Why am I having trouble making the right choice?

Question

Its been 4 years 4 months and 2 weeks since my last and only girlfriend, back when I was only 18. Since then I've gone though more than my fair share of problems, but one thing always remained there same, I was never able to find someone else. After years of being alone having not be my choice, I've decided to do the right thing, and make it my way of life. My question is why am I having so much trouble doing this? I'm slowly starting not to care, but it almost feels sometimes that I actually want someone, which is stupid, because there is no one out there (not only because thats the way the world is, but because I will no longer let there be). I don't understand why after years of being alone I'm having so much trouble tiring to stop caring, its the right thing to do, so how can I stop caring?

I think you people arent understanding that I do not want another person in my life, ever. My question is not asking people about how I can go find my soulmate or whatever crap that people belive in, but why I have so much trouble at times making the right choice, and how to fix it.

For those of you that seem to not actually get the question, perhaps you could see why no one bothered to answer my last question http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AmzzOEQxGEw98.CWfSnK4crsy6IX?qid=20061006194854AAndXaW

You people don't understand I DON'T WANT ANYONE ELSE EVER!

Answer 1

It human nature you're fighting against and it's a powerful thing. But i agree with you, i don't think that there is anyone out there for me either and I'm at an age where that is a bit weird that I haven't found "someone". Do I care? Yes, I don't know why either because I am quiet happy with my life. I have loads of friends and I'm not exactly without a sex life.

I don't think you can stop caring without becomming bitter and twisted and i dont think anyone really wants to be that.

I say f@#k it all have fun and live your life as best you can.

This probably doesn't help but I with you on how you feel, sorry I cant give you a real answer,

And PM piss off would ya

Answer 2

It's hard because you still care about people. Unfortunately, cutting people out of your life rarely makes you stop wanting them. In some cases, it actually makes you want them more. You can stop caring by doing one of two things: 1) exactly what you are doing - continuing to make the choice not to see people, and "freeze" yourself to women, or you can 2) go after that person who really makes you doubt your choice, and date her for a short while. More likely than not, you two will break up, and you will have even better reinforcement not to date again. Or else, maybe you will decide that the "right" choice isn't necessarily to stop caring. One or the other. Good luck.

Answer 3

listen, i totally feel u man, its been a year since my last girlfriend, and like ive stopped giving a **** about girls, but the more i do it, the more it haunts me. i tried believe me, but its like going against ur nature, ur meant to find someone else and be with them, and ive been searching for a girl... a special girl, a girl that is not special, anyone i dont care anymore i just dont want to be alone. and im not a ugly guy and my personality is good, and i still dont kno why i cant find anyone to be in a relationship with. How can you stop caring? you cant, u will always care, and the best thing to do is accept it, because then it only hurts more. A solution? im still battling it out, and i wish i can give you one, and when i figure out ill make sure ur the first one to know. good luck with everything

Answer 4

You can not stop caring because it is natural and normal to desire the company, affection and love of another. It's the most wonderful feeling in the world and worthy of pursuit. There is someone special out there for you. You just have to find her.
Even the journey can be pleasant, as you meet new and interesting people. Just drop very quickly the ones who are not suited for you. That way, you are getting closer finding the right one. Good luck.

Answer 5

honey honey honey!!! u r only 22!!
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i know guys like that , besides it takes at least 3 years to get over the love (if ever)
some1 will enter ur life at the right time, its better to wait for the right one, rather than jump in too quick
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Answer 6

It's human nature to care. Sounds like you're being a little stubborn about this. I spent longer than 4 years between boyfriends. It doesn't mean that there is no one out there for you it means that you have not met that person yet. Don't write off the idea because it's not happening as fast as you would like it to. Good luck, your young, give it more time.

Answer 7

Wow! 22 yrs old and already giving up on love?
Go water skiing...go fishing...take trips in your car without a destination. Have fun with your friends. Start a new hobby. Join a book club.
Learn how to do odd jobs around the house that you'll need to do to show youre future wife how handy you are. Youre so young! Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life. Start living it and keep on caring! :)

Answer 8

he's 30 and you're 19?! Hon, this is too lots of an age distinction. A chook and a fish might fall in love yet the place might they make a house? You have been purely a sprint "fling" for him. 9 years is a lot to throw away. in certainty he in all opportunities are high high lacking his ex. yet whilst she has a shred of dignity she would be ready to not take him decrease back and then he will come crawling decrease back to you. So i assume you ought to ask your self whether you're comfortable with being his 2d selection?

Answer 9

Forcing yourself to stop caring is not the right thing to do, and your feelings of doubt are an indication that you know it.
You are still very young and will undoubtedly go through a few more relationships before you find "the one". She is out there for you, trust me. You just can't let every disappointment, every unreturned phone call, every cancelled date sour you on the whole idea.

Answer 10

Sad story I'm alone but it was my choice. Why I stay this way - if I can have what I want and deserved, better be this way.
If I care yes but this is not the happy way if I'll be really very happy of my privet life.
You care to - you just don't feel it right.