There is this guy at work that I thought was cute. When I first saw him, I couldn't help but stare at him. It wasn't a creepy stare, OK, but a long gaze. Anyway, I don't know how it came off, but I did feel embarrased by it so I started to ignore him thereafter. Everytime we passed by the hall, I acted as though he wasn't there. It's strange though despite the fact I ignore him, he seems to act nervous around me. He consciously avoids eye contact with me when I pass by him. People have told me I'm cute and pretty, and that it can be intimidating towards some guys. Is he just trying to tell me he's not interested? Or he is just shy? I haven't actually talked to the guy and can't think of a reasonable way to approach him. I wish I could read minds.....
2006-10-07 19:20:29 · 16 answers · asked by iloveprojectrunway 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is what I think:
First of all, he may have felt uncomfortable because of the fact that you were staring at him, in this "long gaze." Guys are in tune as to who may like them or not. That doesn't mean he doesn't like you.
Have you ever tried to talk to him before you did that whole long gaze thing or no? I suggest you approach him and talk to him. Don't ignore him. If he is avoiding eye contact with you or acting nervous, it's simply because you looked at him that way, he got the hint and doesn't know what to say to you. It isn't negative or positive. Just go up to him and talk to him. If he doesn't talk to you or doesn't seem interested, move on. Take a risk and you never know what the outcome is. Everything is a lesson in life - so if he responds to you in a positive way, great! If he has a girlfriend and you find that out in the long run, then be friends with him.
Hope this makes sense somewhat. Good luck with the guy!
2006-10-07 19:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by Asia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well after your high and mighty act, if he's anything like me, he probably feels intimidated by you, and is trying to pretend he's not interested in you because of it. If you sense that he's nervous, that's probably why. I'm sure you partly chose to ignore him after the eye contact because you didn't want to seem desperate or easy and you knew it would make him more interested in you if you made yourself harder to approach for a while. Chances are if he seems to find it hard to avoid looking at you, he really *wants* to look at you, because he finds you very attractive. Perhaps someone more outgoing than myself can give you advice about how to approach him?
2006-10-07 19:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by Frustrated Yahoo user 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very best flirting is eye contact. If you want him to make a move on you, be open. Don't pretend he doesn't exist. I've made that mistake SOOO Many times. It's just a waste of time. I'm not saying throw yourself at him, just, look at him and smile when he talks. Eye contact. Good luck.
2006-10-07 19:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get the impression he is shy. You did mention you stared at him and I am guessing he is thinking why did she stare at me? Was it cause she finds me attractive or did she notice the bright red pimple on my face that day? Say hi to him, smile, and the only thing other that I can recommend is be yourself. He will either like you for being you or it is as well he moves on because no one needs to change for any other person. If you are going to change do it to improve yourself for YOU.
2006-10-07 19:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 00:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, but that doesn't exist for most. You need to break the ice, just introduce yourself with a smile, and chat.
The reason is that you want to meet him, but you don't need to tell him, just smile and introduce yourself, and ask if he would like to go for a cup of coffee. Give him a little info about you, and if he's shy, ask Qs about him. He'll warm up!
2006-10-07 19:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you say that you have avoiding eye contact with him, I guess he is the shy type. You can approach him or invite him for an outing.
2006-10-07 19:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by freeall_freeme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be interested in you and just not ready to approach you. I think it isn't good that people think whether someone likes you or not is based on what you look like, my question is what kind of person are you on the inside??
2006-10-07 19:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is intimiated by you....or just shy in general. Since you work together, take break when he does, and strike up a conversation. What have ya got to loose? How can you havea crush on him, if ya dont even know him???
2006-10-07 19:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ignored the guy... what else would he think? this poor boy is probably head over heels for you, but you "act as though he wasn't there." that's not cool.
2006-10-07 19:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋