I had an affair with a married man 4 years ago,we had a son,now exactly in his 4 years, the man's wife just learned 2 weeks ago that his husband has a son to me,the wife, slapped me, undressed me,and pulled my hair. publicly,she leave me black and blue.and she told me that she will going to kill my son. I already reported the incident to the police. but she still threatening me and my son. ( i dont have an affair right now to her husband cause I already have a new relationship and we are planning to get married)
2006-10-07 19:37:18 · 15 answers · asked by angelruth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you reported it then there is nothing you can do. Police don't take threats seriously. Getting a restraining order won't help. If a person has it in their head to harm someone then a little piece of paper won't stop them. They will go to jail sure, but not after they have done the job they set out to do. What I would suggest other than moving is getting a security alarm a guard dog maybe and a weapon of protection. No one should threaten a child. I would kill for my child. She sounds like one mentally ill person if she is threatening to kill an innocent 4 year old child. She needs help. She should be equally mad at her unfaithful husband anyways.
P.S...some mace/pepper spray would be good too.
I
speak from personal experienced...
2006-10-07 19:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by mystique_dragon4 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Get a restraining order/order of protection... Also get a lawyer an start sueing her butt... You hit her in the purse for a few G’s a couple of time she get the picture.. Also put pressure on the cops and the prosecutor.. If they do nothing FILE suit against them as well.. This goes on WAY to much an 9 times out of 10 it lazy cops, prosecutors an court systems.. Then it escalates someone get killed and it ALL over the news.. But thats to late.. It’s the WHOLE reason I chucked my badge at our mayor an told him to STUFF IT!!! Good luck an stay safe...
PS..Im with mystique, on the spray it is VERY effective. But a lot of the time if the person is on drugs or drunk it does not work... ALSO you NEED to spray your self with it so you know the effect.. If you unleash that stuff it WILL get you to.. So you need to know what to expect.. Also if she try to sue latter. And plays the it SO pain full you can testify its not that you have sprayed your self, understand its effect an felt the force was necessary at the time.. :) Also check your LOCAL laws some areas its illegal to carry..
PEOPLE: A VICTIM does NOT “press charges” Once a complaint is filed with the Police, it is turned over to the prosecutors. It is then THERE choice what action is taken and its out of the victims hands.. Hence why I suggest the above actions.. The fact that a person can “press charges” is a misconception an urban legend.. The only thing a person can do for a court resolution is file Civil Cases against the offender or use it to pressure the authorities. Or as stated take out SOME TYPE of protection order. There called different things in different areas..
2006-10-07 19:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by D L 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to file charges, not just a report. Attacking you was an assault and battery and the the threats against you child are also a criminal offense. You also need to get an order of protection whichj forbids this woman from coming within a certain distance of you and your child.
You also need to petition family court to alter your custody agreement only allowing this man supervised visits with the child for safety's sake. You may also want to consult an atrtorney. Depending on the level of threat, you may need to move to a shelter or safehouse to protect your child.
I'm sorry a child has to suffer as a result of you making the incredibly stupid choice of fooling around with a married man and not having the common sense to use birth control. In some states, this woman can actually sue you for alienation of affections for your affair. Since this man is married and you are not, you could even lose custody of your child. You need legal help, professional help, and you need it now,.
2006-10-07 19:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
As a lawyer to be, I can tell you that you need to go to your local courthouse's domestic violence clinic and file a restraining order against this woman - however you also need to show how much of a danger this woman is to you and your son to get the restraining order and you must get the police involved. If she violates the restraining order, then she can be put into jail by the police. Good luck!
2006-10-07 19:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by Asia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you have a child everything you do effects your child. But no one should EVER,EVER may i repeat EVER threaten a child. You did the right thing by reporting it to the police. Move on with this new relationship and just keep reporting the threatening to the police. But from one women to another women sleeping with a married man is bad enough but when you have a child together it brings so much more in to it. But it gives her no right to take it out on your child.
2006-10-07 19:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by sweetsnickers 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get an order of protection against her. If she violates it, then have her arrested.
You can not go back and undo what has been done. But it is up to you to keep your son safe, along with yourself.
2006-10-08 00:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by nnett64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell the police that you want an "order of protection" for you & your son.That will keep her away from you & your son & if she does not listen,,then she will go to jail.
2006-10-07 19:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
you need to contact the authorities and get a restraining order at least, if she doesn't go to jail. take pics of your bruises and what not in case you have to go court and they want to see what she did.
the most important thing is that you do everything possible (and legally) to protect your son.
2006-10-07 19:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I strongly agree with PATRICIA G F.
Filing charges is one thing but you need to PRESS them. She'll be arrested and everything will now be on record. You NEED a paper trail. You NEED photos of the bruises/wounds. You NEED witnesses names & addresses. You NEED as much documentation as possible. Above all, you NEED to protect your child.
2006-10-07 21:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by Larry F 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a restraining order, and anytime she approaches you or your son, calls you, makes threats, etc. you inform the police immediately.
2006-10-07 19:41:05 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋