my boyrfiend and I just got back today from a 4 day vacation spending 24/7 together, tonight I was going to sleep at his apt. but when I was there his downstairs neighbor decided to play loud music and be loud and drunk with some people so I couldn't sleep. By 3 am I asked my boyfriend to just call this guy throwing the party and to maybe quiet down considering the time. He said he wouldn't because he didn't want to have a bad realtionship with his neighbor. So I am pissed and tired and can't sleep and my bf doesnt seem to care so I just keep doing childish things to make sure he can't sleep either. Well anyway it escalated to where I was gathering ALL of my stuff and demanding a check for his half of the CC bill for our vacation. He said he wasn't going to write it yet and that he would mail it to me and just to piss him off before I was leaving I picked up his electric guitar and told him I was taking it for collateral, he freaked and said he was going to choke me if I did (cont)
2006-10-07 21:15:57 · 12 answers · asked by sleep2dream65 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and then he started to come at me and put his hands around my neck. he didn't even really choke me just pushed down a little. I quickly gave him his guitar and stormed out. So I know that I sound like a stupid girl but I have been in a position where someone was pushing my buttons so much and driving me over the edge that I was ready to become violent. So did I in a way escalate this situation and bring it on myself. I think that if I just told him he was an asshole for not telling his friend to quiet down that I would just be at his house right now sleeping. So am I in denial that he abused me or am I just being realistic and taking responsibility for the consequences of my erractic and childish behavior?
2006-10-07 21:19:50 · update #1
For those of you who seem to need this info...I am 26 and we have been together over a year and a half...he also threw a ceiling fixture at me...oh and I am taking responsibility for being childish and trying to keep him awake, I already said that. Don't answer if you don't read the whole question.
2006-10-07 21:25:12 · update #2
You did something really stupid, but he has no right to do that to you. The fact that he was so quick to threaten you is kind of scary. Physical abuse is usually the last symptom of an abusive relationship - if he's overly jealous, controlling or has isolated you from friends or family, then chances are you're in an abusive relationship... BUT if this was a one off thing and he's always treated you with respect, then don't worry, just apologise to each other!
2006-10-07 21:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by shortcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like its time to ditch this fella... how long you been with him... sound like he has some issues... first of all the neighbor has got to go... friends or not.... that is why they dont live in the same apartment... and as for him choking you that would be the clincher.... you just need to be done with him... he may get more violent in the future...no you didnt escalate think you were in the wright but you need to get away from him...
2006-10-07 21:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by elihueagns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried earplugs? Earmuffs? Or anonymously calling the cops? Think of all the possibilities and options before go on a bitchy rampage against your boyfriend, when you really want to give hell to the nieghbor downstairs.
P.S. Don't EVER touch a man's guitar!
2006-10-07 21:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by 1/6,833,020,409 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
put some cotton in your ears or something - instead being such a nag. or go home
you could have got your money in the morning - if that 's what you really wanted. If its not what you wanted then why did you go there?
Oh ya! you were just "trying to piss him off". that's what enemies are for.
As for his guitar, he was trying to protect his property
learning to communicate takes experience
2006-10-07 21:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by MamaJupe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm ... he did nothing to you. He didn't want to get into it with a group of drunk men. I don't blame him. You're kinda selfish in this matter. Just say sorry and get over it.
Women can do certain things men cannot do. Women talking to drunk men is a lot different than men doing it in ANY situation. :)
2006-10-07 21:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by lailah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not have waited until 3 am
you should have gone home long before that.
picking up his guitar was a mistake but I think it's excusable because you were really tired and grumpy.
2006-10-07 21:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your behaviour was a pathetic cry for attention..I'm pissed off just for reading this!
2006-10-07 21:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one question...Did you two sign a contract stating that he would pay for his half of the vacation?
2006-10-07 21:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being an idiot,,,do you really think you are not in the wrong?..Well at least you are being honest about it..
2006-10-07 21:18:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you two? Twelve? Thirteen maybe?
2006-10-07 21:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋