It bothers me that my GF has had sex with more people than I have. 1 i know was dirty, ugly, and just disgusting. It really makes me lose alot of respect for her and makes me think shes not so smart after all. Anybody else bothered by a simular problem?
2006-10-07 19:55:22 · 13 answers · asked by 2nice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
is it immature to ask a question or start cursing at someone online?
2006-10-07 20:06:02 · update #1
You should only tell one another how many partners you've each had, when both of you are mature enough to handle the answers. When one of them is immature and judgemental like you, then that information should be left in the past. If you're going to have this reaction and feel this way towards her, then you are much better ending the relationship and finding a woman who is just as "pure" and "untouched" as you are. Good luck with that one.
2006-10-07 20:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son felt the same way,he approached me and spoke on this issue.I am going to tell you what i told him,that at the beginning of their relationship,he felt like there was no other than her,he adored her every move,then she blurted out on evening about the other mates she had actually been with prior before him.He then became upset and didn't consider her the same.However,what one does in their past,is just that,their past,just like yours.A guy can have alot of partners and it is fine,but if a woman has the same or more than a man,she is considered no good.That is not how you should look or feel about her.Think about what drawled you to this person to begin with,has she changed towards you from since you both got involved?Sounds like she has a great deal of respect for you to let you into her past of life!Most woman would lie about it,or say it is none of your affair on what i did before you.There is different ways to look at this!The only thing that should matter to you is her honesty and faithfulness towards you.You might just be the one that turned her life into something special for her.I would say that she did that for you as well at the beginning,so my question is why stop ?Why mess up the chance of a wonderful life with this person?If you have stopped having respect for her over her past,then you never had it to begin with.I really hope you both can work things out,i also hope that your stubbornness about this issue doesn't cause you to be blind sited so that your ship won't sail right by you,you might not be able to get it back.Best wishes and Good Luck to you,and remember the past is and should stay in the past!Who cares what either one of you did then,it is now that matters and counts!
2006-10-07 20:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that's an immature way of thinking, that question has never come up between my fiance and I! I bet if it did he wouldn't lose any respect for me if I had more as long as I've never had any disgusting diseases than that would matter!!! He knows a lot about my past that would be a lot less attractive than more partners in the sack. Get a Grip and Get over yourself, if it was that easy for you to lose respect for her than you never had any for her! You're not dating her past you're dating what or who you see before you today!! So don't make her out to be anything less than a smarter girl now than what she was back then! but to be dating a guy as judgmental as you are then she may not be too smart at all!!!
2006-10-07 20:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by EriksSweetheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its something that shouldn't make any difference, What ever has happened in the past before you met each other should stay there, If you are that bothered about it then you will have to be very careful if you want your relationship to last as it will always be a point that u feel bitter about. If you want to stay with her you will have to get over it, all depends how much she means to you
2006-10-07 20:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by stud200_uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many people your girlfriend has been with before she met you is really none of your business. I suggest that you get your head unstuck from your pompous, self-righteous *** and focus on the future, rather than the past. If you can't get past this infantile hang-up of comparing past lovers, do your girlfriend a favour and break up with her so she can find someone normal.
2006-10-07 20:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had similar stiuations. It will kind of make you think a little. But if you really like her, just let it go. You can take comfort in the fact that she is with you now. Also that you KNOW she has had worse, so hopefully she will appreciate you that much more.
2006-10-07 20:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would change the 2nice to 2stupid.
the past is dead and gone,the future new and unborn,,the only time is now.
you are dumb to worry about something that happened before your time,it poses no threat to you,unless you are to immature to realize she had a life before she met you.sounds like you are.for if you loved her,it would not bother you.
2006-10-07 20:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by jgmafb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe theres one more thing you don't know about him...ahem. If you can't handle it now you def. won't get use to it. How you gonna go to work and not have something crazy on your mind? How many anyways?
2006-10-07 20:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by baddaboombaddabing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her you shouldn't worry so much about her past.Everyone does stuff their not proud of,everyone makes mistakes.Haven't you?
2006-10-07 20:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt worry about her past if you love her. she didnt sleep with all of them in the same day did she.
2006-10-07 19:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by ya girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋