What's your opinion in the advantages in romance of being open and honest vs. playing cat-and-mouse?

Question

So I have been having feelings for this guy for the last 3 months, and they have been building, but I saw him yesterday at a concert with a girlfriend whom he was very affectionate with. I no longer feel safe allowing my feelings for him to build, nor do I understand why he didn't tell about his GF before. I think he is partially a private person, but also, it is obvious that he has gone out of the way to leave her out of the picture. Also, I thought that he has been flirting with me, but he also seems to have a bit of guilt, so maybe he is just trying to make everyone happy. I wish I knew the answers to all of these questions and could let go of them, but I don't know if I am really prepared to fold on the game. In a sense, I believe that by just telling him about my feelings when he is clearly not in a space to reciprocate them with any conviction is going to end the game, but also, keeping silent and playing chmaber music with him will prolong the process and uncertainty.

Answer 1

BE HONEST if you like him tell him and say if your with so-in-so OK but I thought you were single as you didn't speak about her but hay that's cool I wish you both the best and then listen to his answer and do what comes next walk away or right into his arms which ever way it end up going

Answer 2

Forget him. He wasn't aboveboard with you and who knows how many other secrets he's keeping. Find an open and honest guy who will love you like crazy and not lead you on.

Answer 3

Both are very specialized field and requires a lot of practice.

Answer 4

Are you sure that is his girlfriend.maybe just a date

Answer 5

you should tell all of this to him. if he doesn't want to talk about it then you should just forget about him.