What kind of volunteer opportunities or other free activities would attract 23-35 yr old females?

Question

Have spent enough time in the local Yahoo romance chat rooms to know that most people who spend much time in there either make their money from sex or have serious mental problems. Not a good environment to meet decent, nice people. Bars & clubs, same deal. Library (best place to meet nerds, right?) people don't even make eye contact. Coffee shops, same. Book stores, same. Outdoor meetings or get-togethers (at parks or in city centers), mostly drug-abusing freaks. Volunteer opportunities are an idea, but aren't the majority of volunteers retired?? How to find the 23-35 yr old age group, in a non-threatening, safe social environment? Tried church singles groups, mostly older or undesirable people there too. Tried support groups, mostly people who focus too much on their problems and who like to dump their problems on other people. Tried saying hi to neighbors, if they even say hi back they say it in a way that makes it clear they don't want to talk. Any new ideas??

Answer 1

I understand where your coming from. I'm 25, and looking for a lady myself, and I have tried some things that you brought up. I believe that it will be very hard to meet someone in church cause the women are stricter then other normal women. You either have to be good looking, or make the big bucks in the church. Show off if your 600.00 suit. The bars suck too cause the women smoke, and the library and coffee shops sucks cause they are snobby. Do you have a college degree? I'm currently in community college, and going to transfer to a university and I WILL find someone there. If your not in college, go and take a class. Maybe something will come of that.

Answer 2

Kat i gave you a great suggestion. Even if you have to pay for it I would strongly recommend taking modern, salsa, or hip hop dance lessons, depending on your flavor. I've taken all three and let me tell ya, I've met so many women taking salsa lessons it's not even funny! But more important than that is the women in my classes want a practice partner so we'd all go to clubs in a group and we'd all practice. Talk about instant social proof!

Secondly, if you have solid game you can meet women anywhere. I've picked up women at gas stations, laundry mats, bowling alleys, super markets, concerts, play, and on the street, and that's just a small list. Women get approached by so many creepy and desperate men who just want to bed them that by simply approaching a woman WITHOUT being creepy or needy and with confidence, already sets you apart.

Start talking to more strangers; both men and women. If you only talk to women then it's more obvious that you just want to pick up on them. Also come from a place of genuine intent. Use a variety of openers such as asking her for an opinion, complimenting her on her jewelry, ask her what's she studying, etc. The key here is if that you're coming from the heart, but in an assertive and confident manner (and not like a WIMP), then your genuine (but not needy) interest will be far more effective. And the thing is you want to attract a woman that is cool and laidback, not self-centered and full of ego.

Then again we all attract what we are.......so if you want to date a particular kind of woman, then first look in the mirror and see what you can do to augment what you already have. For example, if you have poor body language, such as slouching and crossing your arms all the time, then it's time to straighten up and look women in the eyes. Also keep your arms to your side in a relaxed, laid back manner (watch Tom Cruise in this MI movies, it's a good example of body language of a confident, Alpha Male).and dont' put them in your pockets where u might be tempted to play with your keys or change.

Some great free activities are simply finding a main street at a close by city and walking and just meeting people. Coffee shops in most major cities attract women of all ages. Find out what kinds of singles clubs are in your city or near by cities. They are becoming more and more popular because people have such busy lives.

How many singles groups did you try at your church? I have 2 friends that met their wives this way. Call around to different churches and call ahead and find out the age brackets of their singles groups.

Now when you said hi to your neighbors what time of day is it? You're assuming that they don't want to talk to you...are you 100% sure? Just go say "hi" or "what's up?": and just walk over and introduce yourself. Just based on the TONE of your post and the choice of words that you use, you strike me as a guy who is not very confident and you have a tendency to lean toward the negative. I'm sure this comes off in the way you make eye contact, vocal projection, and body language.

It sounds like you need to work on the different aspects of your game and there are at least 7 basic skill sets you need to learn of which learning how to "open", then make the approach, elminating low status body language, establishing your leadership, knowing when and how to touch a woman, etc.

I recommend talking to at least one woman a day that you don't know and keep doing it until you are up to 25 per week. Studies have shown that if you can talk to 25 strangers per week, then within 30 days your game will have improved by more than 400%.

Rod

Answer 3

Try dance lessons! Salsa, tango, swing, whatever. In Chicago we have lots of free dance lessons, and it's usually a very friendly and easygoing atmosphere.

Answer 4

Homeless shelters--habitat for humanity stuff---do research in your community and see what's going on with volunteer work...good luck

Answer 5

A hospital.

Answer 6

dog walker for the ASPCA