeing her again.
-Nab and Amb.
2006-10-07 21:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by think_tink86 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel like Im standing in your girls shoes. I am very insecure myself, my bf treats me well but I am convinced that he would leave me one day. I have nightmares about the girl he once liked and I am convinced he still has feelings for her. Yes, 2 years after they stopped talking to each other. The thing is, we are in a long distance relationship and we meet each other only for 2 months each year (when hes on vacation), hes a student in Russia. But when hes near me (back for the 2 months), I hardly worry about anything, its when hes far that I get all insecure and traumatised. What I am saying is when you move back, your constant patience and love will help her get her confidence back. It takes time and hella lot patience and love. Dont leave her just because she is insecure, you'll break her spirit even more...
All the best and don't worry too much...Just shower her with messages, emails, send her flowers and cards, call her. Just show her you care and show the love you have inside....
2006-10-07 23:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has probably had issues in past relationships. She is very VERY insecure and her fears are there because she cares about you.
She needs constant reassurance, and I know it is a lot of work, but once her trust rises, she will need reassurance less and less.
Vocalize your feelings for her as often as you think of it.
Don't punish her for being hurt in the past. She just doesn't have the proper coping skills. She will grow out of it, the longer you two are together, and the longer you show her that you are trustworthy, the more those feelings will fade away.
2006-10-07 21:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by amber ɹəqɯɐ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 00:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your girlfriend is very insecure. Perhaps you need to show her some romance, send her a poem, flowers or chocolates and give her lots of attention through phone calls and visits when you can. Make sure you tell her often how much you miss her and love her and she should believe you.
2006-10-07 21:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by meday 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she still feels inscure from a past reltainship what you need to do is try to make her feel safe for example if the place you moved to is nt very far from where she lives try visting her at weekends, try calling her a very cople of hours sending cards and flowers i think this will help.
2006-10-07 21:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by blackrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be insecure. You just have to constantly tell her how you love her and your actions will prove that.
2006-10-07 21:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by amy n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't win in that situation.
either she moves to where you are or you completely break off contact until you are ready to return.
2006-10-07 21:41:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep telling her.
2006-10-07 21:58:21 · answer #9 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she just won't belive you then just find another girl,it's not worth the trouble,and there's other girlz out there!!!
2006-10-07 21:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋